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One of the most difficult periods in a woman's life is parting with a loved one. There is longing and sadness in my soul, but in my head there is only his image, his gestures, his voice, his facial expressions ... How to forget the ex-boyfriend you love? Not everyone can calmly let go of the past, but this must be done without fail, as you can get bogged down in a swamp of bitter memories forever. You have to live, move forward, because in the future you will definitely meet a new person with whom you may even decide to start a family. Therefore, it is very important, having met him, not to immediately lose him because of the memories of the past. You, dear girls who still continue to love and cannot get rid of thoughts about an ex-boyfriend, it is advisable to carefully read the recommendations below.
Tips on how to get over an ex you still love
1. Forget his name. Do you often refer to your current boyfriend by your ex's name? Try to control yourself. After all, firstly, you greatly offend your partner, which is fraught with parting, and secondly, this means that you still think about the former and, perhaps, not always in a negative way. If your relatives or friends remind you of the past, then ask them not to do this. Explain that you are very pleased with their frequent meetings with him, but you are not interested, and even more so you are not interested in how he is doing at work and in his personal life. In this situation, it is better for loved ones to be offended by you than for you to suffer from constant reminders of a past connection.
2. Don't lie if you're in a relationship with him. . It's great that after the breakup you remained friends, but it's not clear why you hide this fact from your real partner. It is strange that you hide the messages and emails received from the former, meetings, if any, and telephone conversations. Are you afraid to hurt the pride of your loved one, or do you still have some feelings for your ex-boyfriend? Most often, the answer is that you still think about him, moreover, with affection and love. So, you need to think about whether it is worth building the current relationship on deceit, or still break with them, so as not to torment the person who is now nearby and has tender feelings for you.
3. Get rid of your ex's stuff. You loved to wear your boyfriend's shirt around the house, and even now, when you broke up, you wear it as home clothes. Urgently get rid of it: after all, it reminds you of the former. Even if the shirt has been washed and rewashed a thousand times, accordingly, it no longer smells like him, nevertheless, his thing will certainly be a reminder of him. Better get a new home shirt - your current partner. He will be very pleased to give it to you.
4. You are a victim. If you already have a boyfriend, then it's simply inappropriate to tell everyone that your ex took advantage of you and dumped you. Everything is already behind - he has his own life, not the fact that he is happy, even if in all the photos on social networks he smiles with all thirty-two teeth. You have your own - with new relationships and hobbies. So enjoy it! Give love to your partner, because this is what he expects from you, and not whining about the past.
5. Stop talking about how your ex changed your life for the better. Of course, he changed, just like you did: you had common interests, you exchanged thoughts and knowledge, made some adjustments to each other, not only external, but also internal. Perhaps you were happy with him. But now he is not around, and stop suffering, think about it, if you broke up, then something was not perfect. And, in the end, who are you sad about? Because of the gorgeous man who changed your life for the better? Or did you become more beautiful without it (changed your hair, went to the gym, visited a beauty salon), smarter (enrolled in foreign language courses) and more purposeful (found a well-paid job, a promotion is expected ahead). And even if none of the above happened to you, just turn the page of your life book and start living in a new way: more successful and joyful.
6. Let go of old family ties. If you are not related to your ex's family through work, financial or otherwise, then just cut them off for good. Yes, it can be difficult, especially when you've had a good relationship with them, but it has to be done. Now you have new relatives, so get in touch with them! Who said it won't work? Most likely, the opposite is true, because you have behind you a successful experience of communicating with relatives of your loved one!
7. Stop comparing! Stop comparing the skills of the former with the present partner, especially if it is not in his favor. Even if the old guy cooked better, drove a car and earned more, now you are with another person who has a lot of his own merits. Otherwise, why are you with him?
Remember why you are not with your former partner now? After all, there were many reasons for your separation. Today you have a real relationship that may be better or worse than the previous ones, but at the moment they are true, so try to get rid of your ex, at least in your thoughts.
