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It would seem that the very question “how to get a guy to marry” sounds somewhat repulsive. Images of abnormal, predatory women immediately come to mind, just looking for a reason to marry poor, unsuspecting men. But in life, everything often happens the other way around: these girls endure, wait and hope to legitimize a long-standing relationship with their chosen one. Men are in no hurry to propose marriage - they can delay indefinitely normal relationship or happily live in a civil marriage without taking on formal obligations. Well, they don’t want to, and that’s all for you!

Nowadays, civil marriages are very popular; modern morality allows a man and a woman to live under the same roof and without first going to the registry office. But when deciding to live together, a woman, as a rule, hopes to get to know her partner better and understand whether she can live the rest of her life with him and whether it is worth giving him her hand and heart. For men, this is a very convenient state of affairs, when he continues to feel like a bachelor, but has comfort, affection, and a loving woman at home. And they are not going to change their marital status quite often.

And it happens that before civil marriage things are not getting done, but the candy-bouquet period dragged on for long years. The man still does not dare to take the next step in the relationship - to offer to marry him. Any girl dreams of marriage, and this is completely normal: we have a natural desire to raise children in ideal conditions, when mom and dad are in a real marriage and are responsible for each other. But for some reason it is much more convenient for a man to meet his girlfriends on weekends and spend vacations together, but they are afraid to even think about wedding bells. That's the whole story for you!

What to do in such a situation, how to turn the tide of events and force the guy to finally get married? In order to understand this difficult issue, let's think: why do men resist official relationships?

Reasons why men avoid marriage

Although there is an opinion that the word “marriage” does not describe a good action, you and I know that family life with a beloved man is the height of joy and happiness. In theory, people of the opposite sex should experience the same. So why do they run away from official relationships like hell from incense?

1. Of course, the first and most basic reason is the fear of losing freedom. They are still young, strong and attractive, and there are so many pretty girls around with whom they can make interesting acquaintances in the future. What if he stops loving you, and what if you don’t suit him as a wife, and what if he gets tired of you in five years or so? Endless “if, if”….

   Any man takes a very long time to decide to connect his life with a woman, because this literally “puts an end to” his moral and sexual independence.
   But by the age of thirty or thirty-five, their supposed “freedom” threatens to turn into ordinary loneliness, when after work they come to an empty house - no wife, no children, no joyful greetings and hugs. It is at this age that avid bachelors, so afraid of losing their freedom, still give up their positions and decide to legally marry their chosen one.

2. If a man lives in a civil marriage with a woman, then everything suits him anyway, and running to the registry office, putting strange stamps in his passport and spending a lot of money on a wedding is the height of stupidity for him. Now everything in his life is clear, easy and measured. So why should he stress and worry that after the wedding the relationship will no longer be the same if everything is fine now!

   Moreover, do not forget about famous saying: “A woman in a civil marriage considers herself a legal wife, and a man – a bachelor.” He always has a reason to tell his partner: they say, you are not my wife and not my order! And if he had a stamp in his passport, his status as the official head of the family would no longer allow him to turn a blind eye to common problems, you would have to look for a compromise solution that suits both of you. So if you are mired in “civil relations,” then either take the bull by the horns and put the question of marriage squarely, or look for a new life partner. Because there is a type of man who can drag out a relationship in a civil marriage indefinitely.

3. There are men in life who are deathly afraid of marriage because of childhood memories of their own family. Eternal scandals, drunkenness, insults and even assault. Boys whose mother was the instigator of all misfortunes experience such situations especially passionately (yes, yes, this happens!). As an adult, he understands that not all girls are like his mother, but he subconsciously fears the development of the same relationships in his own family.

   Therefore, it is much easier for such men to continue a romantic relationship with a girl indefinitely, not allowing her, as he thinks, to show her “true face” after the wedding. If your man is one of these poor fellows, then your only opportunity to drag him under the altar is to prove that you are more gentle, affectionate and loving woman he will never find it in his life. As soon as you melt the ice in his heart and make it clear that strife and daily hysterics do not await him with you, he will finally make you the long-awaited marriage proposal.

4. There is a type of men who are obsessed with their work and career, who do not want to find time for serious relationships with women, especially for official marriage. They are used to being in the office from morning to night, going on long business trips and not appearing at home for weeks. This state of affairs absolutely suits these people and they understand that few women are able to endure constant separation and life alone.

In addition, such men, as a rule, are financially secure, and in any attempt by women to hint at an official relationship they see only self-interest in relation to themselves and the desire to manage their money. They also gained their financial independence thanks to the fact that they learned to fight competitors, and they classify women who encroach on their freedom and wallet precisely in this category of “opponents.”

If you decide at all costs to marry just such a person, then it’s better for you to be financially independent yourself, and besides the all-consuming love for your partner, find yourself many other hobbies and hobbies. This way you will give him confidence that you need him, not his money, and that you are able to live together without taking him away from work every hour.

