What to write on the Internet. What SMS to write to the girl you like? Where without humor? In winter, I write to the girls: "There is a carrot for the snowman, let's make it." She will immediately have positive emotions from your message.

I think you began to notice that lately more and more time people spend not on the street, but on the Internet. The same applies to dating. Now it is much easier to meet a girl not in a cafe, but on social networks. Let's talk about this now. I want to give a couple of recommendations on what to write to the girl with the first message on VKontakte, so that at least she pays attention to you.

Often guys do fatal errors in their messages to the girls. Perhaps now you will see yours.

• Hello. How are you?

• What are you doing?

• Oh how beautiful. You're probably fighting off your fans every now and then.

I repeat! That is NOT what you should do.A good girl won't answer you like that. And that's why:

1. You overestimated her importance.
2. There is no emotional buildup.
3. Standard trite questions she hears for the twelfth time. Or fifteenth.

Perhaps you are also interested in the question of what to do if a girl ignores messages. The main rule of successful dating on the Internet is in no case to waste time on that person who does not want to spend his time on you. Understand, the girl may not answer you. There is nothing wrong with that.

Each person may have their own interests and priorities, which may differ from yours. And that's okay. There are a lot of girls on the Internet and you should not get hung up on the one that ignores messages. So don't give it too much importance.

To summarize, it is better to study her page first. Then find something in common between you. Go ahead, implement what you read. The main thing is to act. Write, chat, meet. Success in texting with a girl is often determined by your spontaneity.

Most couples meet on the Internet, this is the modern way of life and communication. So I met my incredibly beautiful and sexy wife on the pages of a popular social network. networks.

Oh yes, let's get to know each other first, - Dmitry Kotlyar, who works at the factory, managed to win the heart of an incredible beauty, created an excellent family, and all this with the help of the Internet and the ability to communicate.

I will tell you a few simple, but very important tricks on how to please a pen girlfriend. By collecting and analyzing all the information and actions of friends, you will find real secrets from real men who have achieved their dreams.

By following simple steps to achieve the goal, you can succeed any girl, regardless of her marital status. Simply put - there is a boyfriend or husband, it does not play a special role.

Success from the beginning of communication or how to write a girl to please her

1. Grammar, spelling and other rules that you simply must, if you don’t know by heart, then learn with the help of a textbook.
   • A person who starts the phrase "Hello girl" in most cases ends up in an emergency. The same phrases include “Sho you are shy at the same time”, etc.
   • The woman's brain immediately recognizes the illiteracy of the interlocutor, and automatically the subconscious mind makes an assessment and is far from in favor of the one who wrote illiterately.
2. Explore her interests. The female psyche is arranged in such a way that everything that worries her, she lays out either in the status or in pictures with a hint. With a smart approach and understanding of female nature, you can immediately find out about her hobbies, favorite films or music, attitude to the world, to friends.
3. Be sure of her marital status, if the girl is free - you already have all the cards in your pocket. If you have a boyfriend or husband, you will have to work hard here, maybe longer than usual. If at the sight of a girl you understand that this is fate, then your rivals, even the strongest ones, are not a hindrance.

So, leafing through the wall or seeing a beautiful girl by chance, you decide that the heart of this lady should belong to you. After viewing the wall and reading the statuses, you determined its interests and you liked them. From which side to approach, so as not to be sent off in three seconds?

The question of how to please a pen pal in VK worries most of us. I think everyone has come across a situation when they saw a beautiful girl, incredible eyes on the avatar take over the brain and, rushing into personal correspondence, received a refusal, ignore or immediately block to her page.

I suggest, friends, to figure out how to interest girls by starting a correspondence in VK.

We prepare a bait or create an interlocutor, ideal in every respect.

• We clean our albums with photos - remove without a sense of nostalgia photos with the former, photos in a state of intoxication or those where you have an unaesthetic appearance. It just so happened that girls love beautiful.
• We remove pornographic texts, videos, photos. This does not paint us, but will show dissatisfaction in this regard.
• I recommend to everyone! Make a photo shoot by choosing a beautiful but masculine backdrop. A couple of shift suits, a T-shirt or comfortable, casual clothing. Every day, novice photographers, for a small fee, will take you several dozen good photos, where you will be in all your glory. Half done! Now, a young lady who sees your profile with a great photo will be able to really appreciate the irresistibility of her fan.
• Do not rush to start a dialogue. Visit her page, rate photos, statuses. Interest her that she liked, but do not open all the cards at once.

