Test what's wrong with me. A simple psychological test will show you what's going on in your subconscious. A smart and handsome acquaintance whom you really like asks you out on a date. Your actions

This test (the so-called Leary questionnaire) is very popular among professional psychologists because it is easy to administer and informative. Try it for yourself.

The convenience of this test is that you can evaluate yourself. Or you can evaluate someone else. Try to evaluate yourself first, and then ask someone close to you to evaluate yourself.

Are you a person who:

1. Knows how to please.

2. Makes an impressive impression on others.

3. Knows how to manage and give orders.

4. Knows how to insist on his own.

5. Has self-esteem.

6. Independent.

7. Able to take care of himself.

8. May show indifference to a person.

9. Capable of being harsh.

10. Strict but fair.

11. Can be sincere.

12. Critical of others.

13. Likes to cry.

14. Is often sad.

15. Able to show distrust.

16. Is often disappointed.

17. Capable of being critical of oneself.

18. Able to admit when he is wrong.

19. Willingly obeys.

20. Flexible.

21. Grateful.

22. Admiring and imitative.

23. Respectful.

24. Approval seeker.

25. Capable of cooperation and mutual assistance.

26. Strives to get along with others.

27. Friendly.

28. Attentive and affectionate.

29. Delicate.

30. Encouraging.

31. Responsive to calls for help.

32. Selfless.

33. Capable of causing admiration.

34. Enjoys respect from others.

35. Has leadership talent.

36. Likes to take responsibility for a common cause.

37. Confident.

38. Businesslike, practical.

40. Competitive.

41. Steadfast and cool where necessary.

43. Relentless, but impartial.

44. Open and straightforward.

45. Does not tolerate being commanded.

46. ​​Skeptical (doubts everything).

47. It is difficult to impress him.

48. Touchy, scrupulous.

49. Easily embarrassed.

50. Unsure of yourself.

51. Compliant.

52. Modest.

53. Often resorts to the help of others.

55. Willingly accepts advice.

56. Trusting and strives to please others.

57. Always kind in his behavior.

58. Values ​​the opinions of others.

59. Sociable and easy-going.

60. Kind-hearted.

61. Kind, inspiring confidence.

62. Gentle and kind-hearted.

63. Likes to take care of others.

64. Generous.

65. Likes to give advice.

66. Gives the impression of importance.

67. Commanding and commanding.

68. Bossy.

69. Boastful.

70. Arrogant and self-righteous.

71. Thinks only about himself.

72. Sly.

73. Intolerant of the mistakes of others.

74. Calculating.

75. Frank.

76. Often unfriendly.

77. Embittered.

78. Complainant.

79. Jealous.
80. Remembers insults for a long time.

81. Prone to self-flagellation (inflicts moral suffering on himself, repenting of mistakes or misdeeds committed).

82. Shy.

83. Lack of initiative.

84. Meek.

85. Dependent, dependent.

86. Likes to obey.

87. Gives others the right to make decisions.

88. Gets into trouble easily.

89. Easily influenced by friends.

90. Ready to trust anyone.

91. Kind to everyone indiscriminately.

92. Likes everyone.

93. Forgives everything.

94. Filled with excessive sympathy.

95. Generous and tolerant of shortcomings.

96. Strives to help everyone.

97. Striving for success.

98. Expects admiration from everyone.

99. Gives orders to others.

100. Despotic.

101. Treats others with a sense of superiority.

102. Vain (arrogant desire for glory, for veneration).

103. Selfish.

104. Cold, callous.

105. Sargent, mocking.

106. Angry, cruel.

107. Often gets angry.

108. Insensitive, indifferent.

109. Grudge-bearer.

110. Imbued with the spirit of contradiction.

111. Stubborn.

112. Distrustful and suspicious.

113. Timid.

114. Shy.

115. Helpful.

116. Soft-bodied.

117. Almost doesn’t object to anyone.

118. Obsessive.

119. Loves to be looked after.

120. Overly trusting.

121. Strives to gain the favor of everyone.

122. Agrees with everyone.

123. Always friendly with everyone.

124. Loves everyone.

125. Too lenient towards others.

126. Tries to console everyone.

127. Takes care of others to the detriment of himself.

128. Spoils people with excessive kindness.

Processing the results

The entire list of questions is divided into eight equal parts (16 points each), called octants.

The number of points is calculated separately for each octant. A question circled is worth one point. Keep in mind for control that for each octant the sum of the results cannot be more than 16 points; each of the four people can answer positively to a maximum of 4 questions in the octant. The same applies to your personal results (testing yourself on the entire list of questions): from 0 to 16 points for each octant.

