Unexpected pregnancy. Unexpected pregnancy. Is it a blessing or a punishment

Pregnancy enters your dreams in two main ways. The first is dreams about yourself during pregnancy, the second is that your real pregnancy is an IMPACT EVENT and sets its specific content.

Anyone can become pregnant in a dream: this possibility is not limited by either gender or age barriers.

Generally speaking, pregnancy serves as a symbol of creativity, puberty, or wealth. However, there are many situations that require additional interpretation.

If you are a young woman dreaming of pregnancy, but at the same time having no real intention of becoming pregnant, such a dream may indicate that you are in the stage of primary transition to a new stage of introspection.

One of the ARCHETYPES according to JUNG is the archetype of a parent with a prevailing instinct to preserve the family.

Seeing yourself involved in an activity in this position means observing your exit from the CHILD stage and transition to the adult level.

If you are sexually active, but have no intention of getting pregnant, such a dream can be a harmonious accompaniment to your monthly cycle.

In connection with such a dream, ALARMS like “what if” may arise, which require comprehension and resolution.

A man who sees himself pregnant in a dream is often in a situation where his masculinity or participation in population reproduction is in question.

Such doubts often come to mind for men who see themselves as less active in this regard than they would like to be.

The dream acts as compensation, highlighting the creative side of their PERSONALITY.

Pregnant men not only give birth to children, but also something that somehow justifies their mission in this world.

The fact of pregnancy in real life can lead to various events in dreams.

These events can range in nature from the most brutal to the ridiculous.

This is not surprising, since in real life pregnancy is a source of a whole range of sensations - from excitement to euphoria.

Other types of dreams that occur during pregnancy may relate to adultery, DEATH of a partner, chronic health problems, loss of pregnancy due to accident or miscarriage, birth defects in the child, twins, triplets, etc., as well as increased fertility, where conception and gestation occur more often and regardless of protection.

Dreams about infidelity or the death of a partner often arise as a response to feelings of insecurity due to changes in appearance or the frequency and nature of sexual relations during pregnancy.

Dreams about chronic health problems and defects in a child belong to the category of negative WILL-EXECUTION and are also a result of the anxiety experienced by women in this position.

Dreams of multiple births and repeated pregnancies are the most difficult.

Sometimes, at a certain stage, pregnancy overwhelms a woman. This is a consequence of concerns about the ability to properly cope with the role of MOTHER.

Multiple pregnancies may be a visual representation of these fears.

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Dream Interpretation - Pregnancy

Pregnancy dreams promise a better future for everyone.

For a young woman, this is a play of natural forces, a rehearsal that prepares her for real pregnancy and childbirth.

But in other cases, for people who are not concerned about this problem.

For men, such a dream foreshadows newness in work, acquisitions, and acquaintances.

Pregnancy in a dream symbolizes the development of some plans.

But the birth of a child indicates that the first step towards achieving the goal has already been taken, all you have to do is raise the child.

Bring your actions to their logical conclusion. Phenomena such as marriage, pregnancy, childbirth, death are natural for people.

But in dreams these events happen much more often than in life.

They are especially significant for the dreamer if they are not feasible or unlikely in real life.

For example, pregnancy and childbirth in a man or an elderly woman, the death of a healthy person, a wedding with a celebrity, etc.

Next to the symbol of pregnancy and childbirth there is, it would seem, their antipode - the symbol of death. Death in a dream is not the same as real death.

Dying in a dream only means getting rid of some aspect of your life, which for you is a thing of the past.

Therefore, death in a dream is also a rebirth to a new life.

And although death can be dreamed of by patients who are worried about their lives, it almost never foreshadows the end of life.

On the eve of real death, people see extremely optimistic dreams: moving to another country, flying into space, etc.

Of course, such exotic travel does not always foretell death.

Often they are followed only by significant changes or unusual life circumstances.

They say that “there should be no unwanted children.” What could this phrase mean? Does this mean that an unwanted pregnancy should be terminated? Or do you need to find the strength within yourself to accept the situation and love your child? Probably, every woman seeks the answer to this question on her own. Unfortunately, the first path is often chosen. Abortion has dire consequences for both a woman’s reproductive system and her mental health.