In fact, there are still many reasons why men do not get married, but we have looked at the most common ones. Now, armed with knowledge of their basic fears, we will try to understand how to get men to agree to marriage.

How to get a guy to marry

Despite all the persistence of men and reluctance to commit themselves official relations, we can still force them to take the plunge and offer us their hand in marriage. How to do it? We reveal little secrets that will help you visit the salon as soon as possible wedding dresses and choose the right outfit for the most important event in your life.

Heavy artillery

By “heavy artillery” we mean powerful support in the form of his beloved mother. Believe me, any man subconsciously looks for a life partner, a woman similar to his mother. All you need to do is become a friend of his mother and enlist her support. As soon as your future mother-in-law appreciates and loves you, she will, with great zeal, begin to convince her son that you are simply the ideal wife for him.

In order to implement his plan, you need to learn as much as possible about his mother: tastes, habits, hobbies. If she is a lady of a Puritan upbringing, then you should meet her in a modest dress, constantly blush and smile shyly. If she femme fatale who dresses in luxurious, expensive outfits, then you also need to show your taste and style in clothing, and also be able to talk about topics that interest her. But the most important thing is to make it clear that you love her son madly and are ready to do anything to make him happy.

Addition to the family

Perhaps this is one of the most effective ways drag the guy down the aisle. Almost every man has such a concept as responsibility, and the fact that his girlfriend is expecting a child can push him to action. Just don’t forget to take into account that your marriage will be successful only if you really love each other very much, otherwise after a while you risk being left as a mother raising your child alone. So think a hundred times: “Do you need it?”, as they say in Odessa.

And under no circumstances blackmail a man by inventing a non-existent pregnancy. It is only in a fairy tale that a wedding is a happy ending, but in life it is only the beginning of a relationship between a man and a woman. Guys hate it when they are forced to do something by force - and even more so if they are deceived. Even if you achieve your goal and get married, believe me, your “happily ever after” may not happen.

Are we worse than others?

It’s quite possible to understand men’s fear of marriage: loss of freedom, constantly crying children, a wife in an old robe and curlers... Try introducing married couples into your general circle of acquaintances who have been happily married for a long time. Looking at men who “survived the shock” caused by official marriage, and remained not only alive, but also completely satisfied with their lot, his fear of marriage will slowly subside.

Try to always remain seductive and sophisticated for him, even if you have worked twelve hours a day and are in the first days of premenstrual syndrome. Let him understand that family life will not make you a domestic clown, and he will be able, just like your friends, to continue to love and enjoy life, but in a legal, official marriage. By the way, try not to drag him to the weddings of your friends and acquaintances - for most men this is a difficult test, after which they flatly refuse to celebrate their own wedding.

Perhaps the most important argument for a woman who wants to get married is a sincere, deep love for a man and the desire to stay with him until the end of her days. If your feelings are mutual, then sooner or later the man will give in to your desire to create an official union, and you will begin a new, wonderful stage in your relationship. If, despite all your tricks and efforts, he remains as hard as flint and doesn’t even want to hear about marriage, then think: is your chosen one worth spending precious years of your life on him? Maybe we should give him the freedom he so adores and look for happiness elsewhere?

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What a familiar situation - he and she have been together for a long time, but have not formalized their relationship in any way. No, at least now she’s getting married, but he still avoids even talking about “this”, avoids explanations, puts forward the universal argument “a stamp in a passport doesn’t solve anything.” In general, a classic of the genre - a man fears marriage like fire. Don’t expect us to give you a dozen bold recipes in the “Buy him a ring and propose to him yourself” genre, but we can tell you what not to do and how to do it.

Text: Margarita Tsarik

What NOT to do?

1. Ideally, do not live together before marriage. The so-called civil marriage is the most protracted path to the registry office, because a common, well-established way of life, indeed, removes the need for a “stamp in the passport.” If life together without registration has already begun, read on.

2. Don’t pester your chosen one with the topic “let’s get married” on a chronic basis. Don't nag, don't whine or reproach - this can have the opposite effect.

3. Do not blackmail, do not provoke, do not set conditions on the subject of marriage. “There will be no sex until we apply” - bad idea, just like “Either to the registry office, or I’m going to Misha.”

4. When talking about future marriage, do not focus on the wedding ceremony. Most often, men are afraid not of the “stamp in the passport”, but of this celebration, so desired by women.

5. Don't let your parents interfere in your relationship with your loved one. A man should be sure that he is going to marry you, and not your relatives.

6. Do not voice unnecessary details of your previous relationship (or marriage) - there is no need for a man to feel like he is “next”.

7. Never question the masculine viability of your loved one, especially in public. Let him know that you are always “for him.”

