In the hustle and bustle, we do not notice the beautiful little things. Behind the daily bustle, we do not notice the most important thing, in this life it is ourselves, our life. Be interested in what is happening inside you, no less than in what surrounds you. If everything is in order in the inner world,

Behind the daily bustle, we do not notice the most important thing, in this life it is ourselves, our life.

We fuss, postponing our lives for later. We believe that here the children are the most important thing, or the work of the business is the most important thing. But this is not the main thing.

The main thing is the person himself. How he feels is very important. What mood is he in? Could he do something good for himself today or not? Or just for someone? All life passes in vanity.

And then the children grow up and it turns out that they have their own life. And they have their own new family. And who are you? Just visiting and no longer a family? And the claims to the children, to themselves begin. Why not just live and enjoy life?

Sometimes it’s easier for a person to be a victim to choose the role of a victim, it’s more convenient for him, he doesn’t have to act, and justify his miserable existence by the fact that it’s impossible to change anything.

Make yourself happy, but only a happy person can do this. And if he is frustrated, then he carries negative energy into the world.

Why can't you spare money for yourself (for yourself)? A person closes the channels of the joy of life, closes the channels for the realization of his abilities, talents, when he regrets something for himself. Shopping for yourself comes last. First to the child, then to yourself somehow. This leads to the fact that the person becomes faceless. He is not visible. Here the figure can become shapeless, and all kinds of papillomas, pimples, crawl out.

Man renounces himself and puts himself, his Divine Self, Divine soul in last place. Man is God's temple, in him is a particle of the God of the Universe. And when a person renounces himself, forbids himself the joys of life, puts someone ahead, someone's needs above his own, then he does not do a good deed and over time the process of destruction of him as a person begins.

When he is not taken seriously, when no one pays attention to his needs, to his Want, and he, left without support, becomes faceless. Below the plinth if translated into modern slang.

The position of life is at first I, then everyone else. Those. a beautiful and well-groomed wife, a mother who knows her own worth, and treats herself with respect and love, evokes the same attitude towards herself from close people, her husband, and children. How a person called himself at a meeting, what name, so they turn to him.

As mother, wife put themselves, so children and husband will treat her. Below the plinth, it means below the plinth, they can crush you inadvertently if you get under your feet. And if the Queen is in front of them, then the attitude towards her as a Queen. But it depends on the person.

You just need to decide once and for all who you are, the Royal person, to whom all the doors are open, and the possibilities are endless, or a faceless person. You just need to know and remember that at first a person is given resources, and then a person can help others. And if he gave resources to another, then less and less will be given to him. Therefore, the balance cannot be disturbed. Me first, then everyone else.

Today we will continue the topic of human talents, and that it is necessary to live your life and go in your direction in life. And by the way, children also need to be educated in the same way.

Revealing and using, to the fullest extent, all your talents, using inexhaustible resources for joy and well-being. Creating your life according to the scenario written by yourself and bring joy, love and happiness to this World, for yourself, your loved ones and those around you.

When a person is busy doing what he loves. He is transforming and flourishing. And harmony is restored in the family, and relationships become more romantic, warm, harmonious. They are cleared of rust, which is formed when a person is faceless, is engaged in a direction alien to him and builds life with a negative connotation.

In everyday bustle, we do not notice how we become hostages of our problems. Even the most insignificant negative situations cause discomfort and put pressure on us with a heavy burden. Likeyou has collected for you seven books that will help you cope with the modern rhythm of life and help you stop worrying and worrying for nothing.

"The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck: The Paradoxical Way to Live Happily" by Mark Manson

Mark Manson invites his readers to stop following the cult of success and learn the art of giving a fuck. To do this, you just need to score on difficulties and be ready to face failures.

Hygge. The Secret of Danish Happiness, Mike Viking

In terms of happiness, Denmark regularly occupies a leading position. How do they manage to do this if no more than 70 sunny days can be counted in their country in a year? They just have their own philosophy - Hygge. Take your time, seize the moment and enjoy life here and now: by the fireplace, drinking cocoa and enjoying the snowstorm outside the window.

