You can make love during prayer. Questions about intimacy during Ramadan. How free can be the relationship between spouses

Question:

Can I have sex with my wife during the month of Ramadan after sunset and before dawn?

Answer:

In the tafsir of Ibn Kathir, Ibn Jarir said: “When people fasted in the month of Ramadan and if they went to bed after sunset, then it became haraam for them to eat, drink and have sexual relations until the next iftar.”

Once Umar ibn Al-Khattab (radiyallahu anhu) talked with the Prophet (peace be upon him) until late and returned home late at night, and found his wife sleeping and desired her. She told him, "I was already asleep." Umar (radiyallahu anhu) said: “You didn’t sleep” and approached her. Kaab Ibn Malik did the same. The next day, Umar went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and told him about it. And Allah Almighty revealed this verse:

ليلة الصيام الرفث الي نسائكم. هن لباس لكم و أنتم لباس لهن.علم الله أنكم كنتم تختانون أنفسكم فتاب عليكم وففا عنكم. (سورة البقرة , اية:187).

“It is permissible for you on the night of fasting to have intimacy with your wives. They are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them. Allah knows that you deceive yourselves and turned to you and forgave you. From now on, touch them and seek what Allah has prescribed for you (Sura Baqarah, ayat 187) (Tafseer Ibn Kathir).

With this verse, Allah allowed sexual intercourse, eating and drinking throughout the night. And this is a manifestation of His mercy for people.

What is the Hukm of the seed of eruption from touching or embracing while fasting?

Question:

What is the hukm (legal decision) of ejaculation from a man touching or embracing his wife while fasting?

Answer:

Ejaculation as a result of a kiss, touch or embrace of a fasting person with his wife spoils the fast and it is necessary to make up this day (kaza). For one who is in danger of spoiling the fast in this way, it is disgraceful (makruh) to hug and kiss his wife during fasting (Marginani, al-Khidaya, I, 123).

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Question text: assalyamu alaikum! In the month of Ramadan, I watched porn 2 days in a row, and it ended with masturbation. I am very sorry about what happened. All this is because when I see women on the street without a hijab, it’s like all my organs are on fire inside. In order to get tired and not think about THIS, I participate in taraweh prayers until late, read the Koran, keep fasting and diligent in a good deed. [astaghfirilloh] when I fast, I have this desire to double. 1. I am 25 years old, not married 2. I have never had sexual contact 3. I have never drunk vodka, etc. 4. I have never smoked 5. I don’t remember when I lied 6. I will try to perform all prayers on time 7. I love children very much 8. I respect elders What should I do so that Allah does not punish me on the Day of Judgment? If kaffarat has become obligatory for me, how to do it in what volume? I am a healthy man, I can fast or feed the poor. Only in this Ramadan did he become thin and a little weak. It is convenient for me to finish kaffarat with feeding the poor. I ask you to please advise me with a share. [la hawla wala quvwata ilah bilah]

Answer:

A respected brother should perform taubah because he watched the unlawful during Ramadan and committed a bad deed, what is sometimes called “hand pampering” in Sharia, that is, masturbation. We are very glad that the brother realized his guilt, his sin, that he wants to repent. Once again we want to call on the brother to make a sincere tauba. Those two days during which he watched during Ramadan the unlawful and forbidden, I would advise these days to overdo the uraza, if he held the uraza these days and watched in the daytime, then this uraza must be overexposed. I can’t say that it is wrong, but the prophet, Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, has a hadith that says, if a person fasts: he abstains from food, from food, from drinking, from intimacy with his wife and at the same time does not abstain from bad affairs, then Allah Almighty Subhanahu wa Ta'ala does not need fasting of this person. Based on this hadith, I would like to call on my brother, these two days during which he fasted, but at the same time porn films, I would like to call on him to return these days for each day one day, if, I don’t know, based on from the question asked, whether on the second or on the third day, he ended all this - masturbation, for this day, one more day must be returned. It is not considered as direct sexual intimacy, because there is no sexual intimacy itself, there is only something similar, but the genitals as such, I mean, the genitals of a woman, they are absent, so there is no question of direct and immediate sexual contact goes, but we are talking about the fact that there was an overthrow of the sperm from a man - mani, what we call according to Sharia. If mani is overthrown, then a person, if it is overthrown at his will, at his whim or desire, then a person simply returns one day in one day. Kafar in 60 days is not necessary, it is not required, but tauba is required, true tauba is repentance, and the return of this one day is required.

