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How about his four children? Four kids from an abandoned hostel (full release). Chief beauty hack for a mother of four children

I once read in an interview a long time ago that it is difficult with only two children - after the third, they say, you no longer notice the difference, whether there are four, five or eight. Since then, everyone has wanted to find out for sure whether this is really so. And now the answer has come. Svetlana Peretokina, a mother of four children, assures: the more children a woman has, the easier it really is for her.

“I am often asked the question: “How do you manage everything with so many children?” To be honest, this is a very strange question for me, because with three it is always easier than with one, and with four it is easier than with two. When there are many children, it is easier to organize them. It’s like in kindergarten: one eats - everyone eats, one draws - everyone draws. The difficulty arises when everyone wants to play with the same toy, but this can be dealt with.

The secret is very simple - love and trust, because elders, even if they are 3-4 years old, are already great helpers. Trust your children and praise them. They can perfectly look after the younger ones if mom needs to cook dinner or go wash, even take a shower. They are excellent helpers in both cleaning and cooking, if this process is organized in the form of a game.

Children helpers

Now Ira is already 13 years old, Nikita is 11, Misha is 5.5, and Vovik is 3 years old. Ira helps load and unload the dishwasher, hang out and collect laundry, tidy up, and vacuum once a week. Nikita cleans up her and Mishka’s room, vacuuming it and the dining room. For a whole year Nikita took Mishka from kindergarten, which was located in another area. Teddy bear is the main assistant in the kitchen. He will bring vegetables and grate them, and chop cucumbers and peppers into the salad. Vovka heals her tired mother with her smile, but she can also collect toys for herself. Our children help not only me, but also dad. Nikita knows how to chop wood, tighten screws, and hammer nails. Even Misha and Vova are great at hammering nails. When we move, my men assemble the furniture themselves and connect all the equipment. In the fall, bird feeders are made. You can always rely on children! True, it all depends on the parents.

Children in the kitchen

Older children can prepare something simple: make sandwiches, cook pasta, cocoa, jacket potatoes, dumplings, they can fry eggs, omelettes, croutons, cook compote, cut salad. In general, they won’t go hungry and they can feed the kids. This is very important because I work and go on business trips to other parts of the country once every two weeks. I arrive tired, and the help of my children becomes very important. If I need to quickly cook something, the guys peel the vegetables and set the table. Everyone wants to participate: someone lays out the tablecloth, someone arranges plates, cutlery, and napkins. At a picnic, they don’t sit idle either - with dad they light the grill, cook meat, fry bread on the grill. I never interfere in their barbecue affairs, there is DAD there, and he is in charge.

Children and active recreation

From childhood, we teach children to be responsible for each other, that elders should take care of the weak, regardless of whether they are an elderly person or a small child. When we go on hikes as a family, each older one backs up the younger ones. Thus, four pairs of eyes are watching Misha, and five are watching Vova. My children and I have traveled almost all of Moldova; we’ve been to Old Orhei, Tipova, and Saharna countless times. Everywhere, children, even toddlers, took part in conquering the peaks: some in a sling, and some with their legs. Now the younger ones are already grown up, so we spend the whole summer riding bicycles, walking, playing badminton, frisbee, collecting something, collecting things, swimming in the pool.

Why is it harder with two than with four?

I won’t say what was harder when there were only two children, because I take life’s difficulties lightly - it’s part of life. But what has become easier? This is a better question, and I will answer it. Previously, in the family I was a cook, a teacher, an organizer - whatever I was, and I simply did not have enough time for many things. And now my children have reduced many of my worries. Irisha is studying languages with Nikita. Nikita is doing Lego with Misha and Vova. If you organize them, then they have a great time without their mother. I get a lot done without harming my children. The main thing is that, amid the daily bustle, I find personal time for each of them. Misha and I play Russian Lotto and Snake. With Vova we build castles from cubes and read books. Nikita and I hug and talk. Ira and I discuss all sorts of topics and do handicrafts. We also do a lot together, it unites and unites. So everything became simpler, more fun and more soulful. And if with two children I was still interested in someone’s opinion, now I’m only interested in the opinion and needs of my family, because everything else is superficial.

To be or not to have many children?