"The Book of Joy. How to be happy in a changing world, the 14th Dalai Lama, Desmond Tutu, Douglas Abrams

The Book of Joy is a dialogue between two possibly the happiest people on earth: the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Tutu. They talk about the life they lived, which was not always easy, and reflect on how to be happy, despite all the troubles, worries and stress.

The Art of Stopping Time, Pedram Shojay

To stop worrying, you need to stop time sometimes. You will say: "It's impossible!". And Pedram Shojay invites his readers to learn how to spend time consciously in a hundred days. Try it, maybe this is what you need.

“Awareness. How to find harmony in our crazy world" Mark Williams, Danny Penman

Surely you have thought that you do not have enough presence in your own life. Stop postponing everything for later, especially since the technique described in this book helps to cope with the modern rhythm of life.

Ikigai: The Japanese Art of Finding Happiness and Meaning in Everyday Life by Bettina Lemke

Ikigai, like Hygge, is a philosophy of life. But unlike the Danish technique, Ikigai is a state of happiness from the newfound meaning of life, and the more Ikigai you have, the longer, better and happier you will live. First of all, this book will teach you to listen to your heart and, perhaps, help you find your Ikigai.

"Essentialism. The path to simplicity, Greg McKeon

"Essentialism. The Path to Simplicity” will be a great tool if you realize that you are cluttering up your life with your own experiences and want to deal with it. The author of the book, writer and psychologist Greg McKeon, reminds you that your time and energy are priceless, they should not be spent on those things and those people that are not really important to you.

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Profession: teacher psychologist

Professional interests: harmonization of personal and social relations, positive thinking and the study of personal characteristics

Hobbies: psychology, driving a car, leather crafts, self-education, photostaling, encaustic, designer, cooking, raising a son)

The country: Russia

Region: Vladimir region

Locality: Murom region

Place of work:"CR "Eaglet"

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My My world is happiness. In the hustle and bustle, we do not notice the beautiful little things. What is not done, everything is for the better. If it was good, then it will be even better.

It is important to learn to understand and accept yourself as fully as possible. Only in this way can we gradually ensure that we experience situations without undue suffering. The decision depends only on you - to take control of yourself and become the master of your life or let others control it. No one will feel good around you while you feel bad alone with yourself. Be able to perceive each other as you are, you don’t need to evaluate, give others the opportunity to be as they are) Nothing just happens. Tomorrow is better than yesterday. You need to be able to forgive)) In any mood and age, be gentle, romantic and mysterious) Live every day as a holiday) Think, then do. Don't judge yourself harshly.) Real Men have a Happy Woman! The rest are strong.

Rubinstein, Bern, Sinelnikov, Tolstaya, Socrates and others...

In the hustle and bustle, we do not notice the beautiful little things. What is not done, everything is for the better. If it was good, then it will be even better.

Live in such a way that people, when faced with you, smile, and, communicating with you, become a little happier.

Higher education, graduated from FEFU UF (former UGPI - Ussuri State Pedagogical Institute) in 1995 with a degree in pedagogy and preschool psychology, qualified as a teacher of psychology and pedagogy, a methodologist; Moscow Psychological and Social University (former MPSI) in 2004, qualification Specialist of social work, majoring in social work, specialization social work with the family.

Experience of pedagogical work (in the specialty) 18 years, in this position in the Orlyonok Center for Children's Educational Youth for 10 years.

I have gratitude and encouragement during the inter-agency period of the municipal and regional levels.

In 2012, she took 2nd place in the district professional competition of psychologists "The Best Teacher-Psychologist of 2012".

About myself

I have an active life position, I am a positive and active person, very responsible, I have good organizational skills, intuition is developed.