If the subjects (or you yourself) have read a total of less than 128 questions, then the results cannot be processed.

Depending on the number of points, you can easily determine your characteristics for each of the octants.

1st OCTANT: AUTHORITY - LEADERSHIP. With moderate scores (up to 8), you are perceived as a confident person who knows how to be a good adviser, mentor and organizer, capable of providing effective leadership of a group. With average scores (9-12 points), those around you let you know that they notice your intolerance to criticism and believe that you overestimate your abilities, showing traits of authority towards them. With high scores (above 12), those around you experience such pressure from you that they tend to evaluate it as despotism. Your desire to command and teach others in a peremptory tone, which you may not notice, extremely depresses and repels them, forces them to defend themselves and avoid contact with you.

With moderate scores (up to 8 points), you are perceived as a confident, independent person; competing with others without crossing acceptable boundaries. Average values ​​(9-12 points) mean that your independence is perceived by others as a tendency to always take an isolated position in the group, constantly opposing your special opinion to the opinion of the majority. With high scores (over 12), those around you are convinced that you are characterized by complacency, selfishness and narcissism. In your actions and deeds, you - sometimes even involuntarily - invest a sense of your own superiority over others.

With moderate scores (up to 8), in the eyes of others you may have such qualities as spontaneity, sincerity (sometimes straightforwardness), and perseverance in achieving goals. With higher scores, these qualities turn into excessive perseverance, stubbornness, unfriendliness, reaching the point of outright incontinence, excessive temper. If the result is over 12 points, then those around you are convinced of your aggressiveness.

4th OCTANT: DISTRUST - SKEPTICISM. With moderate indicators (up to 8 points), a stable image of you remains as a realistic person, critically assessing your thoughts and actions, and not inclined to change your opinion under group pressure. An increase in the total score indicates that others are beginning to notice touchiness, an increase in criticism, turning into negativism, into “denial of everything and everyone.” They see that you are unhappy with them and treat them with unreasonable suspicion (over 12 points).

5th OCTANT: HUMILITY - SHYNESS. Moderate scores (4 to 8) mean that people perceive you as a modest, shy person who tends to take on other people's responsibilities. A further increase in the sum of points indicates that you are beginning to give the impression of a person who is not only harmless, but also submissive. Over 12 points: those around you perceive an increased sense of guilt in you, and your behavior is perceived as self-deprecating.

6th OCTANT: DEPENDENCE - OBEDIENCE. Up to 8 points: others notice that you expect help and trust, recognition of your personality and abilities. Next, the feeling of your dependence on the opinions of others increases, which turns into hyper-conformity - extreme compliance to group pressure (over 12 points), reaching complete dependence on the opinion of the majority.

7th OCTANT: COOPERATION - AGREEMENT. With moderate scores, others perceive you as a person ready to cooperate with them, inclined to establish friendly relations with everyone. Over 8 points: they make you understand that compromising behavior and agreement makes you less interesting to others, and the outpouring of friendliness and the desire to emphasize your involvement in the interests of the majority (with 12 points and above) become intrusive.

8th OCTANT: RESPONSIBILITY - GENEROSITY. Acquaintances tend to approve of your willingness to help others, a developed sense of responsibility even when they become excessive (over 8 points) and are more likely to be sympathetic and condescending towards your kindness, overcommitment, and emphasized desire to forget yourself for the sake of others (over 12 points).

Note. If you received less than three points in any octant, then all of the listed characteristics are unlikely, and if the scores for all octants do not rise above four, then the data is considered unreliable: the subjects either did not want to be frank or do not know you enough. Living and communicating for decades is not a guarantee of knowing a person. To do this, you need to observe it and be interested in it. Everyone can apply the same to themselves. In addition, another person always seems simpler and more definite to us; we tend to make more unambiguous and categorical judgments about him than about our own personality.

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Sometimes our actions are based on a serious psychological conflict, which can develop into neurosis. Freud believed that neurosis is a conflict between human instincts and social norms. It manifests itself in anxiety, low self-esteem, and a feeling of insecurity.

website offers to take a simple psychological test: it will help you figure out how things are going with your psychological health.

1. An acquaintance you haven’t seen for 100 years calls you. He offers to meet in a cool restaurant and have a heart-to-heart talk. You have the last hundred in your pocket. Your actions?

A) I will answer that we can meet, but in a more affordable place: there is no extra money. Besides, he needs a meeting.

B) I agree: I can’t admit that I have less money than him. Even though we haven’t seen each other for 100 years, I can’t fall flat on my face.