To be honest, I don’t encourage having so many children, it’s my husband and I’s choice. We dreamed of four kids, so God sent them to us. There is never silence in our house, except when everyone is sleeping. If we are not sewing, we are gluing, singing songs, dancing, learning lessons, playing the piano, cutting paper, assembling modules, embroidering, cooking, laughing, kissing, hugging, saying kind words, and sometimes swearing. Anything can happen in our home, and yet God’s grace lives in it.

But there are different situations. If you are a mother and you really want to have many children, discuss this with your husband. There are families in which the father is not at all ready to have many children or devote a lot of attention and time to the children. And if girls need a mother more, a mother is the main example for them, then boys need a father, and if he is not there or he does not want to spend time with his sons, it is better not to take risks. After all, it depends on us what kind of people our children will grow up to be. And don’t forget about one more aspect - we live in Moldova. Our training has actually been paid for a long time. At schools and kindergartens there are all kinds of fees, most clubs are paid. And if you have four children, you will have to shell out a pretty decent amount for their education. So my advice is: weigh the pros and cons. But remember that if you take a risk and are not afraid, incredible happiness awaits you!”

Which is easier: with two children or with four? was last modified: October 23rd, 2015 by admin

With the advent of children, our life becomes... not quite ours. We begin to live more meaningfully and correctly, we become serious and caring. Someone completely devotes himself to household chores, while forgetting about himself, his husband and the rest of the world. Someone gets used to the role of a mother so much that, even after raising a child, they continue to take care of him endlessly.

I want to do two things. The first is to dispel the myth that a child is born only to be cared for, fed, treated and taught. You need to let him be himself, with just a little guidance and help until a certain time. And our unrealized dreams (I didn’t become a figure skater - let my daughter become) need to be left alone.

And second: to show that being a mother is not “horror, I can’t cope with one thing,” but great happiness! Of course, you need to work hard, organize yourself and always be on your toes. But happiness is worth it. I'm sure of this.

I want to help you gain self-confidence, be an energetic, slim, athletic mother. Become an example for your children in everything, learn to be their closest friend and at the same time maintain the line that should be present between children and parents. That is, no one has canceled respect! And in general, I am a supporter of regime and discipline, but combined with my mother’s love and affection. Something like this.

Four children: why and how we cope

I am a financier by education. A few years ago, I was skipping up the career ladder of one of the banks, not imagining such an unexpected turn of fate and not at all planning to give birth to four. But! I always wanted to have children, even long before marriage. And definitely not one. In addition, I am an ardent opponent of abortion, so now and in the future I do not renounce it.

Where to start... I'll start from the end, that is, from the present time. Now we have two sons, 9 and 6 years old, and two one-and-a-half-year-old twin daughters. Would you say a lot? No. Paradoxically, with the advent of girls, my husband and I clearly understood: you can’t have too many children!

I will answer any questions you may have right away.

Yes, we are believers, but in moderation (that is, completely ordinary people trying to live in such a way that there is no shame), not to such an extent when faith overrides everything around, including living and financial conditions, and families live ten to fifty sq. m.

No, we are not going to give birth endlessly and “produce poverty,” but to the best of our ability we want to raise and raise children with dignity.

Interesting fact. Most people, when they meet our family or visit us, the first question they ask is how am I coping. Apparently, having four children suggests something incredible. But after a while they say: in the process of communication it seems to them that coping with children is so easy that they wouldn’t mind having four! Why? You will find the answers right now.

In order to establish a more or less decent existence for our “modest” family (we do not take the financial side of the issue into account, we proceed from the budget of the average family), the following conditions are needed, in my experience.

Routine or daily routine

This point is the first and perhaps the most important. And it doesn’t matter how many children you currently have. If you get used to the regime with one child, then with the advent of new children it will be much easier for you to organize yourself.

For example, our routine during the holidays is as follows:

7:00-7:15 rise, then morning procedures, preparing breakfast.

8:00-8:30 breakfast.

Then football training for the older children, and free time for the little ones.

10:00-12:00 the kids sleep outside, at this time the boys return from training and... eat again

The little ones come back from the street and also eat.

After lunch everyone can play together.

At about 15 o'clock the boys sit down for homework (yes, homework during the holidays), and the little ones play by themselves in the playpen or with adults.