Professional, experienced, creative and specialist, good psychological and pedagogical erudition, research approach in the organization of psychological activities aimed at harmonizing personal and social relations, providing conditions for the mental health of the client, his emotional well-being, for the development of personality, individuality, ability for self-development, professional and life self-determination of each individual. She created comprehensive rehabilitation conditions for the realization of adolescents and youth in society and adequate approval among peers in difficult life situations. Adaptation of adolescents of additive behavior in society, based on effective programs and the introduction of new technologies for the prevention of illegal behavior of adolescents, education of a culture of behavior, by involving adolescents in socially significant activities, by providing a single integrated approach to a healthy lifestyle, educating the legal consciousness of adolescents with aspects of the family and society. I actively use the direction of complex psychological and social rehabilitation, I introduce into the psychological process work innovative technologies at a subject-oriented level,I actively use the Internet and electronic test programs in my work. I know how to use: interactive lectures, electronic educational resources, works with multimedia, office technologies in the context of preparing didactic tools in the subject area and working papers, consults in social networks.Quite freely I carry out direct and feedback with clients, preschoolers, younger schoolchildren, difficult teenagers registered at school, commissions for minors, in ODN, in committees of public self-government, who independently applied. I easily establish contacts with parents, children, youth and colleagues.The main directions, methods and forms of psychological activity:

• Counseling of the population: individual, group, family,

remote;

• Rehabilitation, aimed at restoring the personality (everything here

directions in the complex);

• Psychodiagnostics;
• Correction-developing;
• Psychoprophylaxis, educational;
• Relaxation;
• Activities of the Helpline service;
• Psychological work with student volunteers;
• Research activities (questionnaires, surveys);
• Methodical studies;
• Methodical work on equipping the cabinet and a variety of forms and methods at work;
• Psychological work with groups "Know thyself";
• Socio-psychological rehabilitation of difficult teenagers;
• Psychocorrective and psychoprophylactic work with conditionally convicted teenagers;
• Youth hostel individual work;
• Interaction with committees of public self-government;
• Summer recreation camp "Clear";
• Preventive work during the holidays with labor teams;

Close cooperation with teachers-organizers and with clubs for place of residence and teachers of additional education,counseling, advice and recommendations in working with adolescents. I work closely with interdepartmental organizations:Committees of public self-government, with inspectors for work with minor schools, with drug control, local clubsresidence, summer recreation camp "Yasny", with FKU "UIIFederal Penitentiary Service of Russia in the Vladimir Region" with probationersteenagers, with the youth hostel, with the orphanages of Moore County,with educational institutions of the city, with the Commission on juvenile affairs.I am engaged in the Helpline service, where calls with requests for help are received weekly. Volunteers from among the students of Murom educational institutions are involved in this activity, I conduct training sessions, and give practical skills. For a long time I have been organizing and conducting introductory, educational, industrial and pre-diploma practices for students of social technologies, psychologists and teachers of the Moscow State University, Moscow Institute of Psychology and Education, and the Pedagogical College. Awarded with a letter of thanks from the Murom Institute of Vladimir State University named after the Stoletov brothers, for involving students in the Trustline project - 2013; He is the head of the pedagogical practice of students from the Murom Institute of the Stoletov Brothers Vladimir State University, the Murom Technical School of Radio-Electronic Instrumentation, the Pedagogical College. The high level of professional and pedagogical qualities allows us to achieve sustainable positive results in the rehabilitation of adolescents, in the provision of highly qualified assistance to all clients who apply.By implementing a differentiated approach to the rehabilitation of adolescents, I create conditions for the realization of personal opportunities. A significant number of clients showed positive dynamics in the psychological processes of communication, conflicts, in the world of emotions, the motivation for learning, in the mechanisms of memory, thinking, imagination, and attention significantly increase. The guys draw thematic drawings “I am a patriot”, “Home alone”, “My health”, “Court of bad habits” at art therapy classes, then their works are sent to competitions and they take first place. Since 2005, I have been leading the psychological circle: “Know thyself”, since 2013, the art therapy circle “In the world of encaustics”. I work closely with schools, help students prepare for the Unified State Examination, GIA, conduct diagnostics on school motivation, adaptation.

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convicts - 2013;

topical issue. BUTactively and fruitfully cooperate with committees of publicTsRTDYU "Eaglet". I am the head of the advisory center for teachers of the Orlyonok Center for Children's Youth. At the advisory point, consultations are carried out in various forms: group, subgroup, individual, I provide psychological and pedagogical assistance to teachers, I conduct master classes, practical classes, workshops, conversations with them,methodological studies on topical topics: "Healthy lifestyle - ecology of the soul." "Self-analysis", "Trainings - one of the forms of work with adolescents", an interactive lecture "Violence as an aggressive-terrorist form of behavior", "Beware of conflict, ways to resolve conflicts", "Learning motivation for schoolchildren".In the 2011-2013 academic year, at a meeting of an open round table of teachers of the Center for Children's Educational Youth, "Orlyonok" summarized her teaching experience on the following topics: "The road to success: experience, problems"; “Violence as an aggressive-terrorist form of behavior” “Conflicts in the youth environment and ways to resolve them. Ways out of conflicts.