8. Do not limit your man’s freedom too actively - and then marriage ties will not seem to him a total deprivation of independence.

What do we have to do?

1. Become the only and irreplaceable for your man. You must make sure that he literally cannot do without you. And then somehow suddenly leave him for a while (vacation, business trip, etc.). The point is to make him understand that he can't lose you.

2. Communicate respectfully with his parents and relatives. As a last resort, remain neutral.

3.Be warm and hospitable with his friends. If his friends appreciate you, then you are truly a worthy candidate.

4. Talk to your loved one not so much about marriage registration and the wedding ceremony, but about family values, ideal family, find out your common ground on this issue.

5.When there is a reason, sincerely praise your man, do not skimp on kind words.

6.No matter how long you have been together, remain flirty, in love with your loved one and always flirt with him a little, as in the first days of meeting him.

7. Always create the impression of being “in demand” - how you are interesting to everyone, needed, in a word, that you are “valuable prey.” Show that you value your freedom. Remember: the more unattainable a man’s goal is, the more he strives to achieve it.

Several stories with a “happy ending”

Veronica: “Oleg and I lived in a civil marriage for 7 years before we officially got married. All these years I convinced him to get married “in a good way”, without hysterics - I said that it is important for a girl to have a wedding, to have a white dress, a veil...” Oleg literally became gloomy and did not want to condemn it. In the end, it turned out by chance that he was ready to “sign” at any moment, but only without formal registration, without white dress and veils. Because he was already married and the memories of the wedding made him shudder. But I didn’t really need this wedding either! The main thing is he and our family. Therefore, we registered on a weekday, at 9 am, without witnesses or ceremony, on the way to work. And very happy!”

Olga: “Kirill and I had been together for almost two years, but he didn’t want to hear about the wedding. Everything about us was wonderful, except that I didn’t understand whether we had a future with Kirill or not? It so happened that he left for military training after the 4th year, and he was gone for almost a month. I didn’t expect it, but he missed me so much during this time that literally two weeks after his return he proposed to me. But I’ve almost lost hope! We got married and have been together ever since, hopefully forever.”

Julia: “I really wanted to marry Dmitry, with whom we had lived together for three years. It's no joke - all my friends have been married for a long time, but I'm still waiting for a ring. And he didn’t even think about proposing to me. I tried all the ways, including breaking up and blackmailing. Useless. As a result, my wise older friend once advised me: “Stop wanting to get married. On the contrary, start demonstrating at every opportunity that it is important for you to remain free, how much you value independence, and how afraid you are of being “ringed.” Meet with your friends more often, be cheerful and active, smile left and right, and you’ll see, he himself will drag you to the registry office!” You won't believe it, but that's exactly how it all happened. Dima proposed to me after three months of my “new life”. We have been married for a year and a half and everything is fine. I give my advice to all girls!”

I gave him water for three days, and then I dragged him to the registry office and said: “We are at the post office, you have received a parcel post. Sign for it!”

Any long term relationship with a guy ends with the girl facing a problem: time is running out, it’s time for her to become a married lady, and, meanwhile, her beloved is in no hurry to propose. Moreover, it doesn’t even hint at it. What to do, how to force a guy to marry?

First of all, think about the reason why your chosen one does not want to give up his bachelor life.

There may be several reasons, decide which one stops your boyfriend.

• Fear of responsibility

However, do not think that he is a coward. It’s just that the guy is sober about the prospect of becoming the head of the family and taking on many new responsibilities. Now you are just dating, and at the first misunderstanding you can easily break up. But for legal spouses, even in the event of a serious disagreement, this is not very easy to do.

• Behind you is an unsuccessful marriage

This experience was a failure family life made him very careful and leisurely in making decisions. And he values ​​freedom more than a young man who has not known marriage.

• Experience with women

An adult man, even if he was not in the role of a husband, is not an easy prey for a girl. He knows women well and is used to leading a free lifestyle, but he has a very negative attitude towards marriage, considering it a cage.

• Indecisiveness

Perhaps the guy is simply not sure of your feelings and is afraid of being rejected.

In order for the chosen methods to push your boyfriend to get married, you need to be aware of why he has not yet made you the long-awaited proposal. It’s better if you have the opportunity to honestly ask the chosen one about this. Keep in mind that any method will have its pros and cons.

So, you decided to attack your loved one in order to push him to take a fateful step. Which path will you choose?

Desire to have a family

Choose the right moment to make such a statement. Such words will fall on a guy’s heart in moments of intimacy and tenderness, when the words that you want to have a family and dream of becoming his wife will force your loved one to give some kind of answer. The result may vary.

Behind– you will finally find out why he still hasn’t taken the initiative himself.

Against– if you are too persistent, the guy will become wary and will never return to the wedding topic.

Link to friends and girlfriends

At a convenient moment, you sadly say that all your friends already have families, but your relationship has not changed for several years.