To be honest, when I met my wife, she lived with a guy ... I added her, saw that marital status marked employment and abandoned this attempt. To my surprise, he was added as a friend, but did not communicate with her. I had a picture from the world of philosophy, and I noticed that this girl was interested in the topic of philosophy and meditation. Then something pulled me, I studied the groups of her interests and wrote, as I remember now, utter nonsense on this topic.

She was silent for a long time, did not react, then she gave out that I did not understand this matter and advised me to read certain books, then it would be possible to talk with me on this topic.
Yes, I never read like that in school! I read everything she wrote in three days.

The second attempt was more difficult with communication, he acted very carefully so as not to frighten him away. I sought a meeting from the day of the second attempt 7 months. And only after 7 exciting months of dialogue, he invited me to a tea party.

At first we talked as acquaintances by interests, I myself liked the topic, I could give out my thoughts and reasonings that were no longer stupid.

What conclusions can I draw from these steps?

Girls are unpredictable in their decisions and choices. If you want to like a pen pal, one mistake made in a hurry will cross out all efforts.

What path of communication to go to the heart of a girl?

• Always be interested in how the day went, what new and interesting things happened. - In no case do not give hints of jealousy or control on your part with your communication. Only sincerity and interest about her pastime. This is one of the main mistakes that girls do not tolerate, they can be controlled only after the start of a relationship, but not before.
• If you notice even the slightest hint of a bad mood, try not to be pushy. A beautiful bouquet of roses, daisies or a basket of flowers sent as a postcard will certainly please the fairer sex. A variety of pictures of cute bunnies, cats or dogs are suitable for this type, causing pleasant emotions, a smile and a good mood in a delicate female nature.
• Create a greeting and farewell ritual. In the morning, send a cute cat wishing you a good day. For the night, send hugging bunnies, sleeping dogs, etc., depending on the stage of the correspondence and your already established relationship. During the day, you can send her a flower or a cute picture in passing. But I don’t advise you to go too far with this, it’s better to seem like a courageous Banderas than a “cute bunny”.
• Don't devote all your time to chatting with a girl, even if she is the only one you can even think soberly about. A busy person is much more interesting than a boy who responds within ten seconds to any messages.
• Any hobby that will characterize you as an interesting interlocutor, a person with a lot of knowledge and knows how to behave in society attracts attention.
• Develop, learn. Sign up for foreign language courses, swimming. Visit gyms. Etiquette courses will also be useful. Perhaps this baby has always dreamed of learning how to dance partner dances. There are certainly such courses in your city, invite her as a dance partner. Be sure to admire her successes, help to overcome complexes.
• Become a reliable friend and interesting conversationalist for her. Be an integral part of her daily communication.

When a connection is found and communication between two people is set up, at this moment it is important not to miss a special detail. You must clearly, courageously show that you want a serious relationship. To do this, set yourself the goal of all communication to lead according to the scheme of creating strong relationships, and not friendly communication. And if your lady, with hints of such a relationship, does not begin to move away or refer to friendship, then everything is going according to plan.

Well, if you allowed me to become a friend, then I will suggest recalling the movie "Friendship with Friends". The friendship that is created can easily be the beginning of your relationship.

When communication turned into telephone mode

In order not to stumble immediately after the greeting, I suggest that you carefully study the following list:

1. To begin, choose a place for a quiet phone conversation where you will not be distracted throughout the conversation. Neither your beloved mother with borscht, nor friends with beer should be a background sound during your conversation. This will not only distract you and prevent you from focusing on smart words, but will also show your interlocutor that now there is no time for her.
2. When talking on the phone, choose a position that is comfortable for you, this is not a video call, so feeling at ease and calm before starting a conversation will be very helpful.
3. Both communication on a social network using messages and over the phone, take an interest in her pastime and mood.
4. In search of answers to the exciting question “how will a girl like it on the phone,” many guys are looking for phrases whose list should, like a magnet, attract everyone who hears them. No matter how funny it sounds, there are such lists, and those who doubt their abilities try to use these tempting phrases. Often they fail and say that the list did not work. I do not agree, indeed, phrases like:

But, you need to feel the moment when exactly these words will amaze the girl and make them repeat them in the left hemisphere for more than one hour before bedtime.

Be sure to watch the intonation in your voice, do not shout at others in the desire to pretend to demonstrate that you are stronger. Any manifestations of rudeness will indicate your over-impulsiveness. Such signs immediately repel the interlocutors, watch your expressions of emotions, and you should definitely not use obscene language in your speech.

As a result, only you choose what to write to the girl you like. If changes happen to you for the better, and the girl you like has not shown reciprocity, this is not the end of the world.

But the next time you try to start an acquaintance, you will definitely be confident in your abilities, and you are unlikely to regret that you have increased your level of knowledge, and, accordingly, have become a much more interesting interlocutor.