During the inter-certification period, I actively improve my professional level. In 2011, she was a participant in the Round Table "Effective Behavior of Youth in the Labor Market", helping the guys in practice to master the techniques of finding a job. Determine what type of profession suits the participant. I am the leader of two projects. In 2012, she participated in the competition of non-profit organizations for the prevention of delinquency among young people and received a Diploma for the project “Art Therapy. Healing the soul through creativity”, equipped the Art therapy zone in the office with the funds received. in 2013 she received a First Degree Diploma for the project “Your Choice”, received a grant of 70,000 rubles, equipped a rehabilitation room in zones: a counseling, diagnostics, art therapy zone, a cognitively preventive zone, a relaxation zone, a zone of public speaking, a mimic zone. The office is very convenient in work, it is in demand among the guys. I constantly replenish the psychological piggy bank, makes presentations about health, judgment of bad habits, career guidance, I mount videos “Kindness around”, draws up the exhibitions “Lessons of Kindness”, “Tolerance in the Youth Environment”, “From the Heart”. In 2013, she participated in the forum “Marathon of Kindness. Turn on! Conducted by the master -class "Volunteering and creativity". I pay a lot of attention to working withpreschoolers, younger schoolchildren, difficult teenagersregistered in schools, clubs at the place of residence, in committeespublic self-government, in the commission on juvenile affairs, withprobationary teenagers. Developed an individualprogram "Know thyself", In order to create conditions for the comprehensionyoung people of their capabilities, solving personal problems.I conduct research activities on topical issues with the aim ofeffective monitoring of current issues in the youth environment:questioning of teachers of the Center for Children's Educational and Youth "Eaglet": the purpose is to identify the attitude of teachers to their activities. Diagnostics: the goal is to identify the features of youth ideas about family life. A blitz-survey was conducted following the results of the performance "Star Under the Roof": the goal is to identify the attitude of high school students to drugs. A study was made of the moral and psychological climate in the team of the Military Sports Club Saplin. Questioning, the purpose of identifying features in the leisure activities of young people, as well as studying the club life of young people in the district of Murom. Questioning, the purpose of identifying ways of self-realization of youth. The survey, the purpose of which is to identify the features of filling the free time of young people (500 respondents, aged 14 to 30 years).Questioning on issues of xenophobia and extremism. Conducted a surveyrevealed the attitude of the youth of the district of Moore to the use and turnoverdrugs. Survey of tolerance in the youth environment.Monitoring among students and pupils of circles, sections of the Orlyonok Center for Children and Youth Clubs, clubs at the place of residence: “What is kindness”, I skillfully apply the acquired knowledge in practice.I know and use in my work the Law of the Russian Federation "On Education", the Convention on the Rights of the Child, I use in practice modern productive educational technologies, methods of psychological and pedagogical diagnostics. In 2014, she studied at the City Business School "I am a LEADER" - remote thematic courses lasting 90 hours in Moscow.

Books that shaped my inner world

Bern "People who play games, games that people play", Sinelnikov "Love your illness", Griboedova "Woe from Wit", A. Tolstoy "Prince Silver", Bulgakov "Master and Margarita", "Dog Serbtse", Pushkin "Favorites", Lermontov "I love my Motherland", "Lone sail whitens" Fet singer of nature and soul, Tyutchev, Tsvetaeva, Gumilyov, Akhmatova, Pasternak, Yesenin, Chekhov "Gooseberry", "Man in a case" Zoshchenko, Ostrovsky "Thunderstorm" , "Dowry", Dostoevsky "Crime and Punishment", Platonov "The Pit", such works - "Sotnikov", "People in White Coats", L. Tolstoy "Anna Karenina" Bison ", Gogol" Nose "," Overcoat ", "Inspector", Goncharov "Oblomov", Turgenev "Fathers and Sons", Gorky "At the Bottom"

My view of the world

What difference does it make who is stronger, who is smarter, who is more beautiful, who is richer? After all, in the end, it only matters whether you are a happy person or not.