Behind- his pride will not allow him to have a relationship at a level lower than that of his friends, and he will think about a possible marriage.

Against- he will immediately give examples of families he knows, where spouses live in an atmosphere of quarrels, and some have even managed to get divorced.

We will be the best

In moments of emotional intimacy, start a conversation about how good your current relationship is, and after the wedding it will become even better. And as evidence, give examples of what exactly will change for the better. Such moments can make a guy who was previously afraid to tie the knot get married. This is a possible advantage of this method.

Minus- the chosen one, remembering some of your conflicts, will perceive these words as luring him into a trap.

Living together

Usually it brings lovers together. This is a good test of the strength of a relationship. Everyday problems Most often, young families are ruined, and you will study each other’s strengths and weaknesses in advance, learn to plan a common budget. Maybe, future marriage The guy won't find it so scary anymore.

Behind– you both will understand whether you can start a family.

Against- getting used to life together, the guy will wonder: is there any point in getting married, because he already has a good time.

In the future you are the ideal wife

In order for your loved one to understand this, and for him to have a desire to marry you, pay attention to the little things in your behavior. Get up before your loved one; cook him breakfast; wake him up with a kiss and with gentle words; pamper delicious dishes; set the table beautifully.

There should be comfort and order in the house so that he always wants to come here.

And don’t forget about varied and passionate sex.

Behind- he will see an image in you ideal wife, which I secretly dreamed of. This will push the guy to decide to get married right now.

Against- he accepts this grace with pleasure, but believes that marriage is unnecessary, because even in this state of affairs he has everything he needs.

We're both free

Oddly enough, sometimes you can force a guy to marry by demonstrating your independence. Let him know that you love him and remain faithful, but since you are not his wife, you do not owe him anything. And therefore, at your own discretion, you meet with your friends and even correspond with guys you know.

Behind- a male owner will not tolerate such independence of his girlfriend and will rush to make her his wife.

Against– this same independence will cause a serious conflict and lead to separation.

Let's break up

This proposal to separate for a while is, of course, difficult to do. But this will test his affection for you. The two of you will have to think about it and make a common decision. If he loves you, he will not allow a long separation and will offer to return as his wife.

Behind- the guy will understand how difficult it is for him to live without you, and you will achieve your cherished goal.

Against- this method can lead to you losing your loved one forever.

Pregnancy as a way to get a guy to marry

Behind- This is a very popular trick that women resort to. The pregnancy of the chosen one forces men to make an emergency decision about marriage. This is a pro argument.

Against– such marriages rarely last. That is, the method is not very reliable, and can lead to you remaining in this life as a divorced woman with a child. In addition, some men leave a girl after learning that she is pregnant.

As you can see, there are ways to become the wife of your loved one. To do this, you need to demonstrate yourself in at its best, convince that best wife He won't be able to find anything better than you. But getting married does not mean tying your husband to you forever.

You must remain as beautiful, warm-hearted, homely and loving as you were at the stage of seduction.

Otherwise, he will quickly regret his rash decision to marry.

But by and large, if you are connected with a guy great love, no tricks will be required - he himself will propose marriage at the right time and take you to the registry office.

How to force a man to marry? Every girl thinks about this question at least once in her life. Even in conditions of emancipation and demonstrative independence of women from men, everyone wants to have a close, beloved and loving person next to them.

But the reasons that push girls to the cherished doors of the registry office are very diverse, as are the ways in which they gently but steadily drag their chosen ones to them. Let's take a closer look at both.

I can't bear to get married! For what?

For men, this question often arouses sincere interest; indeed, why commit yourself if you can live peacefully together?

Before giving the male half a worthy answer, it is worth noting that the institution of marriage itself gives a woman confidence, the very foundation on which she is ready to build her future life.

The so-called civil marriage is more of a game of “family”. The woman understands that at any moment “Game over” can be heard and the participants will scatter, unobligated and unconnected to each other by anything other than common memories.

So this option is good for the beginning of a relationship or when both participants are not serious about it.

Now let’s look at other reasons that make a certified marriage so attractive to the fair half.

I want like everyone else

When the bridesmaids' weddings follow an orderly sequence, and the bride's bouquet constantly flies past, the girl begins to passionately desire marriage, if only to show off in a white dress and take part in the leading roles in all this enthusiastic crowd around the wedding tables.

In addition, marriage dramatically changes a woman’s interests, so in a circle of ringed friends, a bachelorette feels like a black sheep, and clearly the odd one out.

An important role is played by the fear of being left alone, which gives rise to certain complexes. What are some reasons to rush down the aisle?

Social pressure

Oh, these idle neighbors, aunties, colleagues, friends, former classmates, who, first of all, upon meeting, sympathetically ask: “Are you married?”, “What, he’s not calling?”, “When are you going?”