After 4 p.m., we put our daughters to bed again, but if it’s hot, it’s not outside, but at home, and the guys have a pool at that time. Before the pool and bedtime, everyone can have a snack again.

We return home after swimming at about 17:30, relax, eat again, take the girls and go for a walk together at 19:00. We walk until 20:30, and then have water treatments and lights out at 21:00.

During school, schoolchildren's routine, of course, changes. In babies, it changes as they grow: for example, there is a transition to one nap during the day. But regardless of the time of year, we always stick to it, thanks to which it is not difficult for us, for example, to do homework during the holidays or go to bed at the same time.

Plus, I forbid boys from things like climbing through the refrigerator in search of food, eating sweets whenever they want. And it works, although sometimes I have to repeat something more than one (dozen) times.

By the way, we have recently had no TV at home, and the children simply don’t have phones (tablets, game consoles). But they have the attention of their parents, a lot of books and board games, all kinds of transport (scooters, bicycles, strollers, etc.) and complete freedom to walk.

Au pair

This could be a nanny, a housekeeper, or a grandmother. This component usually involves additional costs (in the case of the grandmother, more moral than material), but it is worth it. Don’t think that I’m completely helpless and can’t wash, clean, or cook on my own. That's not the point. I can and, to be honest, I do this quite often, or rather constantly. But! If you save on this item, then you will never see the next item!

Our strength sooner or later ends, and so does our health after childbirth, sleepless nights and childhood illnesses. If someone can really help you, just accept that help. Believe me, you will definitely find where to apply your strength and energy if at the moment someone else washes the floor instead of you. Older children also require attention and care, not to mention a husband.

Time for yourself, that is, personal freedom

Oddly enough, a mother with many children (like any mother) is also a person, and she periodically wants to have her own personal time. This point is no less serious than the previous ones, and failure to comply with it leads to serious psychological difficulties or health problems.

Imagine that any ordinary person works on weekends, but you don’t. And then the lack of even a couple of hours of personal time every day can push you to the limit. Your personal time should be spent usefully. For example, I want to do dancing or sports 2-3 times a week. Just at this time, the boys begin evening football training in the gym, to which I take them, and the girls play at home and get ready for bed with the nanny. This way I immediately get pleasure and an additional boost of energy, and it seems to me that my body is happy about it. Other days I might run in the park early in the morning after I drop the kids off at school. I don’t spend my personal time going to restaurants or shopping. I'm not interested. If it is possible and the children are in bed, I prefer a book, a movie or something else educational or for the soul. My husband too.

Multicooker, clothes dryer and other helpers

There is no point in describing this point in detail. Suffice it to say that having such things in your home will significantly save your time and make your life easier.

Homeopathy, home quartz and hardening

I hate being sick, being treated, being treated, and when children get sick, it’s generally a disaster for a large family. But what can I say, and for a small one too, on a different scale, it’s true. Therefore, I adopted the position “prevention is better than cure”, and I try to follow it...

A little about using quartz at home. I have the most common OUFB-04 (ultraviolet bactericidal irradiator) “Solnyshko”, made in Russia. The optimum ratio of price and quality. We usually use it at home during periods of seasonal exacerbation of ARVI. Just turn on the lamp for a few minutes 1-2 times during the day, 15-30 minutes per 15-30 sq. m according to the instructions. Quartz is especially good if someone has already “brought” a virus home - you can immediately destroy it. We also use it with the whole family when treating ENT organs using special attachments.

At one time, when the children were very small, she was my only salvation. Many people are skeptical about homeopathy, but for myself I realized: it is safe, and it really helps! This is especially true for infants, when the mother’s heart aches from the fact that the child needs to be given a pharmaceutical medicine that both heals and cripples... With the help of homeopathy, we got rid of dysbacteriosis, rashes, acute respiratory viral infections, prevented colds, and used it for neurological symptoms and to reduce pain when teething, and even cured my allergies during pregnancy.

After unsuccessful attempts to “treat” diathesis in my eldest son using traditional methods, I miraculously found a homeopathic doctor and entrusted my child to him. As a child, I myself had a similar problem with diathesis. Therefore, I remember my condition very well - constant medications, ointments, hospitals... Nothing helped - until my grandmother took me to the village and began treating me with herbs and feeding me natural homemade products. Gradually everything passed. This memory led me to think about homeopathy.