What are we spending our lives on? To petty quarrels, To stupid words, empty talk, To the vanity of grievances, to anger - again and again. What do we spend our lives on... And we should use it on love. And it would be necessary for caresses ... We spray life on gloomy boredom, On "image" and "prestige", unnecessary science, On lies and boasting, on gratuitous service. What do we spend our lives on?... But we need friendship... We are in a hurry somewhere, we are getting something. We are all looking for something - but we lose more; We save everything - gold, rags and silver ... What are we spending our lives on! And it would be necessary for good ... We worry, we shout, we suffer over trifles; We choose funny little things with seriousness. But no matter how much you guess, you will choose the wrong one. What do we spend our lives on ... And we should be on a dream ... We are afraid of joy, we are afraid to believe in fairy tales, We are afraid of dreams, and tenderness, and affection; We are afraid to fall in love, so as not to grieve later ... What do we spend our lives on ?! And you just have to live!

Be interested in what is happening inside you, no less than in what surrounds you. If everything is in order in the inner world, then everything will fall into place in the outer world.

My achievements

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Diploma of the administration of the district of Murom for the contribution in the field of implementation youth policy on socio-psychological supportyouth in the Murom district - 2014;

Gratitude of the Committee of Territorial Self-Government Murom District Administration - 2014;

Thanks to the Committee on Youth Affairs for empirical research in the field of youth and family policy - 2013;

A letter of thanks from the Probationary Executive Inspectorate for Vladimir region for preventive work with probationconvicts - 2013;

Carried out preventive work with conditionally convicted teenagers from the FKU "UII UFSIN of Russia in the Vladimir Region", activities aimed at improving the moral and moral level of adolescents,registered with the criminal-executive inspection, measureson drug addiction, on crime prevention, appliesvarious technologies for interactive lectures, brings positivechanges in the outlook of adolescents. Olga Yurievna researches inareas of youth and family policy, skillfully builds proceduresquestionnaires and surveys, which allows for effective monitoringtopical issue.She actively and fruitfully cooperates with committees of publicself-government, there are 15 of them in her field of vision, here she leads an active,professional educational and preventive work withteenagers from labor brigades during the vacation period, spendsindividual work with difficult teenagers of the microdistrict and familiesat-risk groups. She is working in a youth hostel, where eachvisiting a psychologist is accompanied by a strong interest.Actively working with clubs at the place of residence, studios, circles

I have gratitude and encouragement from the municipal and regional levels.

In 2012, she took 2nd place in the district professional competition of psychologists "The Best Teacher-Psychologist of 2012".

In 2013, she took 1st place in the district review competition of psychological cabinets "In Harmony with the Soul".

In 2014, she was awarded a letter of thanks by the Chairman of the Youth Policy Committee of the Administration of the Vladimir Region, A.A. Abramova, for her great help in organizing the Zvezdny 2014 campaign and contribution to the development of the volunteer movement in the Murom District and the Vladimir Region.

In 2013, she was awarded an acknowledgment from the Chairman of the Committee on Youth Affairs M.V. Semenova for empirical research in the field of youth and family policy.

In 2013, she was awarded with Gratitude by the head of the Murom branch of the FKU "UII UFSIN in the Vladimir Region" for organizing joint preventive measures aimed at improving the moral level of adolescents, patriotic education, and the formation of a healthy lifestyle for adolescents registered with the penitentiary inspection.

In 2013, she was awarded a letter of thanks from the Director of the Vladimir State University. A.G. and N.G. Stoletovs”, Doctor of Economics, Professor N.V. Chaikovskaya for many years of fruitful cooperation in the implementation of the joint project "Youth Helpline", for organizing practices for students of the institute.

In 2014, she was awarded with gratitude from the Committee of Territorial Self-Government of the Administration of the Murom District S.V. Dudareva for high professionalism, many years of cooperation, preventive and educational work on the moral education of adolescents.