For each of these days, I would advise you to keep one more day, that is, to replenish, as they say, one day for each day, to replenish one more day for each day. Depending on whether there was masturbation on the second day or on the third day, then this day should be returned, during which the overthrow occurred. If this happened on the third day, then we tell the brother that he is holding for two days and in order to protect himself from the fact that these two days were not accepted while he was watching forbidden films, if at the same time masturbation occurred on the third day, then one day he definitely performs like a kaza, there are no doubts anymore, because he had an overthrow - mani of sperm, this happened on his initiative, at his own desire. It means that one day he returns one day. Those two days that he watched, he returns them simply because of getting out of the state of doubt - shubha, so that there is no doubt whether he received uraza in those days or did not accept it, unless of course he did it in the daytime . If he watched these films at night, then he simply took upon himself, accepted a very big sin, and for this sin one must really sincerely repent, give the Almighty a word that he will never return to this again.

Can children under puberty fast?

According to the canons of Islam, immature children are exempt from fasting in the month of Ramadan. However, parents can, from an educational point of view, introduce their children to fasting. In this case, the child may fast for one day, several days, or in another form, at the discretion of the parents.

How to teach a child to fast?

Parents should introduce their children to prayer as early as possible, show by example the importance of fasting. When it is clear that the child is ready for this test, you can offer him to fast for part of the day, gradually increasing the time.

At what age should children fast during the month of Ramadan?

Fasting in the month of Ramadan is prescribed from the onset of puberty, that is, from about 14.5 years.

Sexual intercourse in the month of Ramadan

What should be done to someone who had intentional sexual contact with his wife during the uraza during the day?

The fast of one who has entered into deliberate sexual intimacy during the daytime in Ramadan is violated. This day of fasting Ramadan should be compensated by a continuous 2-month fast. And only if this is beyond the power of the believer, he must feed 60 poor people (hadith from Abu Hureyra (may Allah be pleased with him). Al Bukhari No. 6087,6164. Muslim No. 1111)

What should be done to someone who had unintentional sexual contact with his wife during the daytime uraza?

If sexual contact occurred due to forgetfulness (without the intention to break the fast), then in this case the uraza is not considered spoiled. As soon as the believer remembered that he was fasting, he needs to interrupt sexual contact.

Should a man make up the day of fasting if he was in a state of defilement due to copulation (intimacy with his wife) or wet dream (sperm), but bathed only after the morning prayer?

The post is valid.

Is it possible for spouses to have sexual intercourse after breaking the fast and praying?

“It is permitted for you on the night of fasting to have intimacy with your wives, because they are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them” (Quran 2:187)

During the fast, I had a wet dream (ejaculation), does this spoil my fast?

In case of unintentional ejaculation, the fast is not broken. You need to do a full bath (ghusl).

Does the state of defilement affect the validity of fasting - for example, at night there was closeness between the spouses, but they did not have time to perform a full ablution by the beginning of the fasting time, or did a person ejaculate at night and did not have time to bathe?

The state of "janaba" (defilement) does not affect the validity of the fast. If a person wakes up in a state of defilement, his fast is valid. In general, being in a state of ritual purity is not a condition for the validity of fasting.

It is known that if the obligatory fast was violated by sexual contact, a fine is imposed. And if there were several sexual contacts, then there were also several fines?

The penalty does not increase. Only one fine is imposed - the reimbursement of fasting for two months in a row; if even one day is missed, you will have to start over.

QUESTION: Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh Meiram and all the best to you!