And even if the confused young lady had not even thought about such a decisive step before, she is pushed to these thoughts and insights: it’s time for her to get married!

I want children from him

If a girl’s maternal instinct is heightened, it can serve as an impetus for marriage when she meets a man who, in her opinion, is suitable for this responsible role. The selection is carried out very carefully, the goal is noble, it is achieved at the cost of any sacrifice, so the “chosen one” is simply doomed to become married.

Marriage of convenience

The desire to get a rich, wealthy man and his credit card for personal use makes many girls passionately strive for marriage.

Statistics speak in favor of such marriages - they are usually much stronger than those based on strong feelings. Is it just happier? The question is controversial.

The calculation may include registration, connections, living space and other benefits that radically change the bride’s life for the better.

Big love

This is the most natural reason for marriage. What could be more beautiful than a high feeling, confirmed by oaths of allegiance, rituals and enriched by the joy of loved ones.

In this way, lovers move to a qualitatively different level and open up new prospects for themselves. This is a natural stage in the development of relationships.

How to get a man to marry

If everything is clear with the reasons, it’s time to figure out how to achieve what you want. Generations of ingenious women invented various ways, came up with all sorts of tricks and traps.

How effective they are depends on the case and specific circumstances. All we have to do is list them.

All methods can be divided into two parts: blackmail and gradual measures.

Blackmail

The method of threats and pressure is chosen by the impatient, quarrelsome, annoying and not very smart women. They do not always realize that marriage is not a case when you need to lie down with bones, but to force, force a person to act contrary to his wishes.

To tell the truth, it is worth saying that you can achieve results in such a situation very quickly, but it is fraught with a lot of troubles in the future.

Types of blackmail:

• Unwanted pregnancy– the option is in many ways classic. The “delighted” groom will go to the registry office with the appearance of a doomed lamb, but there is no guarantee that the happy newlywed will not subsequently be left alone with a child in her arms.
• Buy a husband- promise that after the wedding the parents will give an apartment, a car, a residence permit in Moscow (underline as necessary). The eyes of the future spouse that lit up during the enumeration should lead to reflection: a self-sufficient man will not fall for such bait, there is a chance to warm up the gigolo.
• Dying Swan- promise to jump off the bridge if the chosen one of the heart does not propose here and now, or with a funereal air tell that there is nothing left to live and I would like to spend my last hours with my beloved and in a married status. The groom, brought about by such methods, may well personally hasten the imaginary death of the irrepressible young lady.

Sometimes one of the measures described above can be used if the young man himself was going to propose, but did not dare. Here events were simply accelerated, although the man can quite rightly later reproach him for being married to himself.

But if the groom did not experience any warm feelings, was forced or interested for some mercantile motives, the marriage can turn into scandals, hatred, betrayal, drunkenness and, as a result, divorce.

Violence is not the best choice, When we're talking about about starting a family.

Gradual approach

This option is chosen by girls who are smart, subtle, and discreet. It takes a long time and requires a good knowledge of the basics male psychology, the ability to adapt, to be patient.

The reward will certainly be a marriage proposal, which the man will make from the bottom of his heart, sincerely believing that this is his own decision.

This result is worth the effort and requires attention to the following tips.

Praise- as you know, she is pleasant even to a cat, let alone men. Any success or achievement should be celebrated and approved, even if it is the hundredth victory in your favorite game. The main thing is not to overdo it and not to fake it.

Flirting will help keep the relationship new. A man should feel that he is interesting love game will only fuel his interest in the one who has been nearby for several days.

No talk of marriage! You shouldn’t repeat “I want to get married” every day, slip your boyfriend catalogs of engagement rings and call your mother his mother-in-law. Any intrusiveness will only push the man away and will definitely be unpleasant for him.

Caring housewife– an excellent role that clearly demonstrates young man, what a rare treasure he got. A guy who has tasted the delights of life with such a girl will probably come to the conclusion that this is too good to end, and will ask her for marriage.

Stimulating jealousy- the weapon is quite effective, but also dangerous. Attention from other men will flatter a man in love and show that his choice is correct. There will be a fear of being late with an offer. The main thing is not to seem public and frivolous.

Friendship with future mother-in-law largely determines how successful the intention to marry his son will be. At the moment of acceptance by a man fateful decision about marriage, praise from his mother can be a decisive factor. Another thing is that achieving such harmony with your future mother-in-law can be difficult.

No to civil marriage! We must try, if possible, to avoid such half-measures, which, instead of being temporary, can become very long-lasting. Men like this option, but for a woman it can turn into a problem, which becomes more difficult to solve the longer the “pseudo-marriage” lasts.

Psychologists suggest trying “cohabitation for the weekend” or meeting in the evenings as a worthy alternative that allows you to maintain the temperature of your relationship and at the same time get to know each other better.