In 2014, a letter of commendation from the chairman of the committee on youth affairs M.V. Semyonova for a special contribution in the field of implementation of the youth policy on the socio-psychological support of youth in the Murom district.

From 02/19/2014 to 03/26/2014 she took additional education courses in the city of Moscow, the City Business School, on March 31, 2014 she received a diploma of additional education “I am a Leader”.

My portfolio

“DO KINDNESS” From the heart, do people kindness… While you live in this world… And fill the void with happiness… So that malice does not settle on the planet. And life, in fact, is a simple thing ... But we always complicate it ourselves ... And it’s not a hard science to give goodness at all ... IT is given to us ... .. from above by Heaven! You help a person if he is in trouble... What toils without knowing the right decision... And remain a man of conscience everywhere... And ask God Almighty for forgiveness. For a moment, return to your childish simplicity… Of course, not every Soul is capable….. But, nevertheless, do good people….. Let this wish become fashionable! Fill the earthly world with Light Purity .. And become the happiest for all of us then ... Let's all share kindness together ... And the Good will return like a boomerang ... because it has always been like that!“I love my job, the work I do inspires me to do good deeds. I love people, I perceive them as they are! The profession of a teacher-psychologist for me:- a way of self-expression;- an occupation that brings a sense of self-importance and satisfaction from the work performed;- the profession through which I fulfill my mission and purpose, become wiser;- profession as a form of self-knowledge;- a profession that allowed me to change my outlook on many events in my life;- a profession that gives me strength for life and difficult trials of fate, which makes me truly happy;- a profession that allows me to be close to those I love; - a profession that made me kinder, more tolerant, more tolerant, wiser and developed a good professional intuition in me.What else do I love? I am a peace-loving person, I have many talents, because I do everything with love and soul and with a positive mood. I love nature, sun, rain, snow, I love my family, I love to cook, bake cakes, pies, pizza, I read a lot, I have a good personal library, I love to dance, I do floriculture, I have a large greenhouse in my office, I have been driving a car for 21 years, I go in for sports, I love traveling south, I love coffee, flowers, I love poems about nature, about love, I love children, my clients, psychology, I just love life, my work colleagues, I know how to enjoy life, I do everything from the heart. I try to believe in the best and in miracles ahead! I help people to be kind, enjoy life, cope with difficulties, respect each other, I urge you to study your psychological world, your characteristics, treat yourself with respect as a PERSON. The main thing in your work is DO NOT HARM))I agree with the statement: Do not wait until you graduate from college, when the children are born. Stop waiting until you start working, when you retire, when you get married, when you get divorced. Don't wait for Friday night, Sunday morning, buying a new car, a new apartment. Don't wait for spring, summer, autumn, winter. Minutes of happiness are precious, this is not the final destination of the journey, but the journey itself. Work - not only for the sake of money, love - not in anticipation of parting. Dance - ignoring the looks. The worst mistake you can make.Don't regret the past! Don't be afraid of the future! Enjoy the real one!.People have many open questions and we are happy to find answers to them.The clients with whom I work have 100% dynamics, significant improvements in interpersonal mechanisms, increased interest in learning, in the psychological mechanisms of memory, thinking, attention, imagination, the psychological processes of communication have improved, emotional stability, a culture of behavior, adolescents have revised their attitude to the image life, learned to find a compromise in conflict situations, a sense of responsibility appeared, an idea of ​​the moral and moral education of children appeared, and many other achievements where high dynamics can be noted.Such qualities as the ability to find an individual approach to clients, create a favorable environment, the correct selection of correction methods, the ability to create a positive, work-friendly environment in the office, communication skills, emotional restraint, and professionalism help me to achieve good results. The ability to see the strengths and development prospects for each client, set the goals of classes taking into account their individual characteristics, mastery of modern methods of training and education, pedagogical erudition, tact, elimination of stress.In the process of remedial classes, my clients' self-esteem rises, learning motivation improves, a sense of confidence appears during public speaking, clients choose a healthy lifestyle as a priority, they say no to bad habits, young people constantly attend classes without skipping.I consider the recognition and respect of students to be the main achievement in my work, which is not so easy to achieve today.Rousseau wrote that “education is life, not preparation for it,” and life combines the beautiful and the everyday, perhaps not always aesthetic. And my students and I took patronage over a lonely veteran, completed a collective research project dedicated to the Day of the Great Victory ...It is very important for every person to experience the pleasure of work and I get it, II am the leader of two projects. In 2012, she participated in the competition of non-profit organizations for the prevention of delinquency among young people and received a Diploma for the project “Art Therapy. Healing the soul through creativity”, equipped the Art therapy zone in the office with the funds received. in 2013 she received a First Degree Diploma for the project “Your Choice”, received a grant of 70,000 rubles, equipped a rehabilitation room in zones: a counseling, diagnostics, art therapy zone, a cognitively preventive zone, a relaxation zone, a zone of public speaking, a mimic zone. The office is very convenient in work, it is in demand among the guys. I am constantly replenishing my psychological piggy bank, mantiruyu video clips, presentations. Feelingsuccess. I have always loved learning, and I really liked it and like it!Professional courses and seminars, lessons from colleagues, master classes by scientists and pedagogical advice are the building blocks of my success. I respect, reread, love and learn from Vygotsky L.S., Bern, Sinelnikov, Rubinstein, Leontiev, Dubrovina I.V., Bityanova M.R., Semago M.M. and Semago N.V., Savenkova A., Vachkova I.V., I am a teacher-psychologist, my school romance continues ...“The only happiness in life is the constant striving forward,” saidEmile Zola. These words of the French writer, it seems to me, characterize me as a modern psychologist.

