Irina Khakamada: three lectures at “Rain. The world of trainings - life lessons from Irina Khakamada Khakamada lectures trainings

Arkhangelsk, Tolyatti, Penza, Samara, Donetsk, Surgut - this is an incomplete list of cities that Irina Khakamada will visit in the very near future. This woman, who was difficult to imagine outside of her political career, has long since changed the course of her life. Having become disillusioned with the authorities, Irina did not lose herself; rather, on the contrary, she found a calling and helps other people do the same. She writes books, releases a clothing line, hosts television and radio programs, and gives master classes. Thanks to her, thousands of people received an answer to the question: how to achieve harmony. Combining Eastern philosophy, Western business approaches and Russian culture, Khakamada invented her own recipe, which she willingly shares with others.

On January 17, live on the site, Irina Khakamada told readers about what it means to be a postfeminist, how to overcome depression, about her attitude to marriage, politics, education and other aspects of public life.

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:36 01/17/2011

Irina Khakamada: Hello! Conference presenter: Irina, you are now very actively engaged in reading master classes, trainings, and publishing books. When you left your political career, was it easy for you to join other fields? Irina Khakamada: This is not easy at all, because politics was life for me. Of course, I remain a politician internally in the sense of wanting to analyze what is happening around me. Whether I like it or not, I look at the world through the eyes of a politician, not a layman. That’s why I write blogs on Ekho Moskvy, on LiveJournal, but without feedback, I don’t want to read anything in response, I’ve heard enough of this for 14 years in politics. I just give my analysis and that's it. It was very difficult, in fact, I decided to leave because there were no longer circumstances for any advancement of me to power. The idea of ​​being a politician is the idea of ​​coming to power and implementing your model. I realized that this was impossible for many reasons, including not only the objective political situation, but also my gender and nationality. I got a "ceiling". Khakamada will not be the President of Russia; no one will allow her to do so, and above all, the people themselves. I pulled out everything I could, realized that my supporters were only 5 million people, maybe ten, so I left. I am not a person of process, but of result. Therefore, depression... Imagine, you are on television from morning to evening, in debates, they call you every 5 minutes, everyone needs you: the party, parliament, the press, you are a vice speaker, a presidential candidate. Then - once! Silence. This is the opposition - everyone is shying away, everyone is afraid. You are in a glass chamber, everyone sees you, but they are afraid to even say: “Hello!” - this is an interesting situation. I went to the dacha, turned off the phones, although no one called me, and began to think about what I should do. A month later I realized that I had nothing to do, they wouldn’t let me do anything. I had many offers before. As soon as it happened, people blushed and apologized. I realized that this is an informal “wolf ticket”: that is, no one forbids you anything, but there is some kind of shadow that it is better not to mess with you. This may not be a movement from above - it is self-insurance from below. I realized that I need to do something that depends only on me. I started writing a book, a novel, “Love Outside the Game or the Story of a Political Suicide.” In fact, this book is autobiographical, it has drama, love, personal life. I described the type of strong person who defeats the system, not by fighting it, but by calmly leaving it and believing that there is a future. When you do something that the universe likes, it throws you luck. My first book, “SEX in Big Politics,” was a success; the AST publishing house wanted to buy the rights to me in order to release a second book, also about politics. I said no. There will be no more politics in the form in which it was! There will be a romance." To this they informed me that they did not need a novel from a politician, no one would read it. Then I announced that there would be no book. Then, after all, they agreed to read what my novel was about. I wrote a synopsis of the script for the film, which then turned into a work, which I simply submitted for reading, and three days later they gave it the go-ahead. I started writing a book. My advice is that once you start doing something, the main thing is not to stay too long. Money leads to money, business leads to business. I started writing, calmed down, lived in the country, went into creativity, my heroes began to live with me - it’s wildly interesting. I wrote nicely because I knew what I was writing about. At school I won awards for my essays. Then they called me from City Class and offered to read the “Success” master class for a small audience of 50 people. To which I first replied: “What kind of success can we talk about: we lost the elections in 2003, I lost the presidential candidate elections.” I was told that there are different concepts of success - there is a formal career, but there is a sense of the person himself, his personality. “You are still associated with a successful person who even gets into trouble only because he really wants it,” they told me. I did it, I liked it, it went further, it became wider, cooler, everything moved away and turned into a huge professional activity not only in Russia, but also in the CIS countries. Conference presenter: Irina, you give trainings not only in Moscow, but also in other cities, is there a difference in the audiences? Irina Khakamada: The difference is huge. The St. Petersburg audience, regardless of age and social status, is interested in the subtle philosophy and psychology of human behavior. They are existentialists, deep in themselves. The Moscow public is interested in clean business technology. They demand to quickly tell you how to develop intuition, what tools are needed for this. If you are reading in Kazan, then you need to take into account that this is a very rich region, it feels cooler than Moscow. It seems that since Islam is developed, there will be modest questions, but in fact they hit back, provoke, showing how tough they are. If you read on the Volga, people there are relaxed, very interesting, and creative. If you read in Novosibirsk, Irkutsk, you come across the fact that people are very deep, but they are so northern, they look and are silent, you cannot understand whether they like it or not, their emotions are closed. In this region, people are courageous, accustomed to living in harsh conditions, and it is harder to work with them than with the audience from Cheboksary. Conference presenter: I assume that you have a main idea that runs like a red thread no matter where you read the master class, is that so? Irina Khakamada: The main thing is to convey to the audience that the concept of success, leadership and happiness is not associated with money or a career. This thing is much simpler, easier, you can do nothing and be successful, money will pour into your hands, but achieving this is very difficult. You need to create a successful world inside, find a way to yourself. The youth and the older generation - those people who come to me - have the same problem - they are dissatisfied with something, they don’t know what they want, they don’t have a dream, and therefore they don’t have energy. They always say: “I would do something, but something might interfere with me; you can’t do anything in our country.” When I ask what you would like to do, the answer is: “Something to have money.” I teach people how to find their way to themselves. Believe me, as soon as you find it, energy will appear, you will not be afraid of anything, you will go ahead, and then everything will work out. Conference presenter: Are you satisfied with what you have now? Irina Khakamada: Yes. I think it's written all over my face. I think freelancing is hard. I'm used to discipline. Freelancing is when you have a busy day today, and then no one needs you for two days. I suddenly discovered in myself, with all my external social sociability, an amazing quality - I am beautiful without doing anything. I don’t do anything so much, and I don’t have such a complex about this... I am a claustophile, I can sit in the country where the sun will shine, there will be glass trees, I will go out to see how beautiful it is, go back into the house and that’s it. I can not leave the house for two days, what I do is not clear to me. I can watch a movie for days, read a book, or I can do nothing at all, I can stupidly “walk with buttons”, smoke and drink green tea, but I will feel so good. Conference presenter: Everything you described can be called in one word – “self-sufficiency.” You feel good with yourself. What does this teach? You didn’t immediately become like this either, did you? There are millions of books, I haven’t read them. I’m not even interested in philosophy; my husband does that. I don’t know the theory of Taoism, Lao Tzu, Buddhism, I haven’t read karmic, esoteric books... Many of my friends are into this. When they tell me about this, I feel like a fool. But they say that I am not a fool, I intuitively, at the level of instincts, do the same. Then I decided to check: is what I am reading repeated or not? Naturally, ideas are repeated, there are no new ones, the ancients discovered everything. But I have more indirect similarities with Taoism.