Let's talk about those situations when a woman, despite the undesirability of pregnancy, decides to keep it. The reasons for maintaining such a pregnancy may be different: fear of losing the opportunity to bear children due to complications after an abortion, or a direct prohibition by doctors on terminating a pregnancy based on the woman’s health characteristics, resistance from the husband and relatives, etc. But the result is important: one way or another, the woman is preparing for the birth of the baby and future motherhood. From a psychological point of view, if a woman nevertheless decides to continue the pregnancy, the situation is not hopeless, and the expectant mother is able to accept the child and ultimately say words of love to him: “It’s so good that I have you!”

4 situations when an unplanned pregnancy is scary

There are rarely situations when pregnancy is undesirable in itself: this happens only in exceptional cases of complete absence of maternal instinct. Most often, the reason for this is related circumstances.

1. Pregnancy happened at the wrong time

The most common situation is when pregnancy, in general, is desired, but not now, but “someday later.” You need to finish your studies, or climb the career ladder, or solve the housing problem, or formalize your marriage, or “take some more walks.” But you never know the reasons to postpone this event for a couple of years! But two lines on the test make themselves known, and a decision needs to be made.

Katya, 22 years old: “Pregnancy was completely inopportune: I was studying, my husband and I were not yet scheduled, and I was still too young! I cried and thought about terminating the pregnancy.

But my future husband and my parents supported me, assuring me that everything would be fine. The realization of the value of my special position came to me at a critical moment: at 11 weeks I was admitted to the hospital with the threat of termination of pregnancy. Only then did I understand: I love my baby and will not bear it if I lose him. Fortunately, everything ended well, and now I’m looking forward to our daughter being born.”

In general, this situation is the “easiest”: after surviving the initial shock and reaction of rejection, the woman remembers that she thought about having a child, even dreamed about it, albeit “theoretically”. As a rule, women manage to cope with a negative attitude on their own, most in the first month after they learned the news and decided to continue the pregnancy. Next, expectant mothers begin to rejoice and love the child. Usually the help of a psychologist in a situation of “what a bad time!” not required, the support of loved ones and your own positive attitude is enough.

2. The pregnant woman has no moral or material support

There are situations in which the birth of a baby is completely undesirable for a woman. For example, she does not have a permanent partner, there was a casual relationship, and it is almost useless to hope for the support of the child’s father. A perspective appears before the woman.

Many single mothers would not describe their pregnancy as unwanted; they say they valued the pregnancy from the very beginning and were ready to deal with life's difficulties. But, undoubtedly, a certain number of women in this situation consider pregnancy a burden. And if they decide to keep it, they will have a difficult time. An event that so unexpectedly burst into their life paints it in gray tones, and a woman may begin to blame the unborn child for many troubles.

Arina, 28 years old: “My best friend unexpectedly became pregnant after a vacation in the south. Her age was pressing on her, and she decided to keep the child. But I don't know if this is good for him. A friend blamed her pregnancy for everything, was angry about toxicosis, weight gain (“spoiled figure”), and the need to go on maternity leave. She considered the child to be the culprit of all failures, and this is a heavy burden for the baby. Of course, I’m trying to convince her, but it seems to me that I can’t do it without the help of a professional psychologist.”

Changing the situation depends on the woman herself, on her willingness to change her point of view and try to find positive things in the situation. After all, women often concentrate on the negative, i.e., on what they are losing, but don’t even think about what they are gaining. Therefore, you need to try to find the good that motherhood can give, and for this, by loving your children. In many cases, the help of a professional psychologist is necessary.

3. “I don’t want to have children, but everyone says I should.”

There are women who are not inclined towards motherhood (“You can be happy without children”), who consider motherhood to be an obstacle to their own freedom. Perhaps they would not want to get married and would carefully protect themselves from unwanted pregnancy. But these are “social” women, and the norms of society are important to them. As she gets older, it becomes more and more difficult to explain to others why she is not married and/or why she does not have children. And the relatives (husband, parents) are waiting for heirs. And so a woman decides to get pregnant, although it was planned, but, nevertheless, unwanted for her. A woman may be aware of her reluctance to have a child, or a situation may arise where this reluctance is unconscious. In the first case, it is easier to work with the problem, as with everything that “lies on the surface.” In the second case, the reluctance to have a child “undermines” the woman from the inside: pregnancy is accompanied by poor health, the expectant mother “forgets” to take the necessary medications, and is “unable” to give up bad habits.