The most important thing is to believe in this method (of course, having first studied its essence), find a good specialist and be patient, since the treatment can be quite lengthy. The duration is perhaps the only negative. As a rule, prices for homeopathic services are no higher than prices for doctors’ services in paid clinics. And the products themselves are much cheaper than pharmacy tablets. And what's important is that kids love it, so you don't have to force them to take the pellets.

As for hardening, the simplest thing you can start with is alternating warm and cool water when bathing. The children are delighted with this! Pour over them several times and finish with cool water. Gradually, the temperature of warm water can be increased, and the temperature of cold water can be decreased. We and our children are all toughening up; the elders are already doing it on their own. By the way, we don’t wear woolen socks in winter and generally try to dress in a way that makes us comfortable, without burdening ourselves with a useless mass of sweaters and pants.

Following these simple rules will make your mother’s life much easier and will reduce the labor costs of maintaining the family. Good luck everyone!

To be continued.

Why do they always try to blame relatives? On any program, “What did you do to make your fifth cousin become a wonderful father?” etc. What does this have to do with relatives? For example, I have sooo many of them, rich and poor and beggars and drinkers, and so on... And absolutely everyone has problems. And if I start solving them, my own life will not Enough. Who will take care of my life? My children, work and home... Maybe I won’t be responsible for all my relatives.... Nonsense.!! DO NOT Shift RESPONSIBILITY, Mister PRESENTER. Ask questions specifically to the people who themselves created such conditions for own life.

Ira Koshkina

The stupid policy of this show is to blame neighbors, relatives, etc.

Marina Klunko

The pediatrician was right when she said that these assholes will destroy a good apartment in a month! And they also demand an apartment from the deputy.... Disgraceful people!

Lyubov Kulikova

And the worst thing is that these children will be taken away from them, and she will give birth to as many more! And then in 20-30 years these children will come to a similar program and will look for each other and this unlucky mother who gave birth and sent her around the world!

Pavlik Morozov

Without working they get 15 thousand, but why don’t claims against relatives include them...

Snub Nose

What nonsense, why do relatives owe someone something, what are the hosts’ claims?

Samsung Tab 7

Why should relatives be responsible and care for a clueless woman? Do they really owe her? What kind of nonsense is this?

Katyusha Katya

They attacked relatives who brought food, forced them to clean, etc. etc.... I don’t understand what relatives have to do with it...

A relative does more than enough, everyone would like to have relatives like this nearby! It was stupid to reproach her.

This may not be humane; some females need to be forcibly sterilized.

I looked at this Nastya and thought: “Who doesn’t get fucked in our country”

Klapsmühle

"I am a father, I came to take the children home." Where were you before, fucking father?

Leslie Play

There's one thing I can't understand. Why do aunt and uncle owe them anything?? A grown woman must go home herself.

Nadezhda Sobchuk

Wow! 15 thousand for a small town is a huge amount! You can live very well! Where do the services look, why don’t I control where the money is spent?? Mother and grandmother should be put on trial and let them give the money back

Marie Marie

I am always outraged by presenters and experts who accuse normal relatives of not keeping an eye on my sister and her children. And... in addition to their family, they are also obliged to create conditions for their sister and her children, make repairs for them, buy food, children's clothes and what else???? And this adult, which only gives birth, will give birth to the first man she comes across. She herself refused their help, she wants to live in her own way. Take the children, don’t pay benefits, let him live in this trash heap.

Lyubov Usova

I understand that you can live poorly and modestly, and in purity. But this is just a nightmare and horror. Give birth to children in order to live at their expense... Remove children from this family, deprive both father and mother of parental rights, and under no circumstances give children custody to grandmother. People like this don't change

About myself: Anya Markaryan, I’m 32 years old, now I teach women’s yoga, develop my new project - a chamber kindergarten for girls @_angelday_ - and write for various magazines and blogs about yoga, self-improvement, and education. I have four children - Leila (6 years old), Adam (4 years old), Yasenka (3 years old) and Aniya (8 months old).