Reference point, or Virgins will save the World

Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of our lives, we don't notice the important things. We do not attach importance to the most important truths that determine our entire life.

Nadezhda Pelevina

© Nadezhda Pelevina, 2016

© Vyacheslav Pimenov, illustrations, 2016

ISBN 978-5-4483-3265-4

Created with the intelligent publishing system Ridero

Foreword

The purpose of my book is to prove that the moral laws that have existed for many thousands of years are not obsolete puritanical conventions - as it is to be considered in the modern Western World, but the necessary measures to maintain order and stability in society.

Not only an important condition for the physical and mental health of people, but also the basis for the economic development of any country.

What I want to talk about can be shocking, but at the same time it is a common truth known for a long time.

Information on this topic is sometimes found in various sources, including the scientific literature.

My task was to bring together, comprehend, organize and bring to a wide range of readers.

The book will be very useful and interesting for teenagers who are just entering adulthood, as well as for the older generation.

Chapter 1

The call for observance of moral norms and rules does not mean the rejection of all the joys of life in all its manifestations and not isolation from the surrounding World - as it may seem at first glance.

Quite the contrary - this is the only right way to achieve your goal - to find happiness - your true love.

Create your own Heaven on earth.

Paradise is somewhere in our soul and everyone has their own.

Sometimes it's something you dreamed about but never realized.

Whoever succeeded, he already lives in his own beautiful Paradise created by him.

Our Paradise - it is here - on earth during our lifetime, and not after it.

What so often prevents us from finding it, from finally starting to live a joyful free life.

What is the price of this ticket, a ticket to Paradise?

How much are we willing to pay for it?

To do this, it is not at all necessary to have a luxurious house and a large bank account. Although all this is very possible if you set a goal and gradually move towards it.

But before creating our Paradise on earth, our material Paradise, we must create it in our soul.

And this will already give an impetus and - thanks to the support of the Higher Forces - will create the prerequisites for achieving your goals.

Modern scientists have proven that a person exists not only in a physical body, but also in a subtle, invisible to us.

In the world of your thoughts and emotions.

Therefore, without spiritual development it is impossible to be harmonious, which means a successful, happy and healthy person.

The real price is just the observance of the basic religious precepts known to all

The most important thing is not to kill

It is impossible to interfere and destroy what has already been created.

Another, also very important commandment: “do not commit adultery” for some reason is not considered a law in the modern world, which must be strictly followed.

And this is the main mistake of Western thinking.

Recently I read on the Internet an article by Anastasia Belova “Why doesn’t he call”

"Millions of women every second on all continents spend many hours near the phone - waiting for the call of the beloved man and for the thousandth time coming up with reasons and excuses - why he does not call"

She gives advice on what to do.