Try to improve yourself and then becoming the best, you will certainly win a place in the fantasies of the best girl who will appreciate your personality and you as an interesting and individual man. With this, it is certainly comfortable to run in the morning, dance or swim in the afternoon, but in the evening it is not boring ... to watch a movie.

Good luck on the love front with advice from Dmitry Kotlyar!

2 comments on ““How to please a pen girlfriend?””

You need to find a common topic that can be diluted with communication about relationships. However, the theme of relationships, their representations, is also good. The main thing is to create an image of an understanding person

Hello, good time of the day. I am 62, looking for a companion in life, preferably my children, still young beyond my years. But after reading the above, I admit, although I was considered a child prodigy from childhood, I am surprised that I did not know some of these common truths, or rather, I did not think about them when I wanted to please a girl. Thank you, now I hope I find her, the one and only. With best regards, Vladimir.

Dating girls online, just like in the real world, is an exciting activity that develops creativity, resourcefulness and makes men better. Vkontakte is a great platform to work out and finally find your soul mate.

In this article, we will focus on what to write to a girl when meeting on VK. 80-90 percent of success depends on this.

Three question rule

Let's start right away with a specific way of formulating the first phrase that allows you to successfully get acquainted. Unfortunately, there is no universal template for building relationships with ladies in VK. There is no such combination of words that can be written, and the girl herself will want to communicate, will be waiting for a meeting, etc. Perhaps this will upset someone, but do not despair. Despite the fact that you need to start correspondence in an original way, the first message must always be built according to certain rules.

They are:

• the fair sex needs to name herself and tell what kind of guy you are;
• the lady needs to explain why the choice fell on her;
• tell her what you want from her.

Let's consider all the points in more detail:

1. We introduce ourselves. At first glance, this doesn't make sense. In Vkontakte, a person's name is displayed wherever he writes something. It doesn't matter if it's comments, discussions or private messages. But a name is a magical thing. When a person names himself, he, as it were, "personalizes", stands out from the crowd. It becomes not an “ant” in the “anthill” of VK, but a person, if you like. It is also desirable to call the girl by name. This is pure psychology. It is not necessary to go into details of how the mechanism works. The main thing is to apply it and know that it brings success. Check it out yourself!
2. By "tell about yourself" we do not in any way mean an autobiography or resume. If communication can be developed, then there will still be time to remember and talk about "childhood, adolescence of youth." At first, you can limit yourself to one phrase. We can even praise ourselves. For example: "Hello! I am Andrey. I'm a cool guy..." The main thing is that everything does not look like narcissism. Option: "Hi! I am Ivan. I also live in Moscow…”.
3. It is important to let the girl know where you came from on her head. You need to speak, or rather, write honestly, sincerely. Example: “I accidentally saw your photo…” or “I read your comment in the “Typical Bobruisk” group…”. It is desirable to make a nice compliment. For example, say that she is very cute. Or come up with something more original.
4. Immediately it is necessary to indicate the goal with which you want to get acquainted. We build the first phrase in its entirety: “Hi! I am Kolya, a good guy from your city. I saw your photo in "friends of friends" and just couldn't help but write to you. You are charming. Always dreamed of finding such a girl!”.

We emphasize that you should not use this ready-made template, the text should be born in your head, come from the heart.

Here we will consider the "taboo" - what to write, you can not ask.