Question: Lady 10:04 12/01/2011

Irina, how do you feel about housewives and can such women live happily, in your opinion?

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Of course, housewives can be professionals, geniuses. I have friends like this. They build their household so beautifully: well-mannered children, everything is so neat, you enter their house and feel happiness. A woman in such a house is a queen. The only thing is that there is danger: there are crises, illnesses, and it may happen that you will be left alone. If you can earn money at home or raise other people's children, then there is no problem. If you are a super housewife, then you still need to master a certain profession just in case, so that later in any situation you can earn yourself the same quality of life.

website Conference presenter 19:04 01/17/2011

What is your relationship with the household? You give the impression of a business woman.

Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:04 01/17/2011

I am different. I have an advantage (I teach this too) - you can’t be flat - then it’s not interesting. Put on the image of a business woman - and you become a business woman everywhere. It’s useful to sometimes be stupid, unbusinesslike, change these roles, then you suddenly open up on the other side: your husband is interested, and your children, and everyone else. I love to cook, I stand at the stove for hours - it’s relaxation and meditation at the same time. I enjoy choosing products at the market and in stores, I know what I am buying. No one knows how to buy food from my loved ones like I do. All creative people cook very well. The doors of my house are always open. Come! My birthday is an event when my doors are open, 100-150 people pour in, I don’t know how they fit in my house.

Question: OlgeTsa 10:32 12/01/2011

I don’t understand, has Mrs. Khakamada completely left politics or is she taking a temporary break from it?

Question: Valery Zlygostev 11:03 12/01/2011

It’s a pity they removed my verse, it was on topic. But there is still a question. How to combine “drive, thrill and career” (in relation to Russia), it’s like that joke about “socks, nipples, vices”. I sincerely bow my knee to you With such a surname, staying afloat (in politics) for so long is worthy of respect. Perhaps this is the drive for you? With sincere respect, Valery.