He left. Even if you yourself wanted to finish your novel in the near future, and he only got ahead of you by some week, you feel that resentment scratches in your soul like a cat. You, at least, dreary, and even frankly bad. Still, living with the thought that you have been abandoned is unpleasant. To restore peace of mind, something urgently needs to be done.
The main thing is to get distracted and not think about what happened until you calm down. My girlfriends and acquaintances suggested, tested on personal experience, the most obvious simple and original ways to forget him as quickly as possible - within a day.
1. THERE ARE NO ESSENTIALS!
Well, well, if this representative of the stronger sex did not appreciate you, then this is only his problem. In the end, paraphrasing the words of a famous song, one can say: "How many beautiful young men, how many affectionate names." Therefore, it is urgent to start looking for a handsome man with an affectionate name in order to fall in love again and lose peace and sleep. It's up to you to put yourself in order and go hunting in places where men gather, for example, in a gym, in a club, in a bar, or at a football match. My friend Tanya did just that. She got a new boyfriend two hours after she broke up with the previous one. In spite of the young man who left her, she went to a football match, where she met a fan of the city sports club. For two months they went to football together. Tanya is still sick at the sight of the logo of the local team. But the boyfriend, who preceded her passion for football, she forgot during the first day.
2. GET TO WORK
This decision never comes to mind first, but is carried out unconsciously by people much more often. Of course, hard work the day after breaking up with a young man is unlikely to instantly budge your career, but completing a weekly plan on a fast deadline can free you up a lot of time.
Olesya used the collapse of her relationship and hopes for marriage as an impetus in her career. From the preparation of her fiancé's favorite shanezhki, she switched to work and on the very first day she discovered an error in the calculations, which could lead to serious consequences in the future. With a quarterly bonus, she bought herself a fancy new cell phone.
3. SHAPING FROM WHAT WAS
If for some reason you can’t immediately go in search of a new prince, you should do an analysis. Write down on a piece of paper all the shortcomings of a former friend, everything that annoyed him, from snoring at night to a love of beer. Then, using the opposite method, make a list of the positive qualities of the man of your dreams. Think of his appearance, profession, and go in search. The main thing is to believe that the ideal exists somewhere.
At the same time, this method will allow you to determine what you really want from men. Agree that boyish heroism is poorly compatible with adult foresight, and amorousness with constancy.
4. [email protected]
Prepare a bunch of sandwiches, put the coffee maker closer to your computer and go swimming on the Internet. You can surf the sites, or, like Cheburashka, look for friends, or play online in DOOM and kill, virtually, of course, some alien. It is contraindicated to write emails to a former friend and read his blog.
5. NEW CHANGE (image)
Change your image. Dye your hair that crazy ruby color that terrified your ex-boyfriend so much, get a stunning manicure, extravagant makeup, in general, look at yourself with new eyes and show the world your new look. Well, at worst, just wash your hair. It's easier right there. Checked!
6. Wake, they are the same bachelorette party
Call your friends and have a bottle of martini with them. Let them be honest about what they think of your former friend. Trust me, you will learn a lot. By the end of the party, you will believe that your breakup is set up by your guardian angel. He can't let you suffer for the rest of your life. Just make sure your friends are yours, not shared.
This method differs from “get drunk and forget”, firstly, less harm to health, and secondly, getting support from friends and relatives will help you regain your former self-confidence. And even if you have not lost it, it will still be nice to talk to people who are dear to you.
7. "CATS ARE PEOPLE TOO!"
- said the famous American science fiction writer Fritz Leiber. However, dogs, snakes, and even ficuses can also be people. For example, my friend Maria has a cat Oleg, a Rottweiler Alexey and a parrot Roman at home. The window sill in the kitchen was occupied by the geranium Alexander Sergeevich and the cacti Vanya and Kolya. Machine pets are named after former lovers. As soon as a girl breaks up with another young man, a new animal or plant appears in her house. The pet should be small, resemble something like the original and require around the clock care and attention. A day later, only the name of a new pet reminds of the old love.