Larisa is 35 years old, her first pregnancy was preserved, 13 weeks. She turned to the psychologist of the perinatal center on the referral of an obstetrician. In the past there were several abortions, during this pregnancy there was early toxicosis, several threats of termination with hospitalization. Larisa seemed “cold”, was reluctant to talk about pregnancy, and called the child “fetus”, citing the fact that it was more scientific. The woman was married for the second time, her first husband left her due to his reluctance to have children and abortions performed without his knowledge. The second husband did not insist on children, but the pregnancy occurred by accident, and then he showed persistence. Larisa said: “I’m giving birth for them (husband, mother), let them babysit.”

It took several months for Larisa’s coldness to decrease and her attitude towards the unborn child to become warmer, and for the desire to care for him to appear after birth.
In a “secret reluctance” situation, it is also necessary to look for the positive beginning that the birth of a child brings, to focus on what is acquired, and not on limitations. Since your relatives are eagerly awaiting the birth of a child, you need to seek support from them and try to be “infected” with their joy. And if possible, consult a psychologist!

4. Recently I wanted to, but now I don’t want to!

The situation is difficult when a pregnancy, initially desired, becomes unnecessary during its course. This usually happens when the motives for having a child were “extraneous”, not related to the value of parenthood:

• the child was needed in order to, but he still broke off the relationship;
• the child was needed to resolve the housing issue, but it became clear that he “would not help” with this;
• a child of only a certain gender was needed, but it turned out that the gender was “wrong”;
• a child was a way to show maturity, to separate from parents, but dependence on them increased even more due to the need for their participation in pregnancy and help after childbirth.

It is characteristic that in this situation the pregnancy could have been planned, although the woman should not have allowed pregnancy, guided by extraneous motives, since this almost always brings disappointment, if not during pregnancy, then after the birth of the child. Since the baby is not a goal, but only a means for the realization of some other goals, then, having “worked” in this capacity or “failed” to complete the task, he becomes unnecessary.

However, such situations are not hopeless, because the woman has the initial experience of accepting a child, albeit without much love. If pregnancy has begun to be perceived as “unnecessary” in the process, then the expectant mother needs to be helped to find new guidelines, new advantages, preferably related to the child himself and the value of motherhood.

What happens to a woman who finds out about an unplanned pregnancy?

Psychologists have found that every woman, upon learning about an unplanned pregnancy, goes through several stages of understanding the situation. Surely you recognize yourself in this description.

A surge of emotions: from surprise and joy to horror

This stage lasts from several minutes to several hours. When pregnancy is unexpected, the range of emotions is wide: from despair to joy. An unexpected pregnancy is not always unwanted, and sometimes a woman feels: although the child was a surprise, she already loves him. But if the first impulse is “I don’t need this!”, the woman experiences strong negative emotions: despair, even anger. Such emotions require release, and the woman sheds a lot of tears, which at this stage is even healing.

Marina, 24 years old: “I’m not married, I finally got a good job recently. I started dating a young man. It seemed that he was in love with me, I was also fascinated. But after several months I discovered that I was pregnant. I didn’t know what to think; a lot depended on the man’s reaction. But he didn't want to have a child. I remember the despair I felt, because it seemed to me that we had real feelings. And now I'm alone with the problem. At that time I thought of the child only as a hindrance and punishment...”

Gradual awareness of the situation

It can last from several days to three weeks. It is necessary so that a woman’s emotions, whatever they may be, subside somewhat and she can begin to reason and build her life in a new way. But the strength of feelings is still intense, although it decreases towards the end of the stage. Expectant mothers, for whom the news of a child was unexpected, need more time to believe that life-changing changes are taking place in their lives. As a rule, this stage for them is a path from disbelief (“This simply cannot be!”), through the search for confirmation that the test was wrong, to the realization: pregnancy is a fact.

Marina continues the story: “... I did tests for several days in a row, but they only confirmed the initial result. I cried for several days, trying my best to hold on in public. She didn’t tell my mother anything, because she couldn’t believe it herself yet. Of course, I could have an abortion, but something stopped me, and besides, I knew that there was still time if I made this particular decision. Ten days later, I realized that my emotions had calmed down. I decided to tell my mother about this. After oohing and aahing, my mother said: “Well, I wonder who will be a boy or a girl.” I didn’t want anyone - neither a boy nor a girl, but for some reason her words made me feel better..."

If the pregnancy is unexpected and is still perceived as unwanted, try to find support from family, friends and, above all, the child’s father (if possible). If necessary, cry, but do not drown in a stream of endless tears. Seeing that your loved ones do not perceive the birth of a child as a tragedy, it will be easier for you to look at the situation from a new point of view. Conversations with other people quickly create a sense of reality and help you start thinking about the future with hope.