Errors and prohibitions

1. Not quite a mistake, so let's start with it: you should choose in advance an appeal to the fair sex. How will you communicate: on "you" or on "you". In "Contact" there are no uniform rules. Much depends on the age of the people who correspond with each other. If their birth years are close, you can start a conversation with “you”. Some are even offended if in the dialogue they begin to “Discard”. If the lady is already an adult, she has achieved some success in life, it will be appropriate and beautiful to write “You”. Although on the Internet, which has always been considered free space, the appeal to "you" has always been allowed.
2. In the first SMS, or rather, in a personal message, swearing, slang and slang words are not allowed. Initially, you need to speak in beautiful Russian. And then look at the situation.
3. You can't make mistakes in writing. Features of Internet communication is that there is always time to beautifully and correctly build a phrase and even check the text for errors.
4. It is not recommended to immediately touch on the topic of sex. Let's say that the girl in the album has a photo where she is depicted in a swimsuit on the beach. Men are so arranged that I immediately want to write something about the figure and the like. But it is better to refrain from talking about her subtle mental organization, and not about her sexual figure.
5. You should always write from your real, main page. It was already mentioned above that in the first phrase, among other things, you need to tell about yourself. Why do it? Why can't you write from a fake? Everything is very simple: you need to make it clear to the lady that you do not pose a threat to her. Either FSB officers or maniacs hide information about themselves. It is better not to get acquainted with either of them. With maniacs - it's clear. With the FSB officers - because they are constantly at work, and they are not allowed to leave the country. Joke.
6. You do not need to immediately ask the question whether the girl has a boyfriend or a husband. If such information could not be obtained based on the analysis of her page, everything secret will become clear later. As a rule, if a girl, already having some kind of relationship, continues to correspond, she is not doing well there. Maybe she just wanted to have some fun.
7. Don't write for a long time. Remember: the main goal of a conversation in VK is to make an appointment and find out the phone number. You just need to choose the right moment. And you can chat later - in real life. At the same time, don't try to make an appointment too quickly. Agree, the phrase will look strange: “Hello! My name is Maxim. Let's meet today!" Isn't this Maxim a maniac for an hour?
8. Naturally, you need to get acquainted unusually. Say hello! How are you?" - everyone can. And pretty girls get 100 such messages a day. Only now they are silent in response.
9. Do not try to please at the expense of some material advantages. For example, you might see something like this: “Hi! I am looking for a companion for a trip to Dubai. Do you want to join the company? Or: Hello! Let's go to a restaurant!" A certain number of women will respond to such an offer, but do you need these ladies?

Actually, here are the basic rules regarding what should not be written at the very beginning of communication.

Lead Attachment Method

Earlier, we talked about what questions you need to ask yourself in order to successfully tackle a girl on VK. Experienced people in such matters say that it is possible to act more simply, but no less effectively.

In general, each technique is the result of a generalization of people's practice.

The man tried and tried, finally, he began to communicate with girls in VK, and he decided to tell the world about his technology. Basically, it's a pickup truck. The word has a somewhat negative connotation, because many people believe that people involved in this direction “pick up” girls just for sex. In fact, a pickup truck is more than dating for sex. The system teaches how to start a relationship with a girl, using effective and legal technologies that are based on psychology and some sciences.

So let's get involved! You can catch on to anything: any information in the profile, status, video. Believe me, you can find a lot of useful information there. You can also see a list of groups in which the lady is a member. An important point: the interest must be really general. For example, if a girl is in a knitting group, and you don’t understand anything about it, you shouldn’t ask anything. The subject should be familiar and even close.

Examples of good correspondence with a girl in VK are as follows:

In the main picture, the lady is depicted with her beloved cat:
- Hey! Cute cat! And the owner is even nicer! What breed is the animal?
- Hey! This is a Scot. Thanks for the compliment.
How about continuing the conversation?

The girl is in a group of trips to Baikal:
- Hello. I saw your photo on the background of the famous lake. Can you tell me the best way to get there and where to stay?
- Hello. I got by plane. Stayed at a guest house nearby. I can give you the coordinates.
- Thank you, if possible. Can you give me your coordinates? I would like to meet and chat outside the Internet.

In general, it does not matter what the answer to the question will be. The main thing that:

• the beginning of communication was laid;
• the dialogue was pleasant;
• there was an opportunity to offer an exchange of phones and a meeting.

Here you are sincerely interested in what fascinates the girl. With a high degree of probability, she will want to talk about what she is not indifferent to. Firstly, it will give her positive emotions, and secondly, the lady will have the opportunity to act as an expert, and everyone loves it.

Dating humor

The ability to joke and laugh, even in the most difficult situations, helps people a lot in life. Humor also contributes to making successful acquaintances. Every girl no doubt wants to have a cool young man. Not a clown, but someone who can make a funny joke, cheer up. If you have a sense of humor, you can show it right away: first a joke, then everything else. Do not send a funny joke or meme. You need to be creative.

A typical, but already banal example: “Does your mother need a son-in-law?” Do not use this template. Because he, as already noted, is known to everyone. A joke repeated twice ceases to be such. In general, you need to invent yourself. Otherwise, there is a risk to discourage the girl from any desire to communicate. By the way, the correct phrase for dating should not contain “not” and “no”. If these parts of speech occur in it, it is easier for the interlocutor to refuse.

Let's take the same expression as an example. Dialog:

Does your mother need a son-in-law?
- No, it's not needed.

And another example:
- Do you have time for a cup of coffee?
- Not.

That is, it is enough for a girl to repeat a fragment of the question asked, but with an affirmative intonation.

Is it always necessary to apply some kind of scheme?

Mail.ru, which owns the Vkontakte website, has always supported the topic of dating at the proper level. This is probably why the social network has a huge number of interesting applications and groups that are dedicated to relationships, the search for a soul mate.