C) An expensive restaurant is great: at least I’ll eat. The main thing is to move the bill to your friend on time. I wish I could remember his name.

2. You are walking down the street and hear a group behind you laughing loudly. What are your thoughts at this moment?

A) Someone must be making a great joke, since everyone is having so much fun. I need to meet my friends too.

B) It's probably above me. What's wrong with me, am I walking crookedly? Stupid sweater, I shouldn't have bought it.

C) I’ll listen: maybe I’ll take note of an interesting anecdote. What if there is someone nice there and you can meet?

3. You went out on business and no one is home. What will you think about most of the time?

A) About business, of course: where else you need to go, what else you need to buy.

B) Is the iron turned off? Are the taps turned on? What if the door was left open? We need to get home quickly before the stove explodes.

C) I will admire nature and enjoy the moment, because the world is beautiful.

4. You accidentally spilled coffee on your clothes, and ahead of you is the way home on public transport. How will you behave?

A) Calm down: there are normal, good people around, just like me. They understand everything. Spilled coffee doesn't make me worse.

B) Everyone is watching! We need to hide behind something. What a nightmare, shame and disgrace, I will never drink coffee again.

C) Great, at least I’ll buy new jeans. And I’ll leave these like this - in case I need to attract attention.

5. A smart and handsome acquaintance whom you really like asks you out on a date. Your actions?

A) I agree. It's great when you can spend time with the person you like. Maybe we have a lot in common and will make a great couple.

B) I will refuse. I am not worthy of this beauty and intelligence. I still need a promotion, courses, a new haircut and a gym membership for a year. Maybe then.

C) Cool! Everything falls into place, I see. Jeans work.

Choose which answer options you got the most - A, B or C

Option A

You have stable self-esteem, you are calm and always assess the situation reasonably. No matter what happens around you, you will make the right decision: weigh the facts, find the missing links and fix the problem.

It is not easy for others to manipulate you: you know how to protect yourself and distinguish your goals from those imposed. Continue to be “here and now”, trust yourself, move forward towards your goals: you will succeed!

To begin, grab a pen and a piece of paper to write down your answers. Don’t try too hard to analyze the questions, write what comes to mind, from the heart and soul. You can even make sketches if you want...

1. So, imagine that you are walking through the forest. You are going with someone. Who do you imagine such a walk with?
2. An animal is running not far from you. Which one exactly?
3. What happens after the forest animal looks at you?
4. Walking further through the forest, you come to a large clearing where your dream house stands. Describe its size?
5. Is there a fence around your house?
6. You enter the house, and the first room on your way is the dining room with a dining table. Describe this table and what you see around it.
7. As you leave the house through the backyard, you find a cup in the grass. What is it made of?
8. What will you do when you see this cup?
9. Walking through the backyard, you come to a pond. What is he like?
10. You need to cross this body of water and get to the opposite bank, how will you do this?

Everything you wrote above demonstrates what values ​​you have in life and how you feel about them. And also some of your problems and your subconscious perception of them.

1. As you guessed, the person next to you is the most important person in your life.
2. The size of the imaginary animal is actually how big your subconscious mind perceives your problems in life.
3. The way this meeting in the forest went is your way of reacting to problems (showing aggression, waiting and “doing nothing” or running away).
4. The size of your home is equal to the size of your ambitions. If it is excessively large, then your ambitions are prohibitively large.
5. The presence of a fence indicates your isolation. If there is no fence around your house, you are an open and sociable person who easily lets people into your territory.
6. If there are no people, flowers or food on the table or around in the dining room, it means that deep down you are unhappy.
7. A cup in the grass is your relationship with your partner. And the strength of the material is the strength of the union. For example, plastic or thin glass - your relationship is at risk. Porcelain, clay or metal - nothing threatens your union.
8. What you did with the cup characterizes your attitude towards the person from the first question.
9. The size of your backyard pond is the size of your libido, your sex drive.
10. The more wet you get when crossing this body of water, the more importance you give to sex in life.

Please note that this test is not a reflection of the situation in your life as a whole, it can give you an idea of ​​what is going on in your subconscious. As the circumstances around you change, the answers will change.