A surge of new feelings

This period lasts about a month after the end of the previous stage. A woman who has realized that there is life inside her, and has experienced the first flurry of emotions, and has begun to believe that everything is really real, is imbued with new feelings. Even with a planned pregnancy, such feelings are often confusion, anxiety, and lack of self-confidence. When the pregnancy is unexpected, the uncertainty can be even greater, because the woman has to think through many issues that, during a planned pregnancy, the spouses discuss in advance, before planning begins.

In the event of an unwanted pregnancy, it is not the worries associated with ensuring the best course of pregnancy that come to the fore. The woman worries about the future, says goodbye to the picture of the future that she had before, which may be accompanied by negative emotions towards the child who “violated all plans.” At this moment, it is important to draw a new picture of the future, “writing in” the appearance of the baby there. Don't think of your previous plans as something unrealizable. A lot can be done by adjusting the timing. The first step on the path of loving your child is to stop perceiving him as a hindrance.

“... I almost decided that I would continue the pregnancy. In our family we have a negative attitude towards abortion, and I was also afraid of complications that might not allow me to get pregnant later. I did not feel love for the child, moreover, I blamed him for ruining my life. I was young, free, building a career, but I found myself quickly getting fat and of no use to anyone. It seemed to me that my prospects for the future (a successful marriage, a good job, a career) were over forever. However, one work colleague unexpectedly helped me. At work, no one knew that I was pregnant, I tried to act as usual. And one day during lunch break Masha and I got into a conversation. Her story was very similar to mine: an unexpected pregnancy, alone in a strange city, without the support of the child's father. Now her daughter was 6 years old, and I was amazed at how warmly she spoke about her.

Masha admitted that at first she also could not come to terms with the changes in life and blamed the unborn child. But love came with my daughter’s first smile. Looking at Masha, I realized: it is possible to cope with the situation by becoming a good mother and remaining a beautiful woman and a promising employee...”

Stabilization of emotions

Its onset is related to how quickly the previous stages proceeded, and indicates that the woman has begun to adapt to a new situation for herself and is ready to rebuild her life taking into account her “special” situation. Right now, new eating habits, daily routines, and a new attitude towards oneself and others are beginning to form. Even, perhaps, not yet feeling love for the child, the woman still begins to behave taking into account the “special situation”. She begins to plan her future, think about who can help her. At this stage, feelings for the child may remain at the same “cold” level, but most often “warming” occurs. The expectant mother begins to look closely at other children, imagine her child (“I won’t allow mine to behave like this”; “I’ll dress mine up too”, etc.). For many, the turning point is the beginning of the baby's period of movement.

“... So, I kept the pregnancy. Of course, I was scared of the future, because I would have to go on maternity leave, and what would I live on, even with a child? But our parents promised to support us, including financially, and our friends were ready to give away the things their children had grown out of. I remember the moment that became a turning point for me. This was not the first movement, no. It was the absence of movement at 20 weeks. That’s when I really got scared, but not for myself, but for my baby. At that moment I realized that I already loved him, but I had not allowed myself to feel it before. Fortunately, everything worked out fine. From that moment on, I became a “crazy pregnant”, and then a similar mother. Of course, there were many difficulties, but no less joys. Now that my life is settled, when my son is 5 years old, and I am married to a wonderful man, I don’t regret anything!”

To accept an unwanted pregnancy...

The situation of each woman is unique, no matter how similar they may seem at first glance. That is why there are no clear recommendations on how to accept pregnancy. Each has its own path of both hostility and love. Only the woman herself can change her own attitude towards her unborn child, and each such path is unique. We can only give extremely general recommendations.

Seek support from loved ones. Find people in your circle whose loyalty you do not doubt and who will be ready to support you. Sometimes, in especially difficult moments, you will be able to lean on your loved ones, and this will give you the determination to move on.

Concretize the image of the child. Try to imagine your baby - first as a baby, and then as an older person. Imagine how he looks at you and smiles. Imagine him saying: “Thank you, mom, that I was born. I love you, mommy". This will help you feel: inside you is a dear person, and not at all an enemy who has “ruined” your life.
Play association games. Take a piece of paper and write down all the words or phrases that you associate with the words “mother” and “baby.” Count the number of positive, negative and neutral. Let the positive ones become the basis for accepting pregnancy and future motherhood, and reflect on the negative ones and try to find a positive replacement for them.

Draw an image of the future. Take paints and paper and draw your future. This could be a concrete image, or it could just be abstract strokes. Then take a closer look, and if the drawing seems gloomy to you, take a few bright colors and finish the picture so that it becomes more joyful.