8. BURN THEM
I mean, extra calories, fat folds and cellulite in the fire of righteous anger. In general, immediately after the ex is out the door, go to the gym. The choice of sport in this case is not so important. The main thing is to leave your emotions in the hall along with sweat. And when tired, but happy, you return home and collapse on the bed, then you will not have time to cry that your loved one is not around, you will fall asleep.
9. JUST CRY
Psychologist Olga has developed her own methodology. She allows herself to experience the loss of her boyfriend for exactly a day. The most important thing, she believes, is to throw out emotions, for example, to cry in plenty. In 24 hours, she manages, like the heroines of medieval Japanese literature, not only to wet her sleeves, robes, but also such good things as pillows, towels, sheets. Then she forbids herself to think and worry about what happened.
10. FENKI SHUISKY
When I come to visit Alla, I can immediately determine the state of affairs on her love front. A break with another boyfriend is accompanied by Alla's attack of love for Feng Shui. She begins the fight against longing with a global cleansing of her home from old and unnecessary things. Moreover, not only stale newspapers, magazines and photographs of a former lover are in the garbage chute, but also all the things that he did not have time to pick up, as well as presents. Once, in front of my eyes, an expensive ring donated by someone went there, another time - a new men's sheepskin coat. What her owner said about this, I still do not know. After that, like a true Feng Shuist, Alla rearranges twenty-seven pieces of furniture in the apartment and brings perfect cleanliness. Then she fumigates the house with incense and buys another Chinese talisman to attract love, success, money and other things, and begins to wait for fate to send her a new lover.
11. WORSE THAN FIRE
Maybe just a renovation. If the soul is really bad, you can start tearing off the wallpaper or removing the tiles in the bathroom. Then, for example, it is worth calling the masters and finally hanging the ceiling that you have been dreaming about for the past six months. After the first hours of a work watch or a showdown with workers, the troubles that preceded this nightmare will simply fly out of your head.
12. TASS REPORTS
Natasha, when meeting people, likes to introduce herself as Tasya. Friends call her simply TASS. And indeed, Tasya always knows everything about everyone: who got married, who divorced, who quit or gave birth. It is useless to be offended by Tasya, who discusses without a twinge of conscience the details of someone else's life, since she also does not hide her achievements and failures. Once I caught her in a moment of despair: she broke up with a young man. Tasya took out a notebook and began calling friends and relatives on the list, starting with her mother. Somewhere in the middle of Tasin's list, the story turned from a long confused story into a short account, which explained in detail what, when and why happened. Report Tasya chattered into the receiver in an offended voice, not forgetting to sob in place of periods and commas. Then she reported in a similar way to our women's company at a table in a cafe. In general, during the day Tasya was so tired and received such an avalanche of sympathy and advice on what to do next that there was no strength left for further experiences.
True, people close to Tase constantly suffer from her emotional outpourings. Tasya talked and forgot, but, for example, her mother is long and hard going through her daughter's big and small troubles.
13. WIDE SHOPPING!
Dump all the savings you have, even those saved for a trip to Bali, and go shopping. Buy yourself something expensive and definitely stunning. The rest of the day you will figure out where to wear it, and in the following days you will think about how to live until the end of the month.
If you don’t want to spend money, you can leave it at home and just wander around a large shopping center or small shops for several hours, from time to time trying on some particularly original little thing. One of my acquaintances found a new, amazing style of dress in this way.
14. GO TO THE CANARY
Or somewhere closer, where you can get there in half a day. For example, to a camp site, where there is an almost crazy entertainer who can stir up even the dead. A whole bunch of funny contests, jokes and quizzes will not let you get hung up on thoughts about the past. And there, you look, and method 1 will work!
Instead of a camp site, you can go to a ski resort, go rock climbing, or vice versa, speleology.
15. "I WILL POISON!"