Question: Arishka 14:44 12/01/2011

Ira, you have always been for me, in a sense, the standard of how to dress, but recently I saw you in the GQ program, and to put it mildly, I was surprised by your style:((do you always dress like this now? It seems to me that a woman should look like all 100, even if she went to take out the trash or am I mistaken? But I really like you all:)

Question: Paul 16:54 01/12/2011

Hello Irina. I have this question: - Over the past 20 years in the history of Russia, has there been a period that even slightly resembles democracy? And one more thing: Is the electorate necessary in the current conditions?

Question: I want to know 09:06 13/01/2011

Irina, how do you feel about open relationships in marriage?

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It’s normal if the partners have agreed on this, and they don’t “eat each other’s brains.”

Question: Alexandra Penza 10:46 13/01/2011

Hello, do you go to the polls or, like most Russians, do you save your time because you know that the outcome is so clear and your vote will not decide anything? What is your attitude towards the Unified State Exam? Thanks for answers. Alexandra.

Question: Mila 12:09 01/13/2011

How is happiness according to Khakamada?

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:13 01/17/2011

Happiness is when everything your mind requires and everything your heart desires is in perfect harmony.

Question: Sofya Nikolaevna 13:26 13/01/2011

Hello, Irina, I have two questions for you: 1) Why have you been wearing short hair for many years? 2) Are there honest people in politics? Thanks in advance for your answer.

Question: Rustam Zufarov 14:21 13/01/2011

Irina, good afternoon! Which periods of your life do you consider and why: a) the most interesting; b) the most fruitful; c) the most unfortunate. Thank you.

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:06 01/17/2011

I consider my youth to be the most unsuccessful. I was lazy and didn’t go to the institute I wanted. I wanted to go to the Japanese department at Moscow State University, didn’t get enough points, and “moved to Lumumba.” True, she later returned and defended her studies at Moscow State University, but still, years passed. I didn’t learn the required number of foreign languages, which would have made my life easier later, because establishing communication in a brilliant foreign language is much easier than in a “clumsy” one. Now I have also improved all this, but there is still a certain barrier that does not allow me to build emotional communication at the level at which I can do it in Russian. It's my fault. My most fruitful life is politics. I got everything from politics: reputation, values, fighting character, I made a career, I created a brand, I passed about 5-6 laws, according to which the whole country still lives. This is a law on the non-profit sector; all civil society exists thanks to the law on non-profit organizations. This is a law on simplified taxation and many others. We exempted young guys from the army if they had infants. This is a presumption of innocence of the taxpayer when he does not have to prove his innocence. This is a law on notaries, which gave enormous freedom. This is a weakening of punishment for mild crimes. There was so much going on, so this time is the most fruitful. The most interesting period of my life, oddly enough, is now. I am absolutely free, I do what I want, I have converted my brand into many projects: as a TV presenter on the Amusement Park channel, as my master classes, in my book “The Tao of Life”, I give lectures - I like it, at the same time I no longer work hard as before, from morning to night.

Question: Oksana PUSHKINA))) 16:09 01/13/2011

Irina, you give the impression of a very strong and tough woman; how often do you allow yourself such weakness as female tears?

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:04 01/17/2011

Unfortunately, I don't know how to cry. This is bad because if a woman cries, she relieves stress. This will be the most terrible situation when I will start to cry, but I don’t want to talk about them. I don’t know how to cry, maybe it’s due to Japanese eyes... Japanese women don’t cry at all.

Question: nat-lu1 23:11 01/13/2011

Irina, thank you for the wonderful book. What is happiness? What do you think about enlightenment? How do you think about death? What do you think will happen to your soul after death? I lived in India for a long time and practiced Buddhism in the Tibetan tradition, including receiving a lot of teachings from the Dalai Lama. And I realized that Buddhism is only one way of interpreting the truth, and the teaching about the work of consciousness there is very imperfect, no matter how everyone in the world refers to Tibetan esotericism. That the claims of Buddhists to individual knowledge, possession of the truth are not justified. You only need to rely on yourself. What do you think about spiritual quests, how do you plan your life after death?

Question: Anna 02:15 01/14/2011

Smart, bright, resilient, who has not lost her sense of humor after the political arena... do you think that at the age of 40, is it possible to try to change your life and not lose?!