It would seem that these "fields" do not need to apply tricks and methods that are described above. But it's not. Methods are necessary for use in any situation. Indeed, in dating groups "sit", mostly girls who are ready for a relationship. But they are not looking for anyone, but that one: the best, necessary, interesting, strong, intellectual. Only to him they are ready to reciprocate. And to "Hi! how are you?" units answer.

Therefore, you need to use original approaches when meeting on VK, even if you are writing to a girl who plays, for example, "The Bottle".

Refresh the old

In Vkontakte, you can renew a relationship with an ex or establish a connection with a girl you know offline.

In this case, there is no need to be especially creative. After all, the person already knows you, so there is no need to show your best qualities or talk about them.

It seems that the theme of nostalgia will be winning. If we are talking about an ex-girlfriend, you can remember the positive moments that were experienced in the past.

If you are talking about a friend, you can write to her directly: “Hi! This is Andrey. Do you remember we had a few words at Lena's party? Maybe we can hang out some more? Looked here at your photos in VK. You are just incredibly beautiful. It's breathtaking!"

The fact that the lady already knows you is a big plus, provided that the good side was initially shown.

At a minimum, she will not worry that she will meet with a complete stranger.

The modern generation is accustomed to communicate in social networks, get acquainted on the Internet. Unfortunately, not all guys know how to behave, what to write. Yes, and new ways are still “running in”. Everything that has been described in this article is the experience of different young people, their successes and failures. We hope that the above information will be useful in practice.

On the Internet, be the first to write and send a message on VKontakte to a complete stranger and expect an absolutely unforeseen answer. But if you have already stepped over your fears, and the girls are still in no hurry to agree to a personal meeting, you are definitely doing something wrong and this article is designed specifically for you.

Profile preparation

First of all, a guy who decides to get acquainted with a girl on VKontakte usually goes straight to the selection of a future lady of the heart. You can arrange a multi-level casting on the Internet, looking through photos and choosing the most beautiful and worthy girls for your company, but there will be no point in all these ceremonies if the leading applicant does not feel sympathy for you in return.

To learn more about you as a person, she will definitely look at your VKontakte page, because it is impossible to think of a better way to make a preliminary opinion about a person when dating online.

To meet girls on the Internet, you can create a new page on VKontakte or correct the old one, but try not to give the girls the impression that the page is fake, and you are actually an 88-year-old married maniac. You need to make your profile as lively and interesting as possible in order to leave the impression of a pleasant and attractive guy about yourself.

To find out which sections you need to pay special attention to filling out, let's follow in the footsteps of a girl who decided to take the time to look at your account. What will she pay attention to first?

Photo

The pages of 80% of the guys registered on VKontakte are filled with photos that do not cause any sympathy among the girls, which is why we have reason to believe that not everything is as rosy with your photos as you thought before. The main ideological mistake of some guys, which interferes with them when meeting on the Internet, is that they believe that photos that are attractive to girls must necessarily have a certain bias:

• representative (against the background of a luxury car, in a branded suit, etc.);
• sexy (no shirt, demonstrating pumped up muscles, etc.);
• pseudosexual (in the company of many different women).

If the first two photo options can still attract some categories of women, then we never recommend using the third one. But still, in general, photos of a guy on VKontakte who are pretty for girls should characterize you as a person, talk about your hobbies, favorite way of spending time and personal life (the absence of a beloved girl in the photo is a prerequisite).

However, too detailed and realistic photographs from your life will not be very popular either. In no case should you put on display photos of the following nature:

1. Untidy. This includes selfies taken immediately after waking up, a moment when you are standing in front of some interesting object in a ketchup-splattered T-shirt and a booger in your nose, etc. Completely exclude the possibility of such photos appearing in your VKontakte account;
2. Unsightly. Everyone has some flaws in appearance. And even the girl you like is also not perfect, but she does not stick out her most unattractive sides for your viewing, so you should also try to ensure that your VKontakte photos emphasize only the merits of appearance;
3. With a drink. Almost every guy likes to hang out with friends and a bottle of beer from time to time, but showing this side of your life to a girl who has no idea how good, interesting and attractive you are is not necessary.

Replace photos on the Internet in which you are standing with a cigarette in your mouth or drunk with compositions that are more pleasant for girls: a walk in the park, a gym, work, study, or a trip to a cultural and entertainment institution.

Personal information

If your VKontakte photos have been verified, then immediately after viewing them, the girl will proceed to collect information. In a situation where you have long decided on the subject of your sighs, you can cheat a little and create the appearance of a common interest. But it’s better to write truthful information, especially if you plan to develop a serious relationship where the truth will come out anyway.