Indispensability suggests that the beloved has become necessary in some matters, that she does something better than others and with pleasure. This could be anything from a Thai massage to preparing his fishing gear.

Following these tips will allow you to unobtrusively lead a man to the idea that it is the girl next to him who will make his family life happy. At the same time, the temptress herself will retain her pride and dignity.

Astrology. How to convince a guy

Those who trust the influence of stars more will be interested to know what approach men under the influence of one or another zodiac constellation require.

Aries

Aries loves to take the initiative, so the woman should appear in the form of a trembling doe, demanding the protection and tenderness that this fire sign will give in abundance.

You can become truly irreplaceable if you provide him with a change of impressions, constantly open up to him from new sides, do not be afraid to experiment, and be original.

Aries' life partner should be easy-going, sociable, and interesting. But at the same time, allow your man to be a leader, and not try to overshadow him.

Taurus

Taurus values ​​comfort, loyalty and a calm atmosphere. Nervous people irritate such a man and he immediately ends the relationship. It is important for him to feel comfortable within the walls of his home, and the future wife should provide the appropriate conditions.

You shouldn't play on Taurus's jealousy, it can lead to the opposite results. Great importance this sign has sex, so the chosen one must be good in bed.

Gemini

A Gemini man is attracted primarily by intelligence. The spiritual life of his girlfriend should be rich and meaningful. In addition, Gemini is attracted to riddles, he is extremely curious, so the person who has become a “Chinese box” for him can be tied to him for a long time.

An interesting nuance: men of this sign are very sensitive to fragrances, they especially like fresh, delicate smells.

Cancer

Cancer is an esthete, primarily paying attention to external beauty, but a woman who is ready to take care of him, delve into his inner experiences, and devote all her time to him can truly interest him and tie him to her by marriage.

The future wife is required to be sensitive and able to understand at a glance. She must prepare for the fact that she will be assessed for a long time, the results of the assessment will be weighed, the information received will be pondered in depth, and only then will they make an offer. And all this time the bride must remain friendly and sympathetic.

Leo

Leo has high self-esteem, he likes to dominate and feel superior to others, so the path to a lion's heart lies through subtle flattery. Applicants for his affection will have to refuse any form of open pressure; it is unacceptable for Leo.

He will consider a self-sufficient, well-groomed, interesting woman a worthy companion, especially if she demonstrates her indifference. The soul of the primordial hunter will perceive this as a challenge and now taking the victorious trophy - the ring - will be his task.

Virgo

Virgo will dare to connect her life only with the girl whom she trusts unconditionally. Therefore, there should be no betrayal, lies or omissions. He values ​​mutual understanding and harmony; only by creating these conditions can you build a nest with such a man.

A girl can try to take the initiative, acting unobtrusively and gently. Virgo men are very dependent on other people's opinions and approval; the future wife will have to try to please his friends and family.

Scales

Libras lead a very intense spiritual life; they are interested in literature, art, and philosophy. The chosen one must comply. Men of this sign tend to pay attention to the external manifestation of taste, so carelessness in clothes and makeup is unacceptable.

At the same time, no criticism towards one’s own appearance they don't allow it. In general, it is better to agree with Libra as much as possible; they really love unity of opinions.

A woman should also be the initiator in a relationship, since any decisions are not easy for such men, through long doubts and reflections.

Scorpio

Scorpio has a clear idea of ​​what kind of girl he needs, and only one who fully corresponds to this image can become his wife. It is better to find out the list of requirements in advance and think carefully about whether the game is worth the candle.

If yes, then you need to consider the following: Scorpio respects only strong-willed people; trying to push for pity will not work. His girlfriend should be the envy of others with her beauty, elegance, self-confidence and sexuality.

Intelligence is another indispensable condition, but there is no need to demonstrate it, especially in public. It is important to provide Scorpio with an intense intimate life.

Sagittarius

It is important for Sagittarius that his beloved shares his hobbies and interests. Inner intimacy plays a huge role for him. But he cannot stand showdowns, quarrels, or threats; his girlfriend should be an easy-to-communicate person, loyal, with a sense of humor and the ability to take risks.

Passion plays a big role in their lives; only a sensual woman can interest this sign. He values ​​wit, spontaneity, spontaneity and readiness for little madness. The future wife of Sagittarius will have to come to terms with the fact that his friends, without whom he cannot imagine himself, will enter her life with him.

Capricorn

Capricorn likes to woo the girl he likes himself, so you should give him this opportunity without imposing yourself and without showering him with signs of attention. Subsequently, it is necessary to constantly and sincerely admire him.

He is attracted by the comfort and ability to run a house economically, thinking through every detail of the interior and daily table setting to the smallest detail. Mandatory requirement for applicants wedding ring– crystal honesty and devotion, the ability to provide support at the right time.