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 18:53 01/17/2011

At any age you can start a new life and not lose. There is a wonderful film “The Shadow Samurai” - this is a movie about a good samurai who falls in love with a woman, saves her from an oppressive family, using the right of a samurai. This is a romantic story, the director of which began making his films at the age of 75. Now he is popular and has received international awards, including European ones. You can start living at any age, but only if you know what you want. There must be a dream, if you cannot find it, then you need to take several steps to finally come to yourself. This is what I teach. I won’t give you dreams, but I can teach you, with the help of certain technologies, from my own experience, how to come to harmony with yourself and reveal what was hidden by an unsuccessful childhood, school, not very good teachers, incorrect relationships with parents - something because of which a person cannot self-realize. At 40 years old this is easy to do; 40 years old for a woman is the beginning of life.

website Conference presenter 18:54 01/17/2011

What age people come to your trainings more often?

Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 18:54 01/17/2011

When I look at the audience, I am taken aback - from 18 to 60. There are few adults, their percentage is 10%, mostly people from 25 to 40 - a seeking audience. Young people rarely come. I also read MBA for students at the Financial Academy.

Question: Alena Vladimirovna 10:52 14/01/2011

Ira, during your political career, were you and your family often threatened? How do you think our state could be governed by a woman? By the way, are you a feminist by any chance?

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They threatened often and continue to do so now.

Who are you bothering now?

I don't know. Famous people always interfere with someone, especially if they have charisma. The stronger your charisma, the more people are divided into those who respect you and those who don’t. That’s why they threatened often, but you have to live with it somehow, you start to get used to it. If you are afraid of everything, then you won’t even go outside. Security won't help anyway, so you live... They threatened all the time, from the moment I began my political activities, and during my presidential campaign, and now - it’s not clear at all... I’m not a feminist, I’m a post-feminist. In my book The Tao of Life, I explain how feminists differ from postfeminists. Feminists fight for their rights with the male world, down to the details: she will not allow her coat to be given, the door to be opened, to be paid for in a cafe, etc. A postfeminist understands that a woman is not equal to a man, she is different. If he is stronger, let him carry the suitcase; if it pleases me, let them open the door for me; if I approach the table, let the man stand until I sit down. I am a lady, a lady, a woman, but at the same time I am self-sufficient, I earn money on my own, I like my creativity, I am self-realized. I do not consider a man as a breadwinner, a source of protection. I need a man for pleasure, just as a man needs a woman. I'll always enjoy it, and if it's otherwise bad, I won't pay attention to it, because I don't want to see what I don't like.

website Conference presenter 19:11 01/17/2011

How do you think our state could be governed by a woman?

Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:11 01/17/2011

Anyone can rule our state.

Question: Gleb 12:16 14/01/2011

Irina, what do you think about education reform?

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:09 01/17/2011

I believe that we are not undergoing any reform. It seems to me that we are “merging” our education. I'm especially worried about school. There is a lot of talk, all this has come down to a unified state exam, but education does not fully realize individualism, does not help develop a creative, creative attitude to life in a child. Thanks to individual schools, directors, and teachers, miracles happen, but these are not the rules. Although, on the other hand, I asked my friends, in England children study without a break for up to 18 hours, and there it is compulsory to enter school at 5.5 years old, children have 11-12 lessons every day. Although in England education is free. I know that in terms of the quality of knowledge, we have always been number one, compared to other countries, and now we have generally flown somewhere - everything is quite bad.

Question: Astafieva Olga 14:42 14/01/2011

I bow before you, I’m proud that there are women like you in Russia, why not try again to become, if not the first, then at least one of the main people in the Government, because you have enormous authority?

Question: 007 15:56 01/14/2011

Irina, I don’t want to ask you a serious question, you are women with a good sense of humor, as it seems to me, so what would you do if you suddenly became a man for one day? I hope you smiled after reading this question :)

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Khakamada Irina Mutsuovna 19:13 01/17/2011

I would make love with the most beautiful woman, and then I would try to become president for one day, because being a man, it is easier to do this in Russia.

Question: NatalyaD 20:02 01/14/2011

Irina, you have been dealing with problems and creating conditions for the development of small businesses for quite a long time. Probably, after you, there is no one else in the government to do this. Because all the recently adopted laws are aimed at driving business into the shadows and destroying it. In construction, so-called self-regulation was introduced to replace the still valid licenses. I have a micro-firm, we do construction design. To obtain permission to work, you need to join an SRO, paying hundreds of thousands of rubles. Fulfill a number of completely meaningless conditions and only then the board will decide whether the company is worthy of admission. This is so contrary to common sense, this is such a total injustice, a year ago there was a feeling of surrealism, because this cannot happen in principle. Our business is taken away from us for our money. And this is federal law! What is your opinion regarding the introduction of SROs in construction and other sectors of the economy? What chance does small business have to survive today? No matter who you talk to, everyone is in a state of total depression. And these are educated, entrepreneurial people who have experience as managers and know how to work themselves.