There is an opinion that each subsequent pregnancy is more difficult than the previous one (and childbirth, on the contrary, is easier). Do you agree with him? How were your four pregnancies different from each other?

It all depends on what is meant by the phrase “difficult pregnancy.” Physically, the first one was the most memorable - with classic nausea, severe weight loss and threatening tone. It was uncomfortable, but it didn’t affect my emotional state! All pregnancies are similar to each other in how I felt - I was bringing new love into the world! I felt especially beautiful, transformed, feminine. The first pregnancy is different in itself in that it is the first: everything is exciting, interesting, and sometimes unreasonably alarming. Moreover, each of them was different from the previous one: during my first pregnancy (while expecting Leila), I designed dresses for expectant mothers, almost founded a brand of clothing for pregnant women, and listened to classical music with pleasure. The second pregnancy, when I was expecting Adam, was especially active - I actively worked in the PR department of Aldo Coppola, drove a car, listened to Lezginka at night and already intuitively felt that a boy would be born! With Yasenka, I especially fell in love with ballet, I was happy to take Leila to ballet classes for kids, in general, at that time I wanted to develop various feminine abilities in myself - I even signed up for a make-up artist school with the super-talented Dasha Kholodnykh. With our last daughter, Aniya, I was drawn to spiritual practices; it was during this period that I began teaching women’s yoga, and, by the way, pregnancy was not a hindrance for me!

Was it difficult for you to decide on a third and fourth child?

To be honest, we didn’t plan any of the kids, they choose us themselves, for which we thank them!

Five beauty products you've used every pregnancy and why?

1) Apply Styx almond oil to the skin after a morning shower and supplement body care with anti-stretch mark ampoules from Lierac. I actively used moisturizing face creams - Dr. Haushka (rose), La Mer. Of the face masks, I especially loved the Gamard moisturizing mask - after it my face was both rested and saturated with moisture!

Where did you give birth to all four children? Why did you choose these maternity hospitals/doctors?

I gave birth to my first two children in Sechenovka; very qualified staff work there, including my doctor, who took care of all 4 of my pregnancies. The main disadvantage was that everything there was not as intimate as I wanted, so on the advice of my friend Rita Koroleva, I gave birth to my two youngest daughters where she gave birth to her Margosha and Roma - in the 32nd maternity hospital, this is one of the most chamber maternity hospitals in the center of Moscow, where the balance of modern techniques and the best that is in traditional medicine is well maintained.

The main life hack and beauty hack after the first birth and after the fourth?

Life hack after the first child: when the baby is sleeping, it is better to rest yourself - sleep, meditate, do yoga; children value the attention of a rested mother than an exemplary order in the house and perfectly cooked pancakes.

Life hack after the fourth: I am developing the talent to come up with games that are interesting for three kids, and sometimes even four, to participate in. I usually use the time while they are busy without my participation to cook something tasty and healthy, to practice yoga, to relax, and then we all reunite and do something together.

Beauty hack, both after the first and after the fourth birth, is the same: in order not to be separated from the baby often and for a long time, while remaining well-groomed and beautiful, I invited beauty experts to my home (hair removal, pedicure with manicure, body massage - all these regular outings (wasting time on the road and traffic jams) have decreased). I left the time I found thanks to this trick for playing sports and dating my husband.

How do you feel about breastfeeding? If they fed you, how did you manage to cope with the zealous attitude towards this process that often arises in older children?

I am always for breastfeeding, I fed everyone - some longer, some less. It seems to me that we can talk endlessly about the benefits of breastfeeding - it is necessary not only for the baby, but also for the mother.

There was no jealousy, that’s why mom is a woman, to use her intuition, to be able to communicate with each of the kids in his love language, and also to teach them to cooperate with each other. When children feel that they are in love, they do not have anxiety and jealousy. I believe that love unites, there is no need to fight for mom’s attention, especially if mom is able to cultivate in them the desire to cooperate and be a team

The main beauty hack for a mother of four children?

Homemade beauty hack for the face - a mask with banana and avocado, for the body - use coconut milk instead of shower gel. When time allows, body massage, and ideally a bath or floating!

Which beauty salon can you go to without any problems with four children?