Try to be positive. Take a closer look at how parents and children communicate with each other. Talk to those who are parents. Most likely, you will hear a lot of kind words about children, about the joy that communication with them brings. Ask about difficulties and you will find out that they are completely surmountable.

Contact a psychologist. Of course, many women are able to cope on their own, but if possible, still consult a specialist. Psychologists have psychotechnologies that allow them to go through the path of acceptance faster, which is very important in a situation where not only the mother herself, but also the unborn child suffers from a negative attitude.

So, an unwanted pregnancy can become desired, and a child can become loved. Whatever the circumstances, it is the woman who has the final say as to whether the “nine months” will continue. And if a woman continues her pregnancy, then in this way she chooses life. This step already contains the potential for love and acceptance, which just needs to be allowed to unfold.

ANXIETY OF UNEXPECTED PREGNANCY.

There is confusion and confusion in the eyes of the expectant mother. How? When did it happen? Why now? So what's now? Why now? What to do now 7 How to tell your partner? What about work? And more than one hundred similar questions attack a woman’s thoughts. And in your hands is a test - and a pregnancy test. With two stripes.

B Most women are ready to give a lot to get pregnant like this - “suddenly”. They invest all their means and strength into this opportunity - both physical, moral, and material. But, as you know, a coin has two sides. And what for some will be a long-awaited and happy event, may baffle others. An unplanned pregnancy causes such a shock because a woman has many questions and all of them do not yet have an answer.

Don’t worry, it seems so to you at that moment, but as soon as the veil of the first, most exciting news about pregnancy falls, the expectant mother begins to worry about very specific questions. These are the questions we will look for answers to together with you.

LACK OF CONFIDENCE IN YOUR OWN STRENGTH

Even if pregnancy proceeds without problems and is perceived as the happiest event, the woman is overcome by fears and uncertainty. The most common fear is the fear of one’s own psychological unpreparedness for the birth of a child, responsibility for him and the lack of skills to care for a newborn. However, we hasten to reassure you: maternal instinct will take its toll. And even if the baby has already been born, and you don’t know how to, say, swaddle and don’t know how to clean the baby’s nose and ears, knowledge of these subtleties comes in the first days after birth. And this is facilitated to a large extent by the realization that the baby does not have to count on anyone’s help. This responsibility is pleasant and encourages the accumulation of experience, simply on an intuitive level.

Often a mother is not sure that she will be able to pay enough attention to the child, she will not be able to raise and devote herself completely to her baby. Dear future mothers! There is not a single person on planet Earth who knows exactly how to raise children correctly. There are, of course, many books and scientific works on this topic, but if you pay close attention, the advice in them often contradicts each other. And why? Because pedagogy, mathematical calculations, the location of stars in the sky will never replace a mother’s heart. After all, only a mother who knows a child from the first seconds of life can raise him to be a good person.

To do this, it is not at all necessary to have a higher pedagogical education. You just need to believe in yourself and love your baby. Therefore, throw away all your doubts and fears. You can handle it and be the best mom in the world!

IF YOU ALREADY HAVE A SMALL

Often a woman is terrified because at the time of pregnancy she already has a baby in her arms. This causes panic. You are afraid of not being able to cope. Will there be financial opportunities to provide for a new family member? How to cope with two kids at once, especially if the age difference is about a year? Is the body ready for a new pregnancy and other questions require an immediate answer.

But, as a rule, the answers to these questions will come a little later, when you see your baby for the first time on an ultrasound, hear the beating of a small heart, the first movements and feel the other joys of pregnancy. Then you will understand that there is nothing more important than this new life. And all difficulties can be overcome when the goal is so bright - your baby. There will definitely be funds to support the baby, because popular wisdom says: “God gave a child, God will give for a child.” Not so many material goods will really be needed for the baby.

However, let's not embellish the reality. Yes, the first 10 months, as a rule, are very difficult with two babies: Mismatch of regimes, physical fatigue of the mother, jealousy of the older child, night feedings... But already from about 10 months, babies usually play well with each other and often simply inform the mother about this what they are going to do. Well, at an older age, children of the same age are attached to each other, like twins - after all, they do not remember and do not know life alone.

WILL I STAY SLIMMER?