- said my 15-year-old neighbor when her dad forbade her to date a suspicious young man. Of course, if your loved one was the only consolation in the gloomy wilderness of your life, then you should probably poison yourself, drown yourself, or even hang yourself. And you can try all this together. Then you will definitely never worry about the end of your romance again. However, you don't have to be happy either. So dream 15 minutes of yourself lying in a white coffin, on silk pillows, in white lilies and a Versace shroud, and your ex-boyfriend sobbing uncontrollably over you, and then use any of the other methods listed above.
16. WONDER CHILD
That is a child. If he is yours and very small, then both of you can simply not notice the disappearance of the pope (unless, of course, he was the main earner of livelihood). An older child may well brighten up the first hours after the disaster. Go to the zoo together, to the puppet theater, to the cinema. From a child's point of view, all our problems are simply ridiculous. So remember your childhood. If you don’t have your child yet, take him for a couple of hours with a friend. It is worth remembering that even if the child is already large and "understands everything", you should not turn him into a "vest" in any case. Firstly, your sad experience will most likely not be useful to the child, and secondly, it is you who want to immerse yourself in the world of childhood, and not drag the baby into your problems.
17. MAGAZINE
Go to the site of the women's magazine "You are beautiful" and read until you get bored. Checked for myself. Works flawlessly! wink
IF THE BRIDE LEAVES TO ANOTHER,
It is not known who was lucky. And if the groom left, or just a boyfriend, then you are undoubtedly lucky. After all, now there is a lot of time for yourself, your beloved, interesting things, friends. And he will soon realize that you are not just the most beautiful, smart, caring and gentle, but the best in the world. That's when he calls, and in a timid voice says: "Hello! This is Vasya." And you, beautiful as never before, surrounded by real and virtual friends, absent-mindedly ask: "Which Vasya?"
As soon as you have a breakup, you should immediately cut the person out of your life.
You're done, accept it.
The first advice of a psychologist on how to forget a loved one forever will be just that. Your past reality does not exist.
Your ex relationship is dead, the person is dead. Start looking at it this way now.
Let go of the past completely.
You seem to be reborn and start from scratch.
New world, new people.
2. Absolutely no contact with former lovers
Remove any connection with a person:
- in the Internet;
- by phone;
- by mail;
- Skype and other means of communication.
3. Remove from life all psychological anchors that evoke memories of a former passion
What anchors need to be removed from life in detail:
- common music that you spent time together;
- gifts (either hide in the basement, or give to friends);
- do not go to those locations and places where you had cool dates together before;
- any forgotten things: be it clothes or a lens from a former passion that has not been thrown out before (it's time to throw it away);
- delete shared photos and videos on your computer, phone and other media.
Follow these steps, and you will get rid of restless thoughts about how to forget the person you love, but he does not have you, without any conspiracies and other nonsense.
4. Do not fall into his perception: do not think about what his head is doing
Do not fall into someone else's perception and do not think about what the former partner's head is doing!
Otherwise, you will fall into the pain of loss.
Do not be interested in the life of a past partner and do not fall into someone else's perception. 
What does it mean in detail:
- You should not care about the relationship of the former partner and with whom he is now.
- It doesn't matter if your ex is suffering or not. For now, the only thing that matters is how you feel.
- Do not hang and do not stick on the page in social networks of the former person.
Knowing that he is doing better will not make you feel any better. - You don't get better or worse at hearing rumors or some news about a past person.
Absolute and complete indifference!
Implement this principle and no longer need the advice of a psychologist on how to forget a person with whom you will never be together.
5. Don't blame yourself for never being together again.
In such cases, the focus of a person can only be occupied with negativity, and it is a mistake to make only yourself the culprit.
Otherwise, negative energy will accumulate in you.
It is not your fault! What happened happened.
You don't have to beat yourself up!
A fine line which needs to be remembered.
- It's cool that you look for your mistakes, analyze your behavior so as not to repeat your jambs. BUT: find these mistakes and don't attack and don't blame yourself!
- Find mistakes for yourself, so as not to repeat them in other new relationships, and not to go back to the past partner!
You find your mistakes so that you don't repeat them with a new partner and never step on the same rake again.
Remember this, and you no longer need to look for answers to questions from psychology about how to forget the person you love quickly and in a short time.