According to the theory of probability, a person with any worldview will definitely find like-minded people, so do not miss the opportunity to find your happiness by hiding information about yourself.

Fill in the VKontakte column with your interests: write a few words about yourself, films and books that you liked, but not too detailed, because most girls are looking for an ordinary guy, not Alexander Sergeyevich Pushkin. Indicate on the Internet data about your education and, possibly, work, and if you have served, then this must also be mentioned.

Particular attention of the girls, of course, goes to the column "marital status". In no case do not indicate that you are already in a relationship and, moreover, you do not need to admit that “everything is complicated”, believe me, there will be no one who wants to resolve your problems. Depending on the purpose of your acquaintances on VKontakte, you can indicate that you are actively searching (for short meetings) or simply not married yet.

Wall VKontakte

The wall of any VKontakte user is full of information he likes, therefore, based on the posts posted here, the girl will definitely draw her conclusions about what you like. Of course, you have your own preferences, which should be the main focus. But, for reliability, you can post several posts on VKontakte about sports, work, intellectual development, and humor.

The human brain is arranged in such a way that out of all the variety of information, he first of all pays attention to what he likes, so a girl who is delighted with kittens among all your posts about her favorite computer game will definitely find a funny meme with a kitten and understand that you share her interests.

It is forbidden to allow posts containing vulgar jokes, obscene language and photos of an erotic nature to appear on the VKontakte wall. Such information will not inspire even the girl whose VK page is replete with all three of the above factors, because deep down in her soul every woman considers herself sublime and elegant, and therefore, when choosing a life partner, she is looking for a man who can appreciate these qualities.

Friend list

Of course, asking all your friends to post only those photos that seem to be the most successful for you and not to display anything inappropriate on the wall because you decided to meet a girl on the Internet is not a good idea.

But you can add the most representative and congenial people to the "Best Friends" list, because it is he who attracts the attention of the visitor to the VKontakte page in the first place. Also make sure that you don't have women in your friends who have vulgar avatars.

Some guys also wonder how many friends a VK should have for a girl to like it. Remember that our goal is not to change your personality, but to find a girl who will like you, and therefore the number of friends should directly depend on the degree of your sociability.

For most girls, the number of your friends is not a fundamentally significant factor, because, first of all, you should be interested in your own characteristics, achievements and outlook on life.

Advice! After your VKontakte page has become an ideal springboard for meeting girls, make it available for everyone to view, because it is unlikely that the object of your sigh will be the first to ask you to be friends just to look at the fruits of your efforts.

Girl's Choice

Searching for people on VKontakte is very convenient because you can set any filters you like. Just set the necessary parameters, and the system will give you a huge number of girls for different tastes. In addition to your personal preferences, when choosing a girl, it is also better to consider:

1. Place of residence. The closer the girl is geographically to you, the less time and money you will have to spend on the road to her. If you are looking for a girlfriend for live communication and dates, it is better not to waste time on correspondence with people who are more than 2-3 hours away from you;
2. Family status. First, it is unlikely that a girl in a relationship will share your desire to meet, but it is even more unlikely that you will ever meet in person;
3. Age. Most tend to consider being in the same generation as them (one generation = 7 years).

Internet flirting

Not every woman is ready to appreciate a sudden message with a request to get acquainted, so it’s better to take a few hours to prepare the girl for your conversation. During this time, you should visit her VKontakte page, like a few photos you like and make some kind of compliment to her appearance, style or lifestyle in the comments. If she reacts positively to your attention, this means that she has already looked through the information that you provided about herself and did not remain indifferent.

Advice! You can consolidate the effect obtained by purchasing one of the cute romantic gifts on VKontakte.

Not a single ordinary girl will refuse such a gift, because now all her friends and subscribers will know that she has an admirer and is generally popular among guys.

Acquaintance

Your further relationship depends on how much the girl likes what they wrote and how. This moment is very exciting for many guys, because without knowing the character and communication habits it is very difficult to decide how to behave in an online conversation. Another girl to a simple question "How are you?" will write you a full essay on the topic of life and death, or at least tell you something about his affairs, and the other can do with an ordinary "Norm".

The nature of your conversation will very much depend on how open the girl is to communication. At first, try not to write and not waste time on girls who answer any question in monosyllables, because in order to catch a person who is closed for dating, you need to have a lot of experience in online communication with girls.

Variants of the first phrase for dating

In an ideal first message on VKontakte, it is advisable to simultaneously emphasize your romantic sympathy for the girl and tell why you should be attractive to her.