It’s such a thing, one brother forgot what was wrong and how to say it, in short, he climbed onto his wife and then remembered when he finished everything that he was fasting, at the moment he continued to keep the fast and is racking his brains, will it be credited to him or will he re-fast? And so I didn’t eat, I didn’t drink, what do you say, brother, so we ourselves kind of explain what we forgot, we brought the ayat, hadiths, in general, what do you say?

Best regards, Aidar

ANSWER: wa alaikum as salam wa rahmatullahi wa baryakatuhu Aydar brother!

Amine! And you too, my brother!

You forgot my brother to note exactly when he had sex with his wife. If this happened after iftar, then it's okay. And if after suhoor, i.e. during fasting, then big problems await him after Ramadan - he and his wife are required to fast continuously for 60 days, or now they are required to feed 60 poor people if the physical cannot fast for so long. At the same time, pseudo-scientists free women from punishment, shifting all the burden only on the man, as if the woman was not an accomplice.On this occasion, the Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) of Allah said:“The fast will be broken by the one who bleeds, and the one who bleeds” (Abu Dawud; al-Nasa'i; Ibn Maja), i.e. both will answer.

The Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) of Allah said: “Whoever breaks the fast during the month of Ramadan, he is subject to the same punishment (kaffarat) as the person who committed “zihar”.Regarding kaffarat “zihar”, Allah said: “... If someone does not have a slave, then it is necessary to fast for two months without a break before [the spouses] come together. And if someone cannot [fast], then sixty poor people must be fed. [All] this is so that you believe in Allah and His Messenger. These are the restrictions imposed by Allah, and a painful punishment is prepared for the unbelievers” (58:4).

An indication of the obligatory expiation of fasting is a hadith, which reports that Abu Hurayrah said: “(Once) when we were sitting with the Prophet, a man came to him and exclaimed: “O Messenger of Allah, I am lost!”. (The Prophet) asked: “What (happened) to you?” He said, "I slept with my wife during the fast (during the daytime)." The Messenger of Allah asked: “Do you have slaves to set them free?” He said, "No." (The Prophet) asked: “Will you be able to fast for two consecutive months?” He said, "No." (The Prophet) asked: “Can you feed sixty poor people?” He said, "No." (Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him) said: “(After that) the Prophet (was silent for some time), and while we were in a similar position, a basket full of palm leaves was brought to the Prophet. He asked: “Where is (the person) who asked the question?”. He answered: "I am (here)." (Then the Prophet) said, "Take this and give it as charity." The man said: “(Should I distribute it) to those who are poorer than me, O Messenger of Allah? I swear by Allah, there is no family poorer than mine within Medina!” Then the Prophet began to laugh so that his teeth showed , and then said: “Feed them (members) of your family”» (Bukhari; Muslim; at-Tirmizi; Abu Daud; Ibn Maja; anNasa'i).

Scholars say that if a person, due to forgetfulness, had sexual intercourse with his wife during fasting, then his fast will simply become invalid for that day. Therefore, they recommend only additional fasting after Ramadan. BUT only scholars speak about it, not Allah. And if these very scientists were mistaken, then what should a sinner do in the next world when he finds out that his fast was not counted and he hoped in vain for their insanity?! Whom to believe - people or Allah?! Why walk around in doubt and torture yourself. Therefore, let him feed 60 poor people while there is an opportunity in this world, than later go into debtors in the next world.

Only Allah knows the truth.

Audio version of this article:

In the month of Ramadan, during fasting hours (from dawn to sunset), having direct sexual intimacy with your wife is strictly prohibited. From the moment the sun sets until the time the morning prayer begins, the spouses can have intimate contact without any restrictions. If sexual intimacy took place during the hours of fasting, then the fast is broken. A person who violates it in this way is obliged to atone for his sin by a two-month continuous fast. If, due to physical weakness, he is not able to fast for two months in a row, then he must feed sixty poor people, allocating for each the amount that he (who breaks the fast) spends on average daily food for an adult member of his family.

As for the question of who is entrusted with this form of atonement for sin - the husband or the wife, then all theologians talk about the husband and many about the wife. But Shafi'i theologians, for example, are more inclined to believe that this form of atonement does not concern the wife. She will only need to restore one day of the broken fast.