6. We learn new insights and lessons so as not to step on the same rake again
Lessons are learned through analysis.
The analysis is done with pen and paper, asking yourself as many questions as possible, and answering them in writing.
The more questions, the better.
- Who is to blame for the fact that you initially chose the wrong partner?
Answer: myself! - Why did this happen, how did you let it happen?
Answer: I had no personal boundaries, I had a poor idea of the person I wanted to see next to me. - What kind of person do I want to see next to me, what do I allow and what not in a relationship?
The answer indicates the exact characteristics of the personality, not the appearance. - What did I understand and learn from past relationships?
- What mistakes should I not repeat again with another partner?
Be as sincere as possible with yourself when you write the answers to these questions.
Thus, you will solve your problems yourself and there will be no need for the advice of a psychologist on how to quickly forget a loved one and start a new life.
7. Don't be alone: Know that you are always full of choice.
You have to have faith that you will have another person with even more emotional connection and chemistry. 
Know that you are always in abundance of choice. You can always find a soul mate.
You should not look at this as an everyday duty and a need to get a new partner as soon as possible.
Just understand that it is foolish to keep in your head what is no longer there until your death.
Accept change and don't resist it.
Any break you have this is a time of great growth for you.
Remember this and don't worry about how to forget the person you still like.
8. Do not blame your old partner and do not hold a grudge against him, remove the bitterness
Some people like to continue texting their ex or calling from time to time even a year after the breakup.
People hold in themselves the anger and negativity of past relationships, which then manifest themselves and have an effect in the next relationship. By having the same mindset in a new relationship, all the old mistakes will be repeated over and over again.
Don't fall into this vicious repeating circle.
A fine line. Instead of falling into anger at your partner, it is better to deeply thank him for what happened!
Through hatred, you yourself will maintain an energetic connection with your former lover, cling to him and why give energy to negative thoughts in vain. Do you need it?
You can easily fall into such hatred. Get rid of it, and by doing so, you will remove the worries about how to forget the person who hurt you once.
9. After a breakup, don’t label everyone as “they are all like that,” otherwise you yourself will attract such people into your life.
Often we hear from a person after a breakup: “All men are goats” or “All women ...”.
They painfully broke up with a partner, and now they themselves are looking for evidence in everything that “all men are like that” or “all women are like that ...” 
And they do it unconsciously and do not understand it.
And you know what? It will be like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You will really attract these people to you.
And also having these attitudes in your head, you yourself will unconsciously look for such negative characteristics in other people, try to look for confirmation of them.
Why do you need it?
Stop lumping everyone together, and no longer ask questions about how to forget the person who betrayed you or acted in a certain way, not living up to your expectations.
10. Realize that nothing is permanent in the world, everything comes and goes.
Look at it from the spiritual side.
- You were born alone and you will die alone. Nothing is eternal.
- Everything is constantly changing. And it is useless to resist change. These are the laws of the universe.
- Do not cling to old emotions and memories.
- Life is like a slide. You are up and down. And that's what makes it interesting.
Realizing this, you will save yourself from the dilemma of how you can forget the person you love very much and blindly.
11. You must still be open-minded to a new person, aware deep down of the fact that nothing lasts forever.
There is such a trap of the mind: "To think that the relationship will last forever." Don't live this illusion!
But at the same time, you still open up to new people after breaking up old relationships, you are not afraid to open up and expose your real self to others.
Keep opening up 100% with other people and sharing moments together.
But realize deep down that there is an end to everything. 
Example. You eat delicious ice cream. You can enjoy it. Enjoy the process. But deep inside you are aware and understand that the ice cream will run out.
If you think that you will continue to eat the same ice cream non-stop for the rest of your life, you are trapped in your mind.
He leads you by the nose and plays with you.
Be aware of this. Know all about in between.
It will be useful to remind yourself of this for women who are wondering how to forget a married man whom you love and still dream of some blind hopes in relation to him.
A fine line
- Don't forget to enjoy the process. It's like enjoying life until you die.