Aquarius

Aquarius is trying in every possible way to avoid the bonds of Hymen, so only exceptional woman, capable of arousing his natural curiosity. Here mysterious ambiguous phrases and non-trivial actions come into play that will force a man to look for their hidden meaning.

Aquarius is interested in girls with wealth inner world, actively influencing their behavior. It is important to constantly maintain this interest in him; as soon as it fades away, the man will leave. The task is not easy, only eccentric, creative people can do it.

Fish

Pisces are very sensual and pay great attention to emotional impulses. They like girls who are interested in mysticism, yoga, and palmistry. It is important for a man of this sign to know that he is loved; he draws inspiration from these emotions. He is vulnerable, so only a very sensitive woman can become his mate.

It is important for Pisces to remain themselves; you should not try to remake or re-educate them, they should not be criticized. It is important for such a man to be understood; a woman should listen and ask clarifying questions.

You can use the sensitivity of Pisces for your own purposes and influence them with the help of tears and emotions, the main thing is not to go too far. Tenderness, participation and the ability to raise the self-esteem of this sign are the paths to his heart and the stamp in his passport.

Ways to encourage a man to get married in a civil marriage

1. Pretend that you are already married, address your loved one supposedly as a joke, calling him “husband.” Let him get used to the fact that he is not just a roommate.
2. Talk to a man about procreation, which still presupposes official marriage.
3. It is necessary to provide the man with maximum freedom, then he will see that family life is not a prison and will be more loyal to it.
4. A good example would be other happy married couples with whom you need to spend time as often as possible.
5. A woman should continue to take care of herself and be attractive, this will become an incentive to desire to tie her more closely to herself.
6. Expensive property acquired jointly can encourage practical men to marry.

As you can see, being officially married after a civil marriage is not so easy; it requires painstaking work, both on the relationship and on oneself, filigree psychological impact and considerable effort.

After divorce

After a divorce, men are very wary of entering into a new marriage. How to get him to take this step?

First of all, a woman will have to be patient and hold back her matrimonial dreams. A person who has had an unsuccessful experience in family life “ripes” much longer for a new serious relationship.

At first, the lady will have to demonstrate in every possible way her readiness for a purely romantic relationship. Only over time, when it becomes clear that people are comfortable with each other, they have common interests and are connected strong feelings, a man will dare to propose marriage.

In this case, you need to act very carefully and subtly.

Married man

Marry yourself married man succeeds extremely rarely, this is worth remembering for those who decide to try on the role of a mistress for this purpose. How much this corresponds to moral standards is also a question of the conscience of the one who intends to destroy someone else’s family.

In any case, situations are different, so we’ll just give some advice.

• Compromising evidence. push a normal man Only deep dissatisfaction with one’s own wife can lead to systematic infidelity. You need to find out as much as possible about exactly what qualities and actions cause such obvious rejection in the cheater, and act by the opposite method - create ideal conditions for him and become the one he needs.
• Provocation. Then it is worth demonstrating to the man that he can easily lose this ideal. Excuses about large volume work, stories about new interesting acquaintances and a slight hint that only a lack of attention and its presence pushes you to look for other options.
• Heavy artillery. Pregnancy may be the decisive step. But if the options listed above do not work, there is a risk that this one will suffer the same fate. There is no point in scaring you with a fictitious pregnancy - he will definitely leave when the deception is revealed, but now forever.

Common mistakes

The mistakes made by girls who are striving hard to get married are that they do not see the person they want to tie to themselves in this way behind the set goal, they choose the wrong ways to achieve what they want and do not always take into account the consequences of their actions.

It should be remembered that, regardless of the situation, the man himself must want to get married, only in this case does marriage have a future.

Video: How to inspire a man to get married

Find nice guy- that's one thing, but keeping him close is something completely different. Both the first and second are important steps. But now you have already found the man of your dreams, and you have started a serious relationship. You know for sure that this is “your one and only”, with whom you want to live until old age and die on the same day. So what does a girl need to do, or what mistakes should she not make, in order to finally hear the cherished “marry me” from Mr. Perfect? Is not comprehensive guide, but the following tips may help your relationship finally move on. new level.

1. Love yourself

First, think about whether you would like to marry yourself? If you are not happy with yourself, then you should not expect others to love you. Analyze yourself and change what you don't like. Positive self-esteem is key.

2. Communicate with your man as often as possible

From the very first date to last day in your life, the key to maintaining a relationship is communication. Always tell your man how you feel, both positive and negative. In response, listen carefully to his comments and criticism. If there comes a point in the relationship when you have nothing to talk about, you shouldn't try to take it to the next level. This is the alarm bell that speaks of serious problems.

3. Be natural

Despite the widespread promotion of glamor, silicone breasts, false eyelashes and nails, in fact, a man always values ​​​​more what is genuine. Be natural and don't try to impersonate someone else. After all, you want a man to marry you, and not an artificially created image. In addition, all the falsehood will still be revealed after marriage.