In the case when the spouses did this out of forgetfulness or ignorance, no atonement for sin is provided.

If such (deliberate) violation of the fast was repeated, then the violated sanctity of each of the days of the obligatory fast of the spouse must be expiated by a two-month continuous fast.

Related questions

After the time of the morning prayer came, my husband and I had intimacy at his request, although we continued to fast on this day. Is the fast considered valid, and if not, what should the wife do in such a case? N.

To atone for sin, the husband will need to fast for two lunar months in a row, one day after another, plus make up for one day of the broken fast.

It will be enough for your wife, that is, you, to fast for one day after the month of Ramadan. There is an authoritative opinion on this matter (that it is enough for a wife in such a situation to make up for one day of a broken fast), which I believe you will follow. In your case, the husband was the initiator, even if he bears all the responsibility.

He will be able to start it only at the end of the month of Ramadan and the holiday of breaking the fast (Eid al-Fitr).

The form of atonement for deliberately broken fasting mentioned here applies only to the month of Ramadan.

If suddenly a two-month fast is interrupted, then you will have to start all over again. It is important to note that two months of continuous fasting should not fall on holidays (Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha) when fasting is prohibited (haram).

As for menstruation in women (if she fasts for two months in expiation of a broken fast), then this period is not considered a violation of the continuity of a two-month fast. That is, during this period, the woman interrupts the post-redemption, and at the end - continues, taking into account those days that have already fasted.

If a person made a mistake in counting the days, then the fast should not be resumed from the very beginning.

Theologians of the Hanafi madhhab admitted the possibility of feeding one beggar for two months. Shafi'i theologians considered it appropriate to confine themselves to the text of the hadith, which refers to the feeding of "sixty poor people."

The aforementioned difficult form of atonement for sin is provided for by the canons only in case of breaking the fast by intentionally engaging in sexual intercourse with the wife (husband). See, for example: Ash-Shavkyani M. Neil al-avtar [Achieving Goals]. In 8 vols. Beirut: al-Kutub al-‘ilmiya, 1995, vol. 4, p. 229; ‘Ali Jum‘a M. Fatawa ‘asriyah [Modern fatwas]. In 2 volumes. Cairo: as-Salyam, 2010. T. 2. S. 71.

Some scholars spoke of a similar expiation in case of breaking the fast by intentionally eating and drinking water. However, this theological judgment has no direct confirmation in the verses and authentic hadiths, and therefore remains a judgment with which one can disagree. See, for example: Az-Zuhayli V. Al-fiqh al-islami wa adillatuh [Islamic law and its arguments]. In 11 volumes. Damascus: al-Fikr, 1997. Vol. 3. S. 1709; al-Buty R. Mashurat ijtima‘iya [Social Councils]. Damascus: al-Fikr, 2001, p. 39.

It is important to mention that along with these two months of atonement fasting, one day of fasting should make up for the broken day of fasting in the month of Ramadan. That is, in total, it turns out two lunar months plus one day.

The same opinion is shared, for example, by the well-known theologian of our time ‘Ali Jum’a, relying on a reliable hadith, which speaks of a husband and does not mention anything about a wife. See: 'Ali Jum'a M. Fatawa 'asria. T. 1. S. 91.

See more on this topic: Holy Quran, 2:187; al-Zuhayli V. Al-fiqh al-islami wa adillatuh. In 8 vols. T. 2. S. 655, 667, 669, 674, 682; ash-Shawkyani M. Neil al-avtar. In 8 vols. T. 4. S. 228–231; Amin M. (known as Ibn ‘Abidin). Radd al-mukhtar. In 8 vols. Beirut: al-Fikr, 1966, vol. 2, p. 412; al-Khatib ash-Shirbiniy Sh. Mugni al-mukhtaj. In 6 vols. T. 2. S. 190–194; al-Margynani B. Al-khidaya [Manual]. In 2 volumes, 4 hours. Beirut: al-Kutub al-‘ilmiya, 1990. Vol. 1. Part 1. S. 134.