Since the owners of MAHASH SPA, Isaac and Inara, are themselves the parents of two active boys, the presence of children in their salon does not bother anyone. Of course, I didn’t go out with four of them; it’s better to go to the beauty salon without children - to relax and retire in silence, so that you can come back full, rested and fresh.

Which restaurant do you go to with healthy dishes on the menu?

Definitely, to our friends in Moscow-Delhi! Galya and Johan not only choose organic ingredients, all restaurant employees who are allowed to prepare food are people with a certain level of consciousness and ethics. Maybe Indian food is specific to children in some ways, but they like to watch how the guys working in the restaurant prepare food.

Three rules for time management as a mother of four?

1) Do not leave for “later” what can be done now - you never know when this “later” will come, or whether it will come at all :)

2) During the day, from time to time, set an alarm for 5-minute meditations, prayers, whatever - they unload the mind, one might say, completely restart the body’s functioning.

3) I try to wake up earlier than everyone else in order to greet them with a smile, combed hair and made bed; raising children is most effective by my own example!

What cosmetics do you use for children?

I like organic brands with a history - I bathe my children with Weleda's universal calendula remedy, and their diaper cream is the best. Not long ago, Yana Valencia introduced me to the American organic brand Babo, I fell in love with their lavender line - from time to time I ask my daughters to lend me some cream. Leila has very long hair - we can’t do without detanglers - the last time I bought organic Circleoffriends at the Swift salon, Leila is happy!

Are you traveling with four children? If so, what are the three main rules for organizing vacations that allow mom to relax (if possible)?

Last summer we were able to test a little what it was like to travel with three babies while the fourth was already in the belly. I realized for myself that:

1) from the age of 4 and older you need to stay in hotels, holiday homes, where there are other families with children: when the children are busy with new friends, the mother can calmly devote time to herself. True, the silence in such hotels is something of a fantasy.

2) don’t try to embrace the immensity in one trip: relax at the seaside, go to all the museums, and go to nightclubs with your husband. Sprinkling yourself on “everything at once” does not fill you up, but depletes you even more. Try to make the trip harmonious, focus all of yourself on one thing: you can set a specific goal, for example, during your vacation, learn to better understand and listen to each other or learn to cooperate (paint pictures together, shoot videos or cook Mediterranean dishes).

3) An assistant is necessary on such trips. Mom, nanny, friend - anyone with whom you feel comfortable, who you can trust with your children. If you are planning to stay in a hotel, choose one that has a good spa!

Three best clothing stores for children of all ages?

I really love Jacadi and Caramel, you can always find something special in Five Kids).

You are actively practicing yoga. What three arguments in favor of this type of physical activity could you name? How does yoga help you as a mother of many children?

As a mother, woman and yoga teacher, the practice allows me to keep my body in a harmonious and beautiful shape. Not all types of physical activity are useful for a woman, but it is women’s yoga that allows you to improve the body - the necessary sequence of asanas plus a competent combination of dynamics and statics allows you to include aerobic, strength and meditative parts in the practice. You can lose weight, develop beautiful muscle definition, and become more flexible using only your own body weight.

The practice of yoga continues beyond the mat - it teaches you to live in the present moment, teaches acceptance, patience, develops intuition, calms the mind and helps you be less critical of yourself and others - you must agree that any mother especially needs all these qualities.

It is important for a mother to remain a woman - in yoga there are many practices that allow you to replenish spent feminine energy, remove clamps and blocks in the body, and develop natural sexuality.

Has your relationship with your husband changed after the birth of your third and fourth children? Do you have less time for each other?

I try not to use the word “relationship”; love is closer to me. Love has become deeper and more multifaceted, each of the children teaches us something new, we open up to each other from new sides and learn from each other. At the same time, we realize how invaluable the time spent with each other is, and we are convinced that when people want to be together, they will find the opportunity for this even with 7 children. I think if we had fewer children, after almost 10 years of marriage, we would take many things for granted and for granted. I often watch couples having breakfast together, each of them immersed in a laptop or their phone. While our children are at a fragile age, they want to be with us more often, so we don’t go to the cinema together as regularly as before, we walk around Moscow at night, we don’t dance and travel as often. But every planned date, spontaneous walk or chance opportunity to be alone at night allows you to feel and see the beauty of love in the simplest things. And for me, this is the most important thing.

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