Original phrases invented by you personally will find a more lively response, but try to keep the greeting concise and meaningful. You can also write and use some standard blanks that pick-up artists have long used in their practices:

• “What do you think, can a guy like me like the most attractive girl in the world?”;
• "Didn't we meet before in my sweetest dream?";
• "How do you feel about the fact that I will make you happy?";
• “You must have put a lot of effort and energy into looking so good. I fell for your bait."

Do not be afraid to write and send some pathos phrases in the first message, because, despite their obvious flattering nature, the girl can take your statements with humor (but deep down she will be sure that she deserves more admiring compliments).

At the first stage of dating VKontakte, the main goal that you face is to hurt the girl with your message, bring her to a violent reaction and make her answer as extensively as possible in order to get the basis for further conversation.

Further communication, of course, cannot be continued in a given tone. Excessive obsession and expressiveness are not often perceived by women as positive qualities in men. On the contrary, it is important to make your VKontakte correspondence as natural and understandable as possible.

What to write about

Write about her. Every person most of all enjoys talking about his own person. If a girl is studying at the university, write how satisfied she is with her chosen specialty, and if at school write, ask if she still got lessons (and at the same time you can ask if she wants to skip a few lessons for a more pleasant pastime with an interesting guy).

Look also at her photos VKontakte. With a girl who is photographed against the background of sights, you can talk about travel, if there is a photo in which she is in the gym, ask about the success of training, if there are photos with national symbols, share and write about her patriotic aspirations, etc.

Advice! Remember that the girl who has already answered several of your VKontakte messages is also interested in an interesting conversation, and therefore there will be a suitable topic pretty quickly.

date invitation

If you write letters on VKontakte for too long, delay with an invitation to a real date, you can stay like that forever and remain just an Internet friend with whom it is sometimes pleasant to chat, so it is important to determine the right moment to propose a meeting.

A good option for an invitation to a real meeting, if you are not sure of the appropriateness, is to ask a non-binding question: “How long does it take for a beautiful girl like you to agree to go on a date with me?”.

Indeed, in this case, she can both agree and laugh it off, but even in the case of a non-positive answer, there will be no awkward pause in correspondence and tense moments. In addition, in any case, you will express your sympathy and seriousness of intentions regarding real meetings and communication with such a question in a letter.

If you feel that only a little of your perseverance is missing for a positive answer from a VKontakte girl, do not waste your time. In extreme cases, you can always stop online correspondence or apologize for your impatient behavior.

Express acquaintance

Have you ever heard of the law of large numbers? If we interpret it for our situation, then its essence lies in the fact that the more VKontakte girls are offered to join the company, the greater the chance that someone will agree. Thus, if you write, send messages to several dozen or hundreds of girls at once, you will even have a choice with whom exactly to spend this evening.

This type of acquaintance VKontakte is the most operational. You simply fit everything you would like to say to a woman in one letter, message and send this text to all attractive girls who live in your city and are now online. What should be written? It is important to put all the main elements of dating in one message at once:

• greetings;
• compliment;
• an invitation to action.

An approximate version of the correspondence in this case would look like this:

J: Hello. st. April 1, 04, apt. one.
M: Ok. I will soon. Leave your phone number."
Or like this:
"M: Hello. You are very sexy, I'm just crazy about you. Where do you go to meet?
J: You're a freak in the head, don't write to me anymore.
M: Ok.

Advice! Do not be afraid of negative reactions and disappointments, because, in the end, you don’t even know all these girls, and if you don’t dwell on the negative, you will have a pleasant evening ahead of you.

The most time-consuming task is the consequence of a successful VKontakte acquaintance, because now you have a real meeting.

After talking with a girl eye to eye, you may be somewhat disappointed, because she may voice the thoughts already familiar to you with the wrong intonation that sounded in your head when you read her messages and even put the wrong meaning into them.

In addition, girls usually try to post their best photos on social networks, which are taken from the right angles by more or less professional photographers, because the majority of the beautiful half of humanity on VKontakte looks really great, but anything can happen in real life. That is why we advise you to give preference to live dating.

What to write to a girl in contact in the first message? The lure of easy dating without the need to go out makes many young guys purposefully seek the answer to this question.

However, honey is not as sweet as it seems at first glance.

Correspondence with a girl and acquaintance in contact like playing table tennis. Each of your and her messages are like hitting a ball with a racket. Whose blow is faster, more technical and "cutting", he won.

If you miss, you are "rejected". In case of your victory, she singles you out from the crowd of her fans, becomes interested in your personality and agrees to a meeting. Therefore, the question arises, what is the first message to write to a girl.

To make it easier for you to meet and correspond with a beautiful stranger, I decided to write this post.