Indeed - even scary to think - how many women find themselves in this stupid and humiliating unbearably stressful situation.

But you can save a lot of time and effort if you get rid of stupid illusions

Men are very selfish - they value their freedom and independence.

Somewhere in the depths of their souls, they probably feel the falsity of a hasty relationship and therefore run away from them.

A girl who respects herself and wants a normal stable relationship should not allow intimacy just because of the sympathy that has arisen.

It's gross and not worthy.

A wedding is a special ritual that allows you to move to a different level of relationship development. It tunes our consciousness to a serious relationship between both partners.

But this ritual makes sense and should happen just before the start of an intimate relationship - and not after, as is usually the case.

At the moment of the beginning of intimate relationships, powerful energy changes occur in the space around us and fate. Girls, by virtue of their special, more subtle perception, feel and understand that now something connects them and that now she belongs to this man

Ideally, if a girl wakes up after a night of love in a marital bed. Then these feelings will be supplemented by a sense of calm and confidence for your future life and destiny.

If not, then a long period of worries, doubts and struggle for your love will begin.

Since the beginning of the unspoken legitimization of free love, young girls have lost their strength, beauty and femininity. Lost advantage in choice, as well as an important incentive.

Became pathetic performers, pawns in dirty and unworthy men's games

Chapter 2

Girl! Sweet timid little flirtatious…

You look at this world with open eyes.

You expect a beautiful fairy tale from life, and it depends only on you how your fate will turn out.

Your soul is pure like an angel

Right now your fate is being decided.

A little more... and you will

Your biggest mistake, which determines a lot in your life

You are still a virgin.

You are pure and innocent.

What do you dream about?

Probably about the handsome prince.

About big and romantic love.

But - unfortunately, in life everything is not as beautiful as in fairy tales and dreams.

And your first love is unlikely to grow into a serious and mutual feeling.

It is only in fairy tales that a noble and decent prince leads a girl to the crown.

The chance of meeting such a prince is 1 in a million.

It's like winning the Jackpot.

Don't gamble with your own destiny

After all, the retribution for this game is a failed life - suffering and a torn fate.

Do not rush…

The universe will surely give you the person you deserve.

Being available means agreeing to sex, no matter

On what date, on the first or on the tenth.

The world seemed to be turned upside down.

What was once considered vulgar and shameful is recognized as the norm of behavior.

And what was ordinary - suddenly became almost a miracle. An exception to the general rule.

However, these girls, as a rule, arrange their lives very well.

I remember - as a long time ago I had a girlfriend from the city of Vladimir.

What has always amazed me about her is the number of her boyfriends.

There were about 5-7 of them, I don't remember exactly.

Handsome well-mannered guys circled around her like bees around honey.

They went for walks together, gallantly looked after, took them to the cinema.

And she had fun with them - not making any special preference for anyone.

As far as I know, she was in no hurry with the acquisition of intimate experience.

All her suitors were so in love with her that they did not notice anyone around.

An inaccessible girl is nonsense in our time.

This is something unusual and mysterious.

So - She tormented them a little.

Then she chose one and married him.

Without tears and unnecessary suffering.

as is usually the case with everyone. Cheerfully and beautifully arranged her fate.

And usually it's like this:

You strike up a relationship with the first - who causes sympathy.

Not understanding properly.

what kind of person?

If you yourself want to be the one and only, your loved one should be your only

And for this, he must first become your husband - and only then your man.

On another it is impossible.

Or you will always be one of many for him.

Any sex outside of marriage is debauchery.

And this is punished by higher powers very severely: suffering, illness and misfortune.

That's the way men are.

It is difficult for them to resist temptations and behave within the framework of public morality.

The purpose of a woman is to raise men to a higher path of their development.

This is necessary for the birth of the next generation of healthy and full-fledged children.

Restrictions discipline, make men stronger - increasing their sexual potential

Abstinence at a young age will not harm them.

It is their intemperance and promiscuity in relationships that will bring irreparable harm - which very often leads to problems in life and prevents you from choosing a partner that is really suitable for you.