4. Be sexy

Sexuality is not the only thing in a relationship, but it is a very important one. Demonstrate to your chosen one in every possible way that you are interested in him as a man. Try not to be too prim and modest. Allow yourself to be free, cheerful and lively. Remember, men who want to get married are not just looking for a partner and a housewife.

5. Know your role

An important part of any relationship is for each partner to recognize that they play an important and irreplaceable role. Make sure that you and your chosen one have similar views on the relationship. If you are looking for someone to have children with, and the man is only looking for a casual relationship, you will not be able to force him to marry you by any means.

6. Be emotionally stable

Life with you doesn't have to be like a roller coaster. Men generally love stable and balanced women. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not insurmountable. If you refuse to be a drama queen or seek help, your nerves will relax and your emotions will subside.

7. Don't rush things

Men often hesitate to propose marriage because they want to get to know a woman completely before moving on to a more serious level of relationship. They shop around for a long time before they start dating, and they date for a long time before they get engaged. And this is a difficult but important lesson for all women. Make sure you are compatible with your partner on all levels. Pressuring a person to make a decision for which he is not yet ready will inevitably lead to the end of the relationship. Don't talk about marriage until your man is the first to start, and not earlier than a year after you met.

8. Make every date fun and enjoyable

Only if your dates are going well and your relationship is filled with positivity, will a man want you to be his girlfriend. And over time, he will see in you the person with whom he wants to spend his whole life. But if the dates are sluggish or too emotional, most likely the man will not think about buying a joint home with you, about children and a carefree old age.

9. Show confidence

Be confident and ready to solve all the problems that come your way. Many men love confident women. How can a man not feel like a winner if he has earned the respect of a woman who values ​​herself highly?

10. Be gentle, but with a twinkle in your eye

Scratches on the back, and then a soft kiss - this captivates any man. But know how to keep a balance so as not to look too provocative or annoying.

11. Appreciate your man's strengths

Tell your chosen one how much you appreciate him, because men are very proud creatures. Praise him when he is in his in better shape, and avoid nagging and criticizing when he fails.

12. Be funny

This is not the most important, but a decisive factor in any relationship. Have a sense of humor, joke, have fun and in every possible way avoid pessimistic thoughts and gloomy mood.

13. Be sincerely happy

Women who enjoy their lives and can enjoy every minute of it are always more attractive to men. Such girls, according to representatives of the stronger sex, give carefree relationships and easy marriage.

14. Shine

If your heart is filled with happiness, it is written on your face. Your feelings for your man should be reflected in the sparkle of your eyes. This is the “silver bullet” right to his heart.

15. Practice humility

A humble person is not one who humiliates his dignity; This is a person who is in complete control of himself and shows genuine interest in others. Men can date different women, but they prefer to marry humble girls.

16. Never stop going on dates.

This may sound strange, but you should go on dates with your man and discuss serious relationships until he proposes. The term "date" in modern culture has become vague and is sometimes regarded as something more than it actually is. Just continue to be interested in your loved ones all the time, learn more and more about their life, and talk. A man likes it when people show deep interest in him and see him, first of all, as a person.

17. Don’t try to force marriage into a relationship where it simply cannot exist.

Some men need a little more time to decide on marriage. If “the one” is near you, be prepared to wait (within reason). But if a man remains indifferent (or worse, makes excuses) even after a long time, you need to reconsider the direction of your relationship.

18. Give romantic surprises

Romance should not only come from a man. If you want pleasant surprises, start arranging them for your loved one. Be romantic. Make your man want to continue this relationship. Don't be stingy, because men love romance just as much as women.

19. Analyze relationships

Remember that some men are quite willing to date women they really like, but they do not see them as their future wives. If, after six months (up to a year) of a relationship, you have not heard your chosen one mention “marriage” and “family” in the list of his plans for the future, carefully analyze this relationship. If a man says you have qualities wonderful wife, take it as good sign. But if his compliments are largely related to sex, your relationship is doomed from the start.

20. Simplify the tone of your “serious conversations”

Instead of lashing out at your man with a serious tone (which will subconsciously turn him against any relationship or commitment), be optimistic and positive. Say, “I really enjoy spending time with you. I really feel happy next to you. But I just want to check in and see if we're on the same page. Although I know it's too early for our relationship, I want to get married in the future and for now I want to make sure that I'm dating someone who has the same values ​​as me. We already know each other quite well. Do you regard me as a girl with whom you could spend your whole life?

21. Show love

Strong relationships must be based on more serious feeling than normal convenience. A man will never propose to a woman if he is not sure that she loves him. To get through all of life's troubles requires very deep affection and gratitude for each other, which is simply impossible without love.

Let your relationship definitely end with the ringing of wedding bells!