Question to a psychologist

Hello. I am 21 years old. I am currently studying abroad and I do not have the opportunity to go to a psychologist, but I feel that I have problems. I met a girl here, we’ve been living together for a year, at first everything was great, but then I started having problems, I don’t like that she dresses openly and short, I tried to talk to her about it, but she doesn’t react to it at all, she finds different excuses, in general, I’m constantly tormented by various thoughts of jealousy, I feel like I’m going crazy, I’m very attached to this person, when she flies home or I fly away, it’s like I can’t find a place for myself, I start to constantly torment myself, I know that there are places of personal space on the social network where she sits and displays her photos where different guys write comments to her, and I just can’t cope with it, I can’t pull myself together, I start asking her questions and then we fight, It happens that it comes to breaking up, but then we compare, I constantly think about her, I tried in all sorts of different ways to distract myself (I went on vacation) films, books, TV series, but on vacation I see steam and immediately remember about her and my torment begins, I have a hard time being separated from her, not from my family, I don’t have a mother, only a father with a stepmother and a very small brother, but that’s not the point, no matter what I do, I think about her all the time, but there is no such reciprocity, and this brings me even more pain, help me, how to fight all this. Before her, I met a girl, there was betrayal on her part, which was very painful. In general, thank you.

Hello Evgeniy!

I would recommend that you still find an opportunity and work with a psychologist, at least via Skype. You now have a lot of feelings, which, as it seemed to me, are confused and not very clear to you. And it would be good to recognize them, identify them and find some place for them in your life.

Bondareva Svetlana Pavlovna, psychologist Almaty

If you decide to work with a psychologist, contact us.

I can’t promise you happiness, but I can help you think about why you manage to suffer so much out of the blue.

G. Idrisov (I also work via Skype).

Hello, Evgeniy.

Once you find yourself in a situation of betrayal, now you try to protect it from yourself. It’s quite understandable, but it’s not possible to do this, either you risk encountering betrayal and enter into a relationship, or you protect yourself and don’t start a relationship at all. Another option is tyranny, when you prohibit your partner from doing this or that, but this option cannot be called a relationship.

The question is that the betrayal traumatized your psyche. Now you will not be able to organize yourself in any other way. You need to restore yourself, heal the wound. Then the relationship will become more adequate.

Kanaeva Anna, Gestalt therapist Almaty

Hello Evgeniy! Jealousy is low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. If you don’t have the opportunity to work with a psychologist, then try to start nurturing yourself, i.e. become self-sufficient. Take care of yourself: find an interesting hobby, sports, books, going out into nature, etc. When you have many interests, you will be interesting to your girlfriend too. You will have less time for bad thoughts, and besides, you will be healthy, and this is very valuable in our time. The probable psychological reason for your jealousy: perhaps you were left without a mother and therefore are unconsciously afraid of losing your girlfriend. But jealousy does not help with this!!!

All the best!

Chernysh Nadezhda Nikolaevna, psychologist in Almaty

Hello, Evgeniy. Your feeling of jealousy is a trace of a past unsuccessful love. You can read how to cope with the remaining resentment and start a new relationship in the article:. If there is anything you don’t understand, call us and we’ll figure it out together. Good luck.

Sincerely, psychologist of Almaty, Chembotaeva Bayana

Hello, Evgeniy.

Today, your girlfriend is the person closest to you. In your family, despite your relationship, you were unable to receive proper attention from your parents. Therefore, when you started building a relationship with a girl, you received everything: love, care, intimacy, dialogue, unity. You and your girlfriend are like one whole, a living organism, one breath, one pulse, one border of your common body. In order not to lose this feeling, you treat everything that connects you with thrift. Unfortunately, there is another side to this connection, you are like Siamese twins with the same circulatory system, but you have different hearts, souls and bodies. The connection between you is so strong and painful that it is similar to emotional addiction. This speaks of the fear of losing a soul mate and with it love, care, intimacy, etc. To move to another level of relationships, you need to look at your relationship from a different position, see yourself from the outside, through the eyes of other people, through the eyes of your girlfriend. How does she feel when you are jealous? Is it always love and trust? There may be other sensations. Until now, you have seen everything only from one position, from your own. But by seeing your relationship from different perspectives, you might see an opportunity to change it, improve it, find an opportunity to trust without losing the feeling of closeness. At the same time, you will have the opportunity to grow above your fears and jealousies.

Sincerely.

Tskhai Lyudmila Melsovna, psychologist Almaty

Hello, Evgeniy!

I suggest you face a not very simple fact - the girls you have met or are dating do not actually belong to you. Even when people get married and exchange rings, no one can actually guarantee that the moment will come when a partner will find another love. It is impossible to deprive a girl of the opportunity to see other men, to show herself to other men and to be able to choose - you or someone else. Otherwise, you need to be a Muslim and dress your girlfriend in a burqa.

There is always a danger of losing a loved one, but as a rule, all people want intimacy, strong relationships, and stability. And women - even more so.

This is what I can offer you against your jealousy.

I also work via Skype.

Best regards, Olga Khablova