- It's the same thing with relationships: enjoy them because they might end.
- But do not deprive yourself of enjoying relationships with this knowledge.
Wise words of Osho in the video
On our site you can also to get over breakups and breakups relations.
12. When looking for a new partner, do not compare him with the old one, do not look for a replacement for him, look for and create new experiences
- Do not try to find the same partner that you had.
Don't look for the same person. - Don't make comparisons.
It only spoils and destroys everything. - Don't look for the same personality characteristics as your ex.
Do everything for a new interesting experience! - Do not impose the old manner and style of communication as it was with an old partner when meeting a new person.
You can also talk about attachment and love addiction in a new publication.
Remember these principles, and you will stop worrying about how to forget your loved one if you see him every day. 
Example
Otherwise, for example, the guy broke up with the girl and now, when meeting a new one, he wants the new girl to behave in the same way as the former.
Then he imposes on the new girl a model of behavior that is not inherent in her.
But she behaves in a completely different way, the guy’s expectations are collapsing and this negatively affects your flirting and the process of rapprochement.
It is a mistake to see a new person as a replacement for the former.
It only makes your condition worse.
Do not try to close your pain with a new partner!
13. Review your personality traits, remind yourself of them
There is such an illusion after parting that now, allegedly, "you are not self-sufficient, because you do not have a soulmate." 
It is especially found in girls who are disturbed by restless thoughts on how to forget their beloved man.
When it's all over, it's time to go back and re-evaluate your personality.
It is important to remind yourself of them!
You need to reconsider the new you that went through this whole journey with a past partner.
Continue to enjoy life, discovering and learning even more of a new you.
14. Understand that your passion, self-sufficiency and love are always with you, no one can take it away from you
Let's look at three simple steps on how to forget a loved one, and analyze the psychology of such perception.
- Realize that no one can take away your passion and true purpose from you.
- No one can take away your life, your partiality.
- Your self-sufficiency should never depend on externals. Whether you have a significant other or not, you are still self-sufficient.
15. Allow yourself to be with a better partner, let go of old limiting beliefs.
We attract who we are. 
You must realize that you can attract the best partner.
But the paradox is that people themselves do not want to be with the best partner!
Why does this happen to people?
Because after a long relationship man taught himself: “I love my soul mate. I don't want the best for myself, I want the best for both of us."
Track this habit in yourself and get rid of it.
People cannot believe that it is possible and necessary to forget the person whom you love unrequitedly and blindly.
16. Do not look for a new partner because of revenge or in order to make the old one jealous.
- Do not fall into the trap of your ego! Don't have these low, insignificant selfish motives.
- It is a gross mistake to find new partners only for the purpose of asserting themselves in the eyes of the former!
- Otherwise, by such actions you will only strengthen the thought in your mind: “She/he is the only one”.
- And then all your selfish actions in order to cause jealousy or out of revenge are a big reaction to your ex-partner.
- Let it all go and enjoy a completely new partner, share your passion with each other.
- Have the perception “Now your ex is a random passer-by” and there is no point in thinking about him.
Keep these principles in mind to close your questions on how to forget the person you love and see every day.
17. Don't make the following common mistakes that don't solve problems
What does NOT solve problems after a breakup:
- From alcohol, all sorts of substances, random connections of meaning and benefit to zero.
- Trying to travel or move is all trying to run away from the problem and pretend it doesn't exist. It's like a soldier was shot in the leg, and he went on a forced march to run a kilometer and pretends that everything is super with him.
- Remembering the negative qualities in the former person and the negative in the past relationship is another absurd piece of advice! By following it, you are still thinking about it! You will spend a lot of energy on these thoughts, the negative takes a lot of energy.
- To think of some other person is the most useless advice. This is tantamount to telling you not to think about the pink elephant that pops up in your head anyway. Not thinking is also an action, which is also energy-consuming.
It is better to re-read all our advice again and live in harmony. They contain everything you need to realize and what to do to forget the person you love unrequitedly, once and for all.