There are 6 important rules of correspondence. I wrote about them in the article ““.

And in this one, I'm going to talk about first phrases.

So what will you learn from this article:

• What mistakes do guys make when they write the first phrase.
• How to choose the first phrases.
• Examples of first phrases and general schemes by which you can come up with phrases.
• One extra trick on what to write to a girl to get to know her.
• At the end of the video on how you can evaluate the profiles of girls and, based on this, come up with the right words for dating .

Many argue on the topic of whether it is worth getting acquainted on the Internet at all. I want to know about this from you personally.

Is it worth it to meet girls on Vkontakte now?

Yes! Just teach! 351
Dating sites are better. 25
No, there is nothing to catch on the Internet. 37
Why not? 52

What to write to a girl in the first message in contact

What not to write when meeting

At one time, I started a fake account on behalf of a beautiful girl in order to find out what exactly the guys write when they meet.

The picture didn't make me happy.

• "Hey"
• "Hello how are you"
• "Let's get acquainted"
• "You're an angel!"
• "You're beautiful!"
• "Where are you?" (when a guy tries to leave a comment on a photo, this can also be considered an example of a boring template).
• Etc.

These guys do not know what to write to a girl when meeting in contact! And even more so, they do not suspect.

Remember these "brilliant" examples of what you can not write when meeting. These phrases automatically call vomiting reflex the beautiful half of humanity. It must be said that at such moments the beautiful half of humanity does not look beautiful at all. So, maybe then you shouldn’t write such words to them?

Well, they don't like it when a bunch of guys text them the same thing! Moreover, according to my observations, every guy believes that it is he who has an original approach to getting to know this particular person.

What is the first message to write to a girl

The first phrases for dating can be selected:

• looking at the photos of a stranger and her profile
• or use a contextual opener

Let's start with the first one.

It would not be very good if the girls always posted perfect photos that cannot be caught on in contact. Fortunately, there is always a photograph in which you can find something like that.

For example, like this:

What to write to a girl in the first message to get to know her by looking at this photo?

Seeing the fingers folded in the shape of a pistol, you can immediately come up with the following phrase:

“So that’s who takes money from passers-by! and we are all about politics and the end of the world.

Or "Let's start a business! I will lure passers-by into a dark alley, and you, with your charm and a gun, will take money from them.

By developing your sense of humor and imagination, you can come up with simply amazing phrases that will hit right on target.

In compiling the first phrases, it is not so much the phrases themselves that are important, but the ability to leave a non-standard opinion and ask.

After analyzing hundreds of profiles of beauties, I realized that only a small part of them can write true information about themselves. The rest usually write something in common (I like to go out with my friends).

But still, sometimes you can find something that catches your eye. For example, in the item "favorite music" you can find your favorite artist (or group). And in the interests - the sport that you really like.

Of course, you won't always be able to keep up the conversation. Sometimes a girl can reluctantly support communication. Or there may be "awkward pauses" between individual rounds of correspondence. Therefore, I advise you to read, in which I analyzed almost all the moments of communication with girls.

In addition, when used correctly, it is a good tool to increase your attractiveness.

There is nothing better that you can write to a girl when meeting you than the things that unite you. They instantly create trust and, accordingly, acquaintance is much easier.

If it is rather difficult to find something in common, then you can carefully review the profile and come up with a phrase that contains humor and flirting. Example:

“I heard that many girls who play sports think that they have the best control over their bodies. It's true? ;)"- in this phrase there is a hidden subtext about the possession of the body. Pictures of violent sex will involuntarily appear in her head.

Those. this is such a peculiar mix of contextual phrase and flirting.

I gave you a general scheme for composing phrases. And you can generate such phrases for each specific profile yourself.

What to write to a girl to get to know her: an additional feature

You can achieve great results in dating in contact, if you correctly use the search capabilities.

I suggest you try a rather effective way of how you can start dating in contact. This is using a search by school or university. The first is better: the second is better to use when you have already completed your studies at the university. You do everything step by step:

You act according to the same scheme if you use the university search. But remember: you can search for a university only when you have already graduated from it. 'Cause we're trying to portray nostalgia for the places you've been before.

That's all! Now you know what to write to a girl in contact to get to know her. Thanks to these tips, you can quickly like her and invite her to a meeting. What I would like to tell you in the end: remember that your acquaintance should be characterized by four things: a correctly completed profile, originality, humor and flirting.

Here is the video I promised:

But don't get carried away with such things! In order to increase the interest of a stranger in his person, a few dozens of wound likes are enough.

For now, here's a photo.

How do you think, how to write the first message to a girl in this case? Write your options in the comments.

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