An important role in a woman’s attitude to the news of pregnancy is played by her psychological preparedness. Those who are planning a baby in advance have accepted the need to leave their career for a while, they are ready to temporarily lose their former beauty (although this is a controversial issue), and accept dietary restrictions. And for those who “unexpectedly became pregnant” all this falls out of the blue. Most expectant mothers are lost in this situation. But as mentioned above, there are no unsolvable problems. Little by little everything will settle down and a new stage of life with its joys and sorrows will improve. After all, you can work remotely, you won’t lose your beauty, and your diet during breastfeeding won’t necessarily be very strict.

And it doesn’t matter whether your pregnancy was planned or not. The important thing is that the little heart to which YOU will give LIFE beats in unison with your heart! And away with anxiety and uncertainty! If you conduct careful medical monitoring of your pregnancy, think more about your child and love him simply because he came into your life, everything will work out in the best way! And one day, in the delivery room, you will whisper, smiling: “Thank you, baby, for this surprise!”

DOCTORS SAY THAT IF PREGNANCY HAS OCCURRED, IT MEANS YOUR BODY IS READY FOR IT.

Sometimes the news of pregnancy is completely unexpected. You used protection, but contraception, with the exception of hormonal pills and surgery, does not give a 100% result. How to calm down and accept this news with joy? First of all, try not to blame yourself for the fact that the news of your pregnancy did not make you feel very happy. Even those women who consciously planned a pregnancy, even those who are being treated for infertility, experience confusion. You are an independent adult and you understand perfectly well that a child is not only happiness, but also responsibility, because you must not only give birth to a baby, but also take care of him for many years. It is this heightened sense of personal responsibility that causes your anxiety; you understand that your life will change a lot, that you have a lot to do to keep your baby healthy and happy, and this is normal, and you will definitely cope.
The second important point is the feeling of guilt: if you used contraception, therefore, you did not want this child. Don't worry, it won't hurt your baby that you didn't plan the pregnancy. The information that the baby feels all the mother’s emotions in the tummy does not mean at all that you have absolutely no right to negative feelings at all. Psychologists simply remind us that, in general, the child’s expectations should be as positive as possible.

Typical anxieties of an unexpected pregnancy.

As a rule, pregnancy is not planned for some compelling reason. However, as the experience of many women shows, most problems can be overcome and joyfully welcome the birth of a baby. Here are the main concerns of expectant mothers.

In any case, the baby should not become a hindrance for you personally. Even if life has to be built not with his biological father, but with another man. Nowadays, a child is not considered an obstacle to a new marriage. Moreover, a lot of men are happy to receive “a ready-made baby who no longer cries a lot and is already figuring things out.” Cases are also not so rare when a man marries a woman in position and raises a child as his own.

How to cope with anxiety during pregnancy.

It is not always possible to voice your worries even to yourself, and you simply experience severe stress. Here's what you can do to calm down.

• Talk to your friends who have children. Surely among them there will be those who did not plan the pregnancy, but everything turned out well. Their experience will be your support. It is possible that you or your brother and sister are also “unplanned children.”
• Try to understand that you are worried not only rationally, but also due to the fact that hormonal changes are occurring in your body, coloring what is happening in dark tones. Contact your doctor who will give you professional advice.
• Take a short vacation together with your husband (with your mother, sister - the person you can rely on after the birth of the baby) - this will help you calm down and put your feelings in order. Quite often, anxiety gets worse because you try to cope with it alone. You just need to feel the closeness of your loved one, to experience the notorious “feeling of comradeship.”
• If the weather permits, try to spend time in nature alone or in pleasant company - this helps to get into the right frame of mind.

The benefits of an unexpected pregnancy.

Try to concentrate and think about what your unexpected pregnancy has a lot of advantages. The main plus, of course, is the baby himself. Whatever hardships you have to endure, they will be forgotten quite quickly, and the baby will remain with you. Remember, in the difficult 90s of the 20th century, young mothers also could not imagine how to raise children in such conditions. But everyone remained alive, grew up, some are already studying at universities.
It is equally important that the birth of a child (especially the first) does not “dumb down a woman,” as is sometimes frightened, but reveals her creative potential and develops a creative approach to life. An active mother learns to be organized and responsible. And communication with a baby is fraught with a lot of discoveries: about the world, about yourself, about life. Remember also that a baby who is not planned is no worse than a planned one. Since he decided to be born, it means everything is fine with you, the pregnancy will go well. Think about the fact that many completely healthy women have to make efforts to get pregnant, but for you everything worked out by itself. Someone up there decided to give you a wonderful gift and a gift for your husband. And they don’t